for me, I had to figure out why I lost myself in the first place. I sacrificed myself in the name of love, sold my soul, if you will, and completely lost myself. Had to figure that out before I could find and reclaim me. Its been a journey, for me, I can tell you that. It was a journey I had to take all on my own, as well. Nobody could do it for me. I wish you the best of luck!