I always forgive but then I usually end up regretting it when the person hurts me again.
no it's not if the hurt was intentional . i despise the idea of forgive and forget . it is absurd and does nothing to address the problems of society. i will forgive someone for something that is a mistake but if you wrong me out of spite, ignorance or because that's how you are, forgiveness is the least of your worries.
I too despise the forgive and forget saying,it doesn't make me feel any better and my problems don't get solved.
Forgiving others is the right way to go on several levels. I say this as much from personal experience as well as from my place as a minister. I can remember when I was not so straight and narrow, when much of my influence was tempered by the world. I did things which I’m sure upset others and probably caused difficulty in their forgiving me. Now to be sure, there were instances when my actions were deliberate; at the time it was my intent to go against the grain and cause friction, even harm. My point is this, not every infraction is a mistake; we all do things that are not so wholesome, and we do them purposely. However, what does the intent have to do with the outcome? Bad is bad… that much doesn’t change. What can change is the way we handle what is bad, both in action and response. As already stated, bad is bad, and any bad action taken or bad response given will only further a bad situation. What needs to be understood in all of this is that so called culprit is only a part of the situation along with other parts. It’s the situation that must be addressed and corrected and not necessarily the condemning of the person. Every situation is only a moment in time, and over time people change. That guy or girl that you had a crush on back in school is now the most rotten person you know. On the other hand, the neighborhood bully has turned out to be the Pastor of the congregation. Forgiveness allows for growth of all parties and solutions that amend the situation that was bad. I ask you… have you ever done anything that you’re truly sorry for doing? Most often, bad actions or responses result when not enough information is supplied to a choice that’s good. If enough knowledge and information is supplied, then it’s the stubborn and foolish pride of individuals that causes the exclusion of good choices. This holds true in the act of forgiveness, as well as in those acts that need forgiving. People can learn to do better and usually do when given enough information and motivation. Refusing to forgive traps us inside a situation and isolated moment of time that in itself prevents progress. By far, learning to be forgiving is the start of real freedom.
We are told to keep forgiving which is correct, but there's another side of the equation: is the perpetrator going to change his ways?
There's no point in forgiving a person who's intent on being unrepentant. All people are subject to correction whether or not we like it because it helps us grow and develop good character.
It teaches us to be mindful of our neighbors and how our actions can impact other people.
If a person is truly sorry and makes an effort to change even if they slip now and then, it's important to forgive. Trials are hard.
If they make zero effort whatsoever and proudly proclaim their bad deeds and hurt someone, then it's only logical they receive serious punishment.
by Threekeys 2 years ago
Does forgiving mean you are then friendly towards that person or situation
by Joan Whetzel 5 years ago
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by Andrew0208 10 years ago
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by underhiswings 8 years ago
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by Dora Weithers 6 years ago
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