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Is love a must before you marry? Or adequate finances?

  1. whthadhappen profile image65
    whthadhappenposted 7 years ago

    Is love a must before you marry? Or adequate finances?

  2. point2make profile image82
    point2makeposted 7 years ago

    Do you really have any doubt?.....If you place "adequate finances" on the same level or higher that Love then why would you entertain the notion of marriage at all. Remember the vows...richer or poorer....sickness or health... you promise to love honor and cherish. No mention of finances.    Love or Finances.....I'd love to know which one you choose.

  3. Dovay Lee profile image34
    Dovay Leeposted 7 years ago

    I think it depends on what you think and what you purchase. Money is not everything but without money you can not live the the society for the competition is so enormous and the price of the commodities is so high. After all I think we should find the balance between money and love. i do think i found the balance in my life. My husband and i married and now we bought house and have a lovely daugher. at first we had nothing. just believe yourself and work hard.Cheers

  4. Lisa HW profile image74
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    I think love is a must - otherwise, don't bother getting married.  Everyone should find his own way to come up with "adequate finances", so s/he won't have to worry about finances; and money shouldn't even be a factor when it comes to marriage.

  5. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    Any relationship between two people is hard.  Different backgrounds, different opinions, likes, dislikes etc.  So yes, love is necessary to keep them together while they work on all the trivial stuff. 

    Adequate finances would make the entire process much easier.  I suppose struggling to make ends meet might bring some closer together--but I wouldn't want to do it again.

  6. ThunderKeys profile image65
    ThunderKeysposted 7 years ago

    One of the leading sources of marital distress leading to divorce is conflicted communication around finances.

    Many arranged marriages, based on ancient, cultural and spiritual wisdoms, build the most profound and loving emotional connections imaginable, without pre-marital love.

    I don't think it’s an either-or question to begin with.

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    ssaulposted 7 years ago

    Everyone has a different approach to getting married, in lots of countries people get married with it being arranged. So, there is no love before they marry, with some of those marriages people develop  love along the way and stayed married for a long time. Some marriages are of convenience, typical for finance reasons subtracting love, some last if the money is there and some doesn't.