Have you ever been in true love before? What did it feel like?

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   MissJamieDposted 12 years ago

   Have you ever been in true love before? What did it feel like?
   
   I was engaged for a couple of years until I was 20, we broke it off then I was married for 15 years. I never knew love until I met my current boyfriend. I have no idea what I was thinking with my past two relationships, there was no love there, just lust. Have you every truly been in love and how would you describe it? What were thing things that made you see what true love is?

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   I thought I was in love with my boyfriend from high school. I adored him and was devastated when we broke up. I met my husband a couple of months later and it was so different I was stunned.  We dated for 3 months then married.  And I have to tell you it was so fantastic, we both actually felt physically ill when it was time for him to go home (this was before the day of living together we were not sleeping together either).  It was like a physical pain when he left.
   
   I hear people say "so and so asked me to marry him and I am thinking about it." No! When you are in true love there is no thinking about it.  The world seems to exist only between you and you must be together.  It's really the coolest thing.
   
   Been married 42 years and I still feel the same way about him.

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      MissJamieDposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Adorable story, thanks for sharing. And congratulations for finding your true love, both of you:)

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   connorjposted 12 years ago

   
   
   I met my ain true love 36 years ago and although we are still together (and I think this is "key" to understanding what it truely feels like) if we were indeed separated it would be a significantly tangible sickness that would manifest.  I believe (although it may sound absurd to many) that when you are in this so called "true love" state to become separated will significantly physically and in a most negative way effect both parties. Little wonder that it is quite common for older couples to pass on so closely (in time) to each other.
   She is (quite simply) my world and I am hers (although I will admit she is the "Better Half."
   After we first met we both dated others; however, it was clearly evident that there was no comparison. We have become one and when we are separated (if only for a short term) our love grows significantly; yet only because of the certainty that we will soon be together again...
   If this hope was taken away, through death or some other unfortunate event, I wonder perhaps if it would be too painful to exist separated? Do you "see it" now?

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      MissJamieDposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I absolutely see where your love is. It's beautiful and it's exactly what I have right now, for the first time in my life. I commend you and congratulate you because so many people today don't fight for their love.

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   Andy McGuireposted 12 years ago

   Yes, once. At first it was silly, then it was sweaty and sticky, then it felt strange and alien, then it was painful, and then it was over.

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      MissJamieDposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Short, sweet, perfectly said. Sorry you've been hurt but you will prevail in love someday, if even just with yourself.

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   Reynold Adadeposted 12 years ago

   the true measure of how you feel when you love someone is not how you feel when they are  there but how much you feel their absence,when i fell in love it was like you could not make a single choice without the help of the person in general you made each others choices for one another because you always have the others best interest at heart,and when i lost her the world seemed a way lot harder to deal with because you tended to rely so heavily on the other person,this sometimes can be too much to handle

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      MissJamieDposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You're so right. It does hurt physically and emotionally to be apart from a person you truly love. I'd never known that until now. I'm sorry to anyone who's lost someone they love, but it was God's plan. I wish you a great future in love.

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   Stina Caxeposted 12 years ago

   It took me 6 years to get over my first true love and then I only accepted men into my life who I knew would never love me and I would never love them.  I loved being in love but didn't want to feel the pain of losing it ever again.
   I finally did fall in love again only to be hurt even more when it ended.  Now I can happily say that I have fallen in love with my best friend and hopefully this third time will be forever.

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      MissJamieDposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I know exactly what you mean. I did the same thing, found men that I knew would hurt me, so I could hurt them first without them caring. I didn't like feeling out of control with love so I chose not to.

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   Rayne123posted 12 years ago

   I think everyone has been in love at least once. Or think they have anyway.
   
   True love is different for everyone. Love is compassion, gentleness, kindness, respect, being there for each other. Being able to understand each others needs and wants.
   
   Giving compliments everyday, no matter what you go through. Writing little notes when they are off to work. Communication and truth are a big part of being in love. I had all this and then it went wrong.
   
   So what I am trying to say, love can be a beautiful thing and one hopes that it will work out and you keep working at it until it doesnt work anymore. WE dont go looking for something to happen, it just does.
   
   It is not a mistake in life it is a learning process that we are meant to go through on our journey. These are stepping blocks along our way. You say you had no idea what you were thinking with your past bf;s however if you did not experience them, you would of not been led to the one you are in love with now.
   
   With that said, whether we are in love or think its love at the time, it is a good experience for the ones we meet in our future. We have grown more and matured with each relationship, therefore we know to what point we do or do not want something to work.
   
   There are no mistakes in life only learning process to our destiny. We can look back and say what if, (I know I have) however even if we took another road rest assured we will end up to our destiny regardless.
   
   We can walk our steps but Gods plans will prevail. So you are where you are suppose to be and probably learned a lot from your past 2 relationships which took you into the one you are in now.
   
   have a good day
   Laurie

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      MissJamieDposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree with you more. I'm thankful for the past relationships I had because even though I carry some of the negative with me, it's more positive because I learned what my boundaries are.

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