Would you consider it "cheating"?

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  1. TinaTango profile image69
    TinaTangoposted 8 years ago

    Would you consider it "cheating"?

    if you are in a relationship with somebody, but you are in love with some one else?

  2. Vivian Gomez profile image61
    Vivian Gomezposted 8 years ago

    If you are in love with someone else, then why are you in a relationship with someone with whom you are not in love? That's pretty disrespectful to the person you are with, is it not? Flip it around. You're in a relationship with someone. You love that someone. You find out that someone is in love with someone else.

    How do you feel?

    There you go.

  3. Smartthinking profile image55
    Smartthinkingposted 8 years ago

    Yes it is cheting and must be discouraged.

  4. lindagoffigan profile image60
    lindagoffiganposted 8 years ago

    Cheating is an act rather than displaced feelings.  Therefore one who is in love with someone else is not cheating unless they act out the act of betrayal to the present partner whether they are in love with him or not.

  5. Borganator profile image59
    Borganatorposted 8 years ago

    yes, because if you are in love with someone else but already in a relationship then i say that it is time to end your relationship and go after the person that you are actually in love with

  6. wychic profile image88
    wychicposted 8 years ago

    I suppose that would depend on your personal definition of cheating. For me, that would be cheating, because one of the ways I define cheating is whether or not you could tell your partner about it, and whether or not they would feel betrayed by it. Other people may see it differently, but it sounds like a good recipe for a miserable existence for both people in that relationship to me.

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  7. profile image51
    Felicia.Hunter06posted 8 years ago

    The worst form of cheating is emotional...if you have such strong emotions for someone else...you should let the person you're with know and move on from them before you cause any more pain.

  8. lorddraven2000 profile image90
    lorddraven2000posted 8 years ago

    Maybe emotionally cheating. Not physically.

  9. atlovesbm profile image70
    atlovesbmposted 8 years ago

    Well, you'd be cheating emotionally and also lying to the person you're with.

  10. profile image0
    Kbraggposted 8 years ago

    Sometimes you just can't help how you feel. As long as you don't act on those feelings towards someone else, it's not cheating. However, you should really consider talking to the person you're currently in a relationship with and find out what you need to do. If you don't think it's working out, you should break off the relationship.

  11. dashingscorpio profile image84
    dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

    Yes! You're cheating yourself!
    Life is short! You have to go after what you want.
    If the person you want does not want you then you really have to let go of the romantic fantasy and accept it's OVER.
    An ex is an ex for a reason! (And it's usually a good reason)

    You're also cheating the person you are with out of being with someone who actually loves them!
    No one wants to be the "rebound" guy or girl, the person their mate has "settled" for. The person you would drop in a heartbeat if your ex came back into the picture. Sounds like you jumped into another relationship before you were ready.

    It's always best to either purge your feeliings for your ex or get to a place where you accept the past is dead and gone, and you are ready to move forward offering (your whole self) to a new person. To do otherwise is to cheat yourself and your new mate.

  12. mybabytia1 profile image60
    mybabytia1posted 8 years ago

    I would consider it cheating. You would've actually had to spend special time with this other person, sharing feelings, thoughts and doing things that couples would do in order for you to fall in love. A boundry has been crossed when that much time is spent with someone other than your partner.
    You are giving your most intimate self to someone else and then what is left for your partner? You are cheating them out of having all of you mind and soul.

  13. puddingicecream profile image69
    puddingicecreamposted 8 years ago

    It might not be explicitly considered "cheating" but it is a form of emotional cheating in which you are not true to your partner.

  14. emmanuellero profile image61
    emmanuelleroposted 7 years ago

    Falling in love only requires a pulse or a heartbeat - staying in love is what's harder and what matters. Don't fool yourself that you are in love - it's most likely (110%) only infatuation. If you don't think you love the person you're in a relationship with, break up and move on. But the same thing is going to happen with the "someone else" you will be with in the future. Love is a choice, it's commitment, it's not at all about the butterflies you feel when you seem him. Be careful because feelings can be very deceiving.


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