How can you deal with a spouse who thinks he is always right?

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   mariefromsfposted 13 years ago

   How can you deal with a spouse who thinks he is always right?
   
   Marriage involves great pain, and some joy, Mostly pain after the long term. Compromises must be made on a daily basis. Has it always been this way or I'm just starting to notice?  One of my biggest struggles is always being wrong.  On any issue. Even small insignificant things;This is getting ridiculous. Is it mostly men that must always be right or do men have this problem too?
   
   

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   Michaelmasposted 13 years ago

   Have you really talked to him about it? Try sitting him down and asking him. Use tact and don't blame or make inflammatory remarks. Keep things neutral and see if he can make some changes. It won't happen overnight, but if he loves you, he will make some changes.
   Some guys feel the need to be right and in-charge. I can't speculate too much, but if you talk to him then you might find out something interesting.
   Marriage counseling may be a great way to help since a counselor will be a mediator to promote healthy communication

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   Chouji-Von-Lycanposted 13 years ago

   you should really express your concerns to him, or, if your like me, prove them wrong then glout about it, lol, but, i did used to have the same problem with my ex, she always had to be right and i had to follow and to as i was told

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      ravinderkumarsharposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      the main problem lies with the people. if any one knows any one is wrong but do not say to him that he is wrong because he do not want to spoil his relation.it is with every one. so any one can not understand that he is wrong.

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   wychicposted 13 years ago

   Definitely talk to him about it -- and if you're wrong about that too, then there could be a serious issue. My ex was like that, he'd get offended if I offered advice or an opinion on even the most basic things. He felt that my offering help when he was obviously struggling was an attempt to make him feel stupid, and my opinions were always inferior to his even if he didn't know the subject and I did. Here are a few checks that I tried to apply whenever he got mad at me to try to determine whether I was inadvertently at fault or if he was just being unreasonable:
   
   http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Minimize … ur-Husband
   
   If none of this applies, then you may be more on the track for this one:
   
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   Vickie_sposted 13 years ago

   You don't have to agree with him, just tell him he is right and go on with what you were doing.  I love my husband and he thinks he's always right, I know better, but I just say Yes Dear, you were right, I feel so silly for not listening to you, then go on my way and generally do what I was going to do in the first place....
   This is not to say that he is always wrong either.. You have to weigh the situation and do what you think is right..  And if, when all is said and done he was right, it doesn't hurt to tell him so... Makes him feel important..

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   Cheeky Girlposted 13 years ago

   Alas, it sounds like you are discovering  another side to being in a long term relationship with someone who might be a wee bit selfish. I found myself in a relationship like that a long time back. I was unhappy with my mate so I began to agree with everything he suggested - just to prove what a tool he was - and he noticed immediately noticed, and was embarrassed by the sheer change of the dynamic in our relationship. Needless to say, I dumped him afterwards. But some people can be reasoned with. And the one's that will change for you are worth keeping.
   
   Just don't adopt their bad habits either.

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      ravinderkumarsharposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      logical and polite conversation tell us who is right. but any one divert the things in other way to prove that he is right. other one is right but can not get the support of others.so both think as are right but who will tell them who is right.

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   NorthEast Timberposted 13 years ago

   How sad.  I hope things are better for you.  Unfortunaltly I'm a firm believer in that we teach people how to treat us.
   
   I have told my girls from the time they were first married.  Don't put up with now what your not willing to put up with the rest of your life.
   
   Don't let someone mistreat you just to avoid an argument it will come back and haunt you and be harder to deal with if it's been accepted before.
   
   It's your life please don't squander it being "the good wife"

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