If this Guy wants me or if he is gonna break my heart again

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    summertimefunposted 7 years ago

    If this Guy wants me or if he is gonna break my heart again

    My first boyfriend and I reunited as friends after years, we at first slept together and than stopped for a year but started up again, he calls me every night and we talk for hours! He always tells me he does not want a girl friend but treats me like one, I am confused???

  2. Seeker7 profile image96
    Seeker7posted 7 years ago

    Hi Honey,

    No wonder you're confused! Basically my gut feeling is, is that this joker wants his cake and to eat it. Get the boundaries clear with him. If he wants you as a good friend, that's fine. But on the understanding that you are free to have an actual 'boyfriend'. I honestly wouldn't be having sex with him either as this will just confuse the whole issue even more. But I think he needs to do some thinking and find out exactly what it is he does want.

  3. J.S.Matthew profile image82
    J.S.Matthewposted 7 years ago

    As a thirty something male, I would say that he "Wants his cake and wants to eat it, too!"

    It sounds to me that he is afraid of commitment-and he probably feels like he doesn't have to commit; he's already getting everything that he wants! If he says that he doesn't want a girlfriend but he is treating you like one, well, one of you is definitely confused.

    I say, depending on your age (if you are ready to settle down into a relationship), tell him how you feel exactly and what you expect from him. If he responds shady or isn't sure, then maybe you should shut off the pleasure, cut contact and move on. It is apparent that "just friends" isn't going to work because you want more than that!

    JSMatthew

 
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