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Please help me....Confused reading a girl i reaally like

  1. profile image49
    28youandmeposted 7 years ago

    Hey I have a question I really like this girl and we have gone to the movies and had dinner a couple of times. We have texted eachother alot of times and have had deep convos about life and things. she has been heart broken in the past and is getting over being cheated on which was a year ago. so any how I finally told her I had feelings for her and she said she really wants to be my friend and she loves hanging out with me. I told her that if a real person comes aong I wouldnt turn my back on it. she said she is not emotionally or mentally ready. she is emotionally disconected. I told her if we ever had the potential in reaching the next step? if so i would wait, but if not i dont want to get hurt either. she said honestly, i wont be ready for a long time and by me waiting for her is not a good idea.
    her black berry messenger name she put up like 2 hours ago was cock blocked  and she had an angry face.

    the problem is we always talk and stuff and she was being totally honest in why she wants me as a friend.

    i dunno what to do please help


    very confused person.

    1. sofs profile image81
      sofsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Just wait..hang in there...she will come around ...looks like she is sorting out her feelings.  I 'll take a guess she will come around alright..send her some flowers to start with smile

      But this post needs to be in the Gender and relationship threads, so I am requesting that it be posted there.

      1. profile image49
        28youandmeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        ok thanks you so much

      2. profile image49
        28youandmeposted 7 years agoin reply to this


        1. sofs profile image81
          sofsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Don't post it again... don't reword it either........just click on more under your posting - click on report and select wrong forum category and write a note to the team...anyways I have sent a request.........but it is late at night and obviously the team will take their own time to do this... don't worry smile

  2. mdlawyer profile image38
    mdlawyerposted 7 years ago

    You can reword it as a different thread.

    1. profile image0
      Website Examinerposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Breaking the forum rules in the process.

  3. Mindtrapz profile image59
    Mindtrapzposted 7 years ago

    Personally I think that anytime a female uses the term "friend" that it is never a good thing. Hopefully you are okay with just being her friend. But i wil tell you from experience, even if she does have interest in you, now is not the right time to jump into a relationship with her.she has resentment towards guys most likely and everything you do is going to be prepared to the other guy that broke her heart. If she says that she is not emotionally ready then respect that and just be there for her as a friend. Also in my experience, and I doubt other people will agree with me, girls do not fall very hard for guys that are "there for them." Uusally that signals to a female that you are either desperate, or too easy to catch. Back off for a while, dont call her and see how long it is till she calls you, and if she does, make the conversation short and sweet and get off the phone. If she has any feeling for you she will call again if not only to ask why you are shunning her, then maybe that will open up the road to communication!.Then wait till she calls you again. Make her persue you!

    1. profile image49
      28youandmeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      thanks for the advice.

  4. Uninvited Writer profile image83
    Uninvited Writerposted 7 years ago

    Not to be harsh...but this forum is not Dear Abby. Even if it is put in the gender category.

  5. Lisa HW profile image72
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    Also not to be harsh, but I think the "not ready" thing either means she's not ready for another relationship, plain and simple; or else it could mean that she truly only wants to be friends with you, doesn't want to hurt your feelings, and has chosen this "somewhat legitimate" excuse as her way of letting you know she's only interested in being friends.  Either way, move on.  Guys have a way of thinking girls/women don't know want what they really want, or can't figure out which guy is right for for them, etc. etc.  Most do.  It's that simple.  Spare yourself a lot of useless wheel-spinning, and find someone who wants to be more than friends.   smile