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How long does it takes you to find your true love? What makes it diffrent?

  1. Dreatech profile image58
    Dreatechposted 7 years ago

    How long does it takes you to find your true love? What makes it diffrent?

    How many times do you make mistake; thinking that you 've found  your true love, before you finally meet your true lover, and What makes you think that it's diffrent?

  2. LeisureLife profile image71
    LeisureLifeposted 7 years ago

    Everyone has a different experience with love.  That is how it works. You will know when it happens.

  3. danelia profile image31
    daneliaposted 7 years ago

    No matter how long it takes, it matters how it happens,  Just wait to find your true love, you will get a better beautiful women. And realizing tat you have made a mistake is totally a shit.  If you heart says that if she is the one, just go for it. Understand each other.  Things will be happy smile

  4. ChristineVianello profile image60
    ChristineVianelloposted 7 years ago

    When I was 14 I fell in love with my now fiance. We have both made mistakes and learned from them. But we always stayed together.

  5. KateWest profile image78
    KateWestposted 7 years ago

    No idea. Still waiting. Thought I had it a few times but bad timing (and other things) ripped it apart. So maybe I was wrong?

  6. TheBlondie profile image60
    TheBlondieposted 7 years ago

    I heard that the average person falls in love seven times before they meet "the one". I think people mistake real love for just intense feelings, so often it isn't the real thing.

  7. TinaTango profile image67
    TinaTangoposted 7 years ago

    It didn't take me long...just one summer was all it took.

  8. Coach Julie profile image57
    Coach Julieposted 7 years ago

    I thought I was "in love" many times in my life.  What I came to realize was that most of the time I was "in infatuation".  Looking at those relationships I also saw where I went wrong.  I tried to make them something they weren't. 

    One day I met a man who I knew was the real deal.  After talking to him for about 15 minutes I knew he was the man I should have married.  It wasn't anything I can put a name on, it was just a knowing.  Unfortunately, we both were married to other people at the time so nothing ever came of it.  But I knew he was "the one". 

    What made it different? I could be myself with him.  At no time did I feel like I wasn't good enough or I had to hold back what I wanted to say.  I knew he saw me for who I was and accepted me just as I was.  We only spent a few hours together but that was the most amazing relationship of my life.  There was no inappropriate behavior given that we were both married but we both knew there was something special there. 

    I've come to learn since then that sometimes people are put into our lives to act as a catalyst.  He was my catalyst to move forward with my life and become who I am now. 

    My point in this long drawn out answer is when you meet the person you belong with you'll experience a knowing that you won't have to question.  Until then, enjoy being who you are and stop searching so hard for someone else to complete you. 

    You're perfect just the way you are.

  9. zduckman profile image61
    zduckmanposted 7 years ago

    Yes, I agree....there is no time clock, you will know when it happens. In my personal experience it has happened in weeks, and it has happened in months.

  10. Rooskaya profile image46
    Rooskayaposted 7 years ago

    It depends. Everybody does mistakes.Sometimes it takes a long time to find true love.

  11. thehemu profile image66
    thehemuposted 7 years ago

    it really depends on your fate, But sometimes we ignore someone who is in immense love with us and try to chase down somebody who does not even know.

    This only depends on you, to recognize your real love.

  12. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    The answer depends upon ourselves.
    We first must know what it is WE want in order to be able to recognize when we have found it.

    Another factor is we are constantly evolving as we mature. The perfect love at 18 may have been having someone who is beautiful/handsome with a great sense of humor. However at age 32 we might have added some additional requirements as to what constitutes our "true love". Until we have our “permanent list” of requirements our idea of what a “true love” is will continue to change. Therefore we’re likely to define “true love” based upon where we are in a particular phase of our lives. The most difficult part of relationships is in (selecting) the “right mate” for ourselves.

    Each of us Chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse. If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead, whose fault is that? Many of us will make a list of the traits we want or need in a mate and then we'll throw the list out of the window because we've found "chemistry" with someone. After we've invested time and emotion we come to realize they are not what we really want so we either try to "change them" or find a way to blame them for (the choice we made) when it does not work out.

    I believe we find our true love after we've done our share of introspective thinking to determine what type of mate we want for the long haul.
    The next step is to have the courage and patience to not deviate from "our list of requirements".
    The third step is put yourself in the shoes of the person you want to be with. (What type of occupation, hobbies, organizations, gyms, online dating, nightclubs, vacation destinations, restaurants...etc would he or she likely to be interested in)
    The fourth and final step after you have created your ideal "profile" is to BE THERE! Simply put, you have to be where "they" are, travel in the same types of circles.
    Opposites may attract for a short time. However Like attracts Like for a lifetime. Generally speaking water seeks it's own level.
    Ulitmately we are looking for someone who wants what we want out of life. When two people aren't on the same page a relationship is doomed.

  13. ikechiawazie profile image61
    ikechiawazieposted 7 years ago

    We are all different in nature so the experience of finding your true love cannot be the same. However what is important is being yourself and trying to make this work out. Who knows, you might find your true love

  14. Dreatech profile image58
    Dreatechposted 7 years ago

    Thank you all. Have certainly gain alot from you guys, that one person can't give to me. Luv ya all!

  15. Dee Deni profile image61
    Dee Deniposted 16 months ago

    There is someone for everyone and no guy or girl wants the experience of bumping jerks, players or sluts but fortunately not everyone finds their true lover straight away, it may take months or years but in the end there worth the wait, from my experience It took me 7years to find my love but little did I know he was in another country, the question of why it took so long is not the question that should be asked or even thought about, the real question would be, do you think you could make a relationship work? Or do you think you would make a good loyal girl friend or boy friend? And even, would you try do the best you can for each other?

    Remember that no relationship is easy and your love for one another is not to be left so easy either, because not everything last forever and it hurts to think your search for your love was over only to try find the confidence to try again, most feel too hurt to even bother but remember that you can't learn without making mistakes and no one is perfect.