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Is it okay for a married person to always be out at a nightclub with their singl

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dosborne08posted 7 years ago
Is it okay for a married person to always be out at a nightclub with their single friends?
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How?posted 7 years ago
No its not at all right... If the person will ALWAYS BE OUT at night clubs, then his marriage is certainly over. Going out sometimes is good though excess can be fatal for marriage.
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Daffy Duckposted 7 years ago
No. You have to spend time with your spouse taking them out. It is still ok to do it once in a while though.
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sylviastone29posted 7 years ago
Nope. There are so many irresistible lures at a nightclub, aren't they?
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nightwork4posted 7 years ago
i'm not sure if it is right or wrong but if your with someone, then why would you go to clubs all the time?i think that happy couples like to be around each other and a club isn't the place to go for happiness.
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dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago
There is no reason to be married and "always be out at a nightclub" with or without single friends.

It's like being on a diet and always hanging out at the bakery!
It's only a matter of time before temptation will creep in.
People really shouldn't get married if they are deterimined to keep one foot in singlehood. Below is a hub I wrote awhile back titled.
5 Reasons Why Men Should Not Get Married....
http://hubpages.com/hub/5-Reasons-Men-S … et-Married
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ThunderKeysposted 7 years ago
I agree with dashingscorpio, and the relationship research supports his view as well. 80% of married couples have sexual affairs in most cases, because they don't know how to:

1) Distinguish between short term payoffs (sex, emotional excitement etc) vs long term harmful consequences and lost benefits - harming their partner, family etc. Long term healthy marriage is protective spiritually, psychologically and physically (you live longer).

2) Identify high risk situations for emotional, leading to sexual affairs (usually at work, increasignly online)...and bring these immediately to the partner for joint problem solving...

3) Effectively setup boundaries and transparencies to protect their marriage and each other emotionally, as bonding events.

4) Effectively communicate and reciprocally meet core-relationship needs, whose chronic frustration increase the likelihood of transgressions, coercive communication and emotional shutting down/avoidance patterns in the marriage.

Yes, affair-proofing a marriage is very much like behavioral relapse prevention around unhealthy habits like over eating or drug abuse.

- Duddy.
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capncrunchposted 7 years ago
So much conditioning is being molded in our society. In just reading responses here I noticed that some feel it is ok sometimes but not all the time. I am certainly not the judge of matters but have noticed throughout the years how the perception of marriage has changed. It is no wonder why some pray all day long! Seriously, it doesn't matter if it is a club or any other place if it is done with the wrong intentions.

But clubbing all the time sounds like an escape although we really can't assume someone's intentions. There are even songs encouraging couples to get to know one another before marriage and of course, plenty of music encouraging promiscuity. The person clubbing will always have their excuses for why they do it; right, wrong, or indifferent.
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zob2zobposted 7 years ago
I think it would depend on the type of marriage you have.
I don't think it would work for many marriages, however that is not to say it might not work in another, & may I just say to all of those that talk about temptations, obviously you are thinking of them so how commited are any of you?
I suppose if both of the couples have a full filling life and they are able on both sides to not feel threatened by one of pair doing this then, lucky person, I think that there are alot of envious people reading this!!
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FranYoposted 7 years ago
An odd question, I think...

Is it "okay" with whom? The spouse? One would have to ask that person whether it's okay or not with them. Right?

It's true that some couples have open marriages, or marriages of convenience (tax purposes, raising a child purposes, military benefits, social security reasons). For this type of marriage, I'd imagine that, yes, it is okay for a partner to be out and still experiencing some of the single life.

For committed-to-each-other couples, though, it would seem to be odd to have one member of the couple "always out at a nightclub" with others. For that couple I'd have to wonder why the legal commitment in the first place? Why bother?
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Darknlovely3436posted 7 years ago
no it is not okay, for a married person to be out at a nightclub, with their single friends...... he/she should be at home with each other,

well it also depend on the indidivUALS
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Cloverleafposted 7 years ago
What a great question!

I guess when you say "is is ok?" it could be taken as meaning "is this ok by that married person's spouse", but also "is this ok by people looking in on the stuation".

For onlookers, this type of situation would usually seem odd. Why wouldn't the person want to spend time with their spouse? After all they got married to be together.

However, some couples do grow stronger by spending a little time apart. For that reason it could be argued that as long as it's ok by the spouse, then there's probably no reason for concern.
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RealHousewifeposted 7 years ago
Only if the married person in the clubs is planning on being a single person again soon.......
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BabyCheetahposted 6 years ago
I think once in a while is OK but if you are talking about every night then there is something wrong with that marriage and they need to talk it through
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