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Is there anything wrong if a man of 50 and a woman of 20 want to marry?

  1. mdlawyer profile image39
    mdlawyerposted 6 years ago

    Is there anything wrong if a man of 50 and a woman of 20 want to marry?

  2. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 6 years ago

    not really. if they are in love then that is what matters the most. plus who are we to judge who should and shouldn't be married. no marriage is guaranteed to work.

  3. DonDWest profile image60
    DonDWestposted 6 years ago

    People should have the freedom to marry who they choose.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    I don't believe most people list "age" as a reason to get married or not get married once they are of legal age to make their own choices. "Life is a personal journey".
    We don't get to pick the spouse of our loved ones in our society.

    Naturally most parents would not want their 20 year old to marry a 50 year for numerous reasons but I don't know if we can honestly say it's "wrong". There are no laws established to limit the age disparity for (two adults) to date or marry whomever they choose. From the stand point of "right or wrong" all we can do is state why it's wrong for (us) or why we wouldn't do it.

    The other thing is to point out possible challenges the couple may have to deal with which they may or may not have considered. (50 and 20 is a lot different from 80 and 50...etc)Having children who may or may not get to spend much time with the elder parent.

    We see people like Michael Douglas who is 25 years older than his wife Catherine Zeta Jones and they seem to be doing fine.
    On the other end we have Hugh Hefner who is 84 about to marry a woman who is 24.

    Does society view the age difference differently when the older person is a multi-millionaire or world famous???
    (Larry King, Clint Eastwood,Tony Randall...etc)
    It also happens the other way around Joan Collins is 32 years older than her husband Percy Gibson

    Obviously health issues could be a major concern as well as the younger person may be making a choice without the benefit of being mature. Thankfully divorce does exist for couples allowing them to walk away from marriage mistakes.

  5. nikki_m profile image84
    nikki_mposted 6 years ago

    "Age is just a 3 letter word."
    Coming from a relationship with an age gap (13 years, not as extreme as the example above, but a difference to people looking into the relationship from the outside) I find that age doesn't change the way people feel about each other deep down. Of course, there are worries. What would happen if they had children? What would happen if he got sick? Those same worries bother a lot of couples, however. At least they should.
    Overall, as long as both people know what they are getting into, and they are doing it for the right reasons (gold-digging is NOT a right reason), then there's nothing wrong with two human beings getting married.

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    aakash19posted 6 years ago

    If no tension in life then every one love life........

  7. arunii profile image60
    aruniiposted 6 years ago

    I think if they have good understanding then they can marry with each other !

  8. reg5566 profile image59
    reg5566posted 6 years ago

    It is looked down in our society but I don't think there is.Only it need to be true love ... They should not be doing it to fulfill there own wants and need. Like the man trying to relive his youth. Or the girl looking for a daddy figure because she lacked having one growing up. Too many times its mostly the guy who is thinking with the wrong head(if you know what I mean).
    Yes we all want to keep young, but we need to look reality in the face and act our age...
    So if it is for True Love then they will have the blessing of all there friends and family...

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    ExoticHippieQueenposted 6 years ago

    No, there's nothing wrong with it.  Just as long as you know that there are many differences that may affect the relationship.  Sexually, physically, and in differences of taste in music, food, lifestyle, friends, etc. These two different ages of people are at totally different places in their lives.

  10. Keith120 profile image58
    Keith120posted 6 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with that. My grandfather was 21 when my grandmother was born. Of course he was in his 40's and she in her 20's when they got married. They didn't stay together but it wasn't because of their age difference but some other issue that happens with couples whose age is the standard.

  11. Porshadoxus profile image77
    Porshadoxusposted 6 years ago

    Aside from cultural stigmas, I don't believe there is any real issue. As a friend of either person, I might caution against the 'dirty old man' or the 'gold-digger' woman, but in the end, it is each person's choice. If they can live with it, so can I.

  12. RishiKS profile image57
    RishiKSposted 6 years ago

    OMG..Just 5 days to Christmas!!!!! Can't wait to see my friends and relatives smilesmile

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    andrearussoat81posted 5 years ago

    Are you people serious .No there is nothing legally or morally wrong with this but if you are looking for lasting love move on.   No girl of 20 will stay for the long  haul with a man of 50. After you teach her everything an older man can teach a child and or she burns throught your money, she will be gone. But if you are looking for something to make you feel young and virile and you can think of this union in terms of months rather than years then I say congratulations. Be prepared for your friends being jealous, their wives  being angry and your children not talking to you. But hey what do I know,   How rich are you, Hugh Hefner rich, How famous are you,, George Cloony famous.. Hey you  never know