If you fell in love with someone 20 years elder than you, would you marry them?

1. 66

   Ultimate Hubberposted 12 years ago

   If you fell in love with someone 20 years elder than you, would you marry them?

   replyreport
2. 62

   freecampingaussieposted 12 years ago

   
   
   Yes , he is 19 years older , we have been married about 16 months & have a lot in common, traveling Aussie together . I wouldnt reccomend an 18 yr old doing it but as you get older the gap decreases AS LONG AS YOU HAVE THINGS IN COMMON  . I am 46 he is 64 soon. Both been married before.

   replyreport
   1. 62

      freecampingaussieposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      5 years later and we are in Spain after free camping around Europe and the UK. Amtrak across America, An Alaskan cruise etc! We have been married almost 7 years now and still very happy together! I am 51 now and Nev is almost 69. Amazing times!

      replyreport
3. 70

   MartieCoetserposted 12 years ago

   Of course I will! Love is blind and knows no boundaries.

   replyreport
   1. 60

      fpherj48posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      U.H. & Martie...I'll have 2 say that if I fell in love w/ a man 20 years older than I am at this time. He'd be much closer 2 being buried....not married.!!  Hugs, Paula

      replyreport
4. 89

   mcrawford76posted 12 years ago

   I say the heart wants what the heart wants. A true connection between two people is rare enough without giving it restrictions like age.

   replyreport
5. 63

   lukeukposted 12 years ago

   not a chance because they would die allot sooner

   replyreport
   1. 50

      chinnucjoyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      ryt

      replyreport
6. 60

   tnmomma10posted 12 years ago

   yes. love is love. not a number or a statistic. we can fall in love with any race, age, ethnicticity, etc.

   replyreport
7. 55

   girlfridayposted 12 years ago

   It depends on where both of you are on a maturity level, as well as what you both want during and  up to twenty years in the future. I agree that as you get older, the age gap closes in a bit. However both people will have to be willing to anticipate to some degree what factors in life will/would come into play in the future that may not be an issue at present. Getting along and having common interests is good for a relationship, but long term goals and visions have to be in accordance.

   replyreport
8. 71

   Neerizzleposted 12 years ago

   Love is love, if you love them enough then you just might. Marriage nowadays is really a formality anyway I find, you can love someone and live with them and such without having actually gotten married. For me personally marriage wouldn't be that much a thing regardless of age, but if it were to come to that I would.

   replyreport
9. 56

   shaneriveraposted 12 years ago

   no. I won't. I once fell inlove w/ a man 13 years older than me and I had to let him go. I just can't bear the thought of living after he dies. I know it sounds negative but that is the reality.

   replyreport
10. 58

    elliegouldingposted 12 years ago

    So if they loved me back then I guess I would just hang out with them. But 20 years is a big difference in age which does not really matter unless a teenager loves 35 year old! But to answer your question, yes I would marry them!

    replyreport
11. 62

    emadphotographyposted 12 years ago

    When people fall in love they don't care about the age. They love the person. So yeah i will marry.

    replyreport
12. 60

    Lazy Dayzposted 12 years ago

    I would have to say that there are two sides to this answer. I think that love knows no age, but at the same time you have to consider that there is a strong chance that you may out live this person by 20 years. When you are in your prime, they will be an old person. How will that effect you? That question you need to answer before you make a decision. My husbands mother married a man 21 years younger than her. She is 81 and he is 60... he left her for a younger woman a few years ago and left her elderly and alone. So I have mixed feelings on this.

    replyreport
    1. 82

       Glenn Coposted 7 years agoin reply to this

       That is precisely the situation that my wife and I are now in. After being married for 16 yrs., I am now 61, and less active than I was at 40, and my wife is now 38, and extremely active, to the point of climbing 6 Adirondak peaks in 4 days.

       replyreport
13. 61

    Jessica741posted 12 years ago

    It's very easy to find out....if you love him/her then of-course you should. Age doesn't really matter

    replyreport
14. 61

    OneFineG467posted 12 years ago

    If u r in prepared to live with someone 20 year older then go for that...as for me if i fell in love i would rather make a good friendship with them than getting tied up..

    replyreport
15. 61

    Devika12posted 12 years ago

    And why is getting married apparently the last option for loving couples? Does love go away if couples do not get married?
    
    Its a very choice whether you want to get married or not....age has got nothing to do with it.

    replyreport
16. 80

    sonfollowersposted 12 years ago

    I'm pretty sure I wouldn't do it.  I would rather find someone closer to my own age who gives me the best chance for a long relationship with them.  I don't believe I would ever fall in love with someone 20 years older than me anyway, so it doesn't really matter.

    replyreport
17. 60

    pajamazzonposted 12 years ago

    My boyfriend is 14 years older than me and i don't mind if i do marry him because we have the same wavelength in absolutely anything. Age is just a number, when you find someone you have in deep connection with,it doesn't matter. People die any age, young or old, its how we live our lives like we wanted it, enjoy love!

    replyreport
18. 75

    MisterCullenposted 12 years ago

    Yes I would marry someone who is 20 years my senior.  Sometimes love hits you in strange ways.  I have been in relationshipw with older woman and they have taught me alot about people and life.  Age really is just a number but also indicates life experiences.  These life experiences can be very beneficial in a marriage and can help keep a couple together.   They would still have to have their sexy on!

    replyreport
19. 91

    dredcuanposted 12 years ago

    Love conquers all as what they've said.  If you really love the person, marry him/her.  You don't need to listen what other people have to say, you just need to feel what your heart says.

    replyreport
20. 78

    Escobanaposted 12 years ago

    My sweetheart is 10 years younger and I would marry him if he'd ask me. I'm that kind of girl who still believes in marriage:-)
    
    If he would be 20 years older I don't even think I'll last a month since he would be 58 then! Not my thing at all. Tough chance if I would fall in love with someone that much older, depending ofcourse how rich he would be.(yeah that's a joke ofcourse)

    replyreport
21. 59

    Lovesloveposted 12 years ago

    If I loved someone older than myself or younger than myself the age difference would not matter ....

    replyreport
22. 61

    Smalltowngrl1375posted 12 years ago

    I think it depends on the age you are when you find this person. For example, I think it would be inappropriate for a 20 year old to marry a 40 year old, but a 40 year old and a 60 yr old seems a lot different. Personally I want someone that I can grow with, and experience big life moments with like buying a first house, marriage, kids, whereas an older person has already been through all of that.

    replyreport
    1. 56

       Anita Dobsonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       what if you do experience big life moments like marriage, kids, buying your first house together and one of you later on in life wants to go your  separate way, it happens all the time.

       replyreport
23. 0

    Del Sandeenposted 12 years ago

    Yes. I don't think age matters when it comes to consenting adults who actually have feelings for each other.

    replyreport
24. 60

    whiplashinfoposted 12 years ago

    Love knows no boundary, no limitations. In the name of love everything is possible and equal. Age doesn't. If I truly love the person, I will marry him regardless of his age. That's for sure.

    replyreport
    1. 56

       Anita Dobsonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       good answer totally agree with you!

       replyreport
25. 60

    rikabothraposted 12 years ago

    I would defnitely go ahead and marry him. I would have obviously fallen in love with him after knowing his age, and once you are in love, nothing else matters.

    replyreport
26. 0

    lostwithinmyselfposted 12 years ago

    Of course i would, Age does not matter. Its simply a number! x

    replyreport
27. 59

    nabeelplusposted 12 years ago

    ofcourse yes !!!if its a sincere relationship thn why not.once you are in love, nothing else matters

    replyreport
28. 56

    GabbyComrieposted 12 years ago

    if she is what my heart truly wants, then yes..

    replyreport
29. 59

    joannahudsonposted 12 years ago

    I believe love is blind and someone may think it can happen.
    But for me, i will not. No reason, just because I am realistic i cannot imagine how lonely i will be in the future. I cannot stand my lover left earlier before me.

    replyreport
30. 60

    lifeisabeachposted 12 years ago

    Perhaps the lust of the night would take over.. but marry? No.

    replyreport
31. 54

    manisha2877posted 12 years ago

    Love can happen at any stage of life to any one but at stage if you are already married you have some limitations so you cannot marry but love is a free bird the age factor does not matter neither the marriage factor

    replyreport
32. 62

    melodytsposted 12 years ago

    Yes  I will. Love is unconditional and no boundaries. Age doesn't matter too. If you love each other I believe everything will go smoothly.

    replyreport
33. 60

    kamimiposted 12 years ago

    Sure. If that's what we both want. The only problem is neither of my parents would be too happy about my dating someone older than they are.

    replyreport
34. 59

    Lisa4posted 12 years ago

    YES! of couse I would! I believe age is a number... as long as both parties are consulting adults of course.

    replyreport
35. 0

    Princess Pittposted 12 years ago

    What? i thought 10 is old?
    i have actually fallen in love with someone 7 years older than me...
    and its complicated!

    replyreport
36. 0

    sealord00231posted 12 years ago

    If i should have any reason to fall in love with any woman who is older than me, i will also have the same reason to marry her if she believe in me.

    replyreport
37. 0

    Saugasfinestposted 12 years ago

    Probably not.... Seems like a significant gap in age.
    
    I mean, its not unheard of. Nowadays happiness is hard to find so if you truly thought that you found it in that special someone else, then go for it.
    
    People will look at you strangely and you just have to be open and willing to deal face the constant attention that may come with it wherever you go.
    
    You simply have to ask yourself, do others dictate what makes you happy or do YOU dictate what makes you happy.
    
    Outside of someone under the age of 19 whether boy or girl, i never understood why there was so much of a stigma attached to age differences. I thought being an adult and making decisions for yourself would not be looked at differently by society but thats not true at all.
    
    Every day someone else decides what we "should" be doing or how we "should" do it or when we can do it or why we must do it.
    
    I personally probably wouldnt be attracted to someone older than myself by 20 years, but i don't think there would be anything wrong with it if i was.

    replyreport
38. 60

    livingbyfaithposted 12 years ago

    Absolutely not ... that person would be old enough to be my parent. I don't think it would be love. I think it would be more of an infactuation. I would get my head examined.

    replyreport
    1. 53

       williiamwilliamposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       yes you need to get your head examined don,t judge if  they  love each other GOD will honor no matter what GOD is LOVE

       replyreport
    2. 80

       wychicposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Hehehe...my husband is four years older than my parents. Three kids and five years later, it sure seems to be holding strong better than any infatuation I've ever known. To each their own .

       replyreport
39. 61

    ShaneMorrisposted 12 years ago

    I can't say that I can always predict the future or know the actions I will or will not make. With that statement presented, at least as of this current moment - only if it was Marisa Tomei.

    replyreport
40. 59

    Joyful Readposted 12 years ago

    Love is eternal. You can be with your loved ones forever and that is a lot longer than a measly 20 years. However, I believe that a truly important part of marriage is to have a family - as long as the age difference still allows for that, I say it is 100% okay! By the way, my hubby is 11 years older than me and we welcomed our first little baby into the world 3 months ago.

    replyreport
41. 68

    onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

    At this point in life, with many life lessons behind me.........
    
    I could " love" someone without marriage ( lifetime committment)..........I would now like to rid myself of committment and promises.
    
    
    Age has NOTHING to do with it...........wisdom and self reliance, self confidence does.
    
    At 20.............who remembers such things?

    replyreport
42. 61

    lifechangercfposted 12 years ago

    I am not sure although I was almost married to a guy who was 9years younger than I was, but then again why put limits on you life? Love overcomes all things and age is one of them

    replyreport
43. 57

    Ancient Aviatorposted 12 years ago

    Yes my wife did and married me 31 years ago .It has worked out fine . No regrets .

    replyreport
44. 67

    cre8ivOneposted 12 years ago

    I think that love has no age limit, while I think there would be some obstacles to overcome, love, is after all, love and age should not be a restriction.

    replyreport
45. 55

    nscnikhilposted 12 years ago

    love has no age it just happens so why don't we marry someone who we love.

    replyreport
46. 0

    lcbenefieldposted 12 years ago

    Yes, I would.  My husband is actually twelve years older than me but I still would have married him had he been twenty years older than me.  Age is a number that a lot of people put too much emphasis on.  I know that he more than likely will die before me.  But I choose to treasure my marriage to him and our time together as a couple rather than focus on when I will be a widow.  He loves me like I have never been loved before by any other man.  I love him more than anyone I have ever loved.  I know that we were made to be the other's spouse.  For us, the age difference is not a problem.

    replyreport
47. 60

    laureno123posted 12 years ago

    NOT LIKELY... I WOULDN'T EVEN DO IT FOR MONEY. I WANT THE LOVE IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

    replyreport
48. 61

    oldcoincollectorposted 12 years ago

    Well someone 20 years younger than me fell in love with me and we got married - that was over 5 years ago

    replyreport
49. 45

    woodamarcposted 12 years ago

    I think it depends on the individual. If it feels right, it's an individual preference.  However, at some point the energy levels will shift... One may still be in party mode and the other in early to bed mode.  This may create friction in the relationship which one should be aware and not surprised as the years pass.

    replyreport
50. 72

    Kamalesh050posted 12 years ago

    Yes of course I will. I don't think age matters.

    replyreport