If you fell in love with someone 20 years elder than you, would you marry them?

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  1. Ultimate Hubber profile image66
    Ultimate Hubberposted 12 years ago

    If you fell in love with someone 20 years elder than you, would you marry them?

  2. freecampingaussie profile image62
    freecampingaussieposted 12 years ago


    Yes , he is 19 years older , we have been married about 16 months & have a lot in common, traveling Aussie together . I wouldnt reccomend an 18 yr old doing it but as you get older the gap decreases AS LONG AS YOU HAVE THINGS IN COMMON  . I am 46 he is 64 soon. Both been married before.

    1. freecampingaussie profile image62
      freecampingaussieposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      5 years later and we are in Spain after free camping around Europe and the UK. Amtrak across America, An Alaskan cruise etc! We have been married almost 7 years now and still very happy together! I am 51 now and Nev is almost 69. Amazing times!

  3. MartieCoetser profile image70
    MartieCoetserposted 12 years ago

    Of course I will! Love is blind and knows no boundaries.

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      U.H. & Martie...I'll have 2 say that if I fell in love w/ a man 20 years older than I am at this time. He'd be much closer 2 being buried....not married.!!  Hugs, Paula

  4. mcrawford76 profile image89
    mcrawford76posted 12 years ago

    I say the heart wants what the heart wants. A true connection between two people is rare enough without giving it restrictions like age.

  5. lukeuk profile image63
    lukeukposted 12 years ago

    not a chance because they would die allot sooner

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      chinnucjoyposted 10 years agoin reply to this


  6. tnmomma10 profile image60
    tnmomma10posted 12 years ago

    yes. love is love. not a number or a statistic. we can fall in love with any race, age, ethnicticity, etc.

  7. girlfriday profile image55
    girlfridayposted 12 years ago

    It depends on where both of you are on a maturity level, as well as what you both want during and  up to twenty years in the future. I agree that as you get older, the age gap closes in a bit. However both people will have to be willing to anticipate to some degree what factors in life will/would come into play in the future that may not be an issue at present. Getting along and having common interests is good for a relationship, but long term goals and visions have to be in accordance.

  8. Neerizzle profile image71
    Neerizzleposted 12 years ago

    Love is love, if you love them enough then you just might. Marriage nowadays is really a formality anyway I find, you can love someone and live with them and such without having actually gotten married. For me personally marriage wouldn't be that much a thing regardless of age, but if it were to come to that I would.

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    shaneriveraposted 12 years ago

    no. I won't. I once fell inlove w/ a man 13 years older than me and I had to let him go. I just can't bear the thought of living after he dies. I know it sounds negative but that is the reality.

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    elliegouldingposted 12 years ago

    So if they loved me back then I guess I would just hang out with them. But 20 years is a big difference in age which does not really matter unless a teenager loves 35 year old! But to answer your question, yes I would marry them!

  11. emadphotography profile image62
    emadphotographyposted 12 years ago

    When people fall in love they don't care about the age. They love the person. So yeah i will marry. smile

  12. Lazy Dayz profile image60
    Lazy Dayzposted 12 years ago

    I would have to say that there are two sides to this answer. I think that love knows no age, but at the same time you have to consider that there is a strong chance that you may out live this person by 20 years. When you are in your prime, they will be an old person. How will that effect you? That question you need to answer before you make a decision. My husbands mother married a man 21 years younger than her. She is 81 and he is 60... he left her for a younger woman a few years ago and left her elderly and alone. So I have mixed feelings on this.

    1. Glenn Co profile image82
      Glenn Coposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      That is precisely the situation that my wife and I are now in. After being married for 16 yrs., I am now 61, and less active than I was at 40, and my wife is now 38, and extremely active, to the point of climbing 6 Adirondak peaks in 4 days.

  13. Jessica741 profile image61
    Jessica741posted 12 years ago

    It's very easy to find out....if you love him/her then of-course you should. Age doesn't really matter

  14. OneFineG467 profile image61
    OneFineG467posted 12 years ago

    If u r in prepared to live with someone 20 year older then go for that...as for me if i fell in love i would rather make a good friendship with them than getting tied up..

  15. Devika12 profile image61
    Devika12posted 12 years ago

    And why is getting married apparently the last option for loving couples? Does love go away if couples do not get married?

    Its a very choice whether you want to get married or not....age has got nothing to do with it.

  16. sonfollowers profile image80
    sonfollowersposted 12 years ago

    I'm pretty sure I wouldn't do it.  I would rather find someone closer to my own age who gives me the best chance for a long relationship with them.  I don't believe I would ever fall in love with someone 20 years older than me anyway, so it doesn't really matter.

  17. pajamazzon profile image60
    pajamazzonposted 12 years ago

    My boyfriend is 14 years older than me and i don't mind if i do marry him because we have the same wavelength in absolutely anything. Age is just a number, when you find someone you have in deep connection with,it doesn't matter. People die any age, young or old, its how we live our lives like we wanted it, enjoy love!

  18. MisterCullen profile image75
    MisterCullenposted 12 years ago

    Yes I would marry someone who is 20 years my senior.  Sometimes love hits you in strange ways.  I have been in relationshipw with older woman and they have taught me alot about people and life.  Age really is just a number but also indicates life experiences.  These life experiences can be very beneficial in a marriage and can help keep a couple together.   They would still have to have their sexy on!

  19. dredcuan profile image91
    dredcuanposted 12 years ago

    Love conquers all as what they've said.  If you really love the person, marry him/her.  You don't need to listen what other people have to say, you just need to feel what your heart says.

  20. Escobana profile image78
    Escobanaposted 12 years ago

    My sweetheart is 10 years younger and I would marry him if he'd ask me. I'm that kind of girl who still believes in marriage:-)

    If he would be 20 years older I don't even think I'll last a month since he would be 58 then! Not my thing at all. Tough chance if I would fall in love with someone that much older, depending ofcourse how rich he would be.(yeah that's a joke ofcourse)

  21. Loveslove profile image59
    Lovesloveposted 12 years ago

    If I loved someone older than myself or younger than myself the age difference would not matter ....

  22. Smalltowngrl1375 profile image61
    Smalltowngrl1375posted 12 years ago

    I think it depends on the age you are when you find this person. For example, I think it would be inappropriate for a 20 year old to marry a 40 year old, but a 40 year old and a 60 yr old seems a lot different. Personally I want someone that I can grow with, and experience big life moments with like buying a first house, marriage, kids, whereas an older person has already been through all of that.

    1. Anita Dobson profile image56
      Anita Dobsonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      what if you do experience big life moments like marriage, kids, buying your first house together and one of you later on in life wants to go your  separate way, it happens all the time.

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    Del Sandeenposted 12 years ago

    Yes. I don't think age matters when it comes to consenting adults who actually have feelings for each other.

  24. whiplashinfo profile image60
    whiplashinfoposted 12 years ago

    Love knows no boundary, no limitations. In the name of love everything is possible and equal. Age doesn't. If I truly love the person, I will marry him regardless of his age. That's for sure.

    1. Anita Dobson profile image56
      Anita Dobsonposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      good answer totally agree with you!

  25. rikabothra profile image60
    rikabothraposted 12 years ago

    I would defnitely go ahead and marry him. I would have obviously fallen in love with him after knowing his age, and once you are in love, nothing else matters.

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    lostwithinmyselfposted 12 years ago

    Of course i would, Age does not matter. Its simply a number! x

  27. nabeelplus profile image59
    nabeelplusposted 12 years ago

    ofcourse yes !!!if its a sincere relationship thn why not.once you are in love, nothing else matters

  28. GabbyComrie profile image56
    GabbyComrieposted 12 years ago

    if she is what my heart truly wants, then yes..

  29. joannahudson profile image59
    joannahudsonposted 12 years ago

    I believe love is blind and someone may think it can happen.
    But for me, i will not. No reason, just because I am realistic i cannot imagine how lonely i will be in the future. I cannot stand my lover left earlier before me.

  30. lifeisabeach profile image60
    lifeisabeachposted 12 years ago

    Perhaps the lust of the night would take over.. but marry? No.

  31. manisha2877 profile image54
    manisha2877posted 12 years ago

    Love can happen at any stage of life to any one but at stage if you are already married you have some limitations so you cannot marry but love is a free bird the age factor does not matter neither the marriage factor

  32. melodyts profile image62
    melodytsposted 12 years ago

    Yes  I will. Love is unconditional and no boundaries. Age doesn't matter too. If you love each other I believe everything will go smoothly.

  33. kamimi profile image60
    kamimiposted 12 years ago

    Sure. If that's what we both want. The only problem is neither of my parents would be too happy about my dating someone older than they are.

  34. Lisa4 profile image59
    Lisa4posted 12 years ago

    YES! of couse I would! I believe age is a number... as long as both parties are consulting adults of course.

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    Princess Pittposted 12 years ago

    What? i thought 10 is old?
    i have actually fallen in love with someone 7 years older than me...
    and its complicated!

  36. profile image0
    sealord00231posted 12 years ago

    If i should have any reason to fall in love with any woman who is older than me, i will also have the same reason to marry her if she believe in me.

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    Saugasfinestposted 12 years ago

    Probably not.... Seems like a significant gap in age.

    I mean, its not unheard of. Nowadays happiness is hard to find so if you truly thought that you found it in that special someone else, then go for it.

    People will look at you strangely and you just have to be open and willing to deal face the constant attention that may come with it wherever you go.

    You simply have to ask yourself, do others dictate what makes you happy or do YOU dictate what makes you happy.

    Outside of someone under the age of 19 whether boy or girl, i never understood why there was so much of a stigma attached to age differences. I thought being an adult and making decisions for yourself would not be looked at differently by society but thats not true at all.

    Every day someone else decides what we "should" be doing or how we "should" do it or when we can do it or why we must do it.

    I personally probably wouldnt be attracted to someone older than myself by 20 years, but i don't think there would be anything wrong with it if i was.

  38. livingbyfaith profile image60
    livingbyfaithposted 12 years ago

    Absolutely not ... that person would be old enough to be my parent. I don't think it would be love. I think it would be more of an infactuation. I would get my head examined.

    1. profile image53
      williiamwilliamposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      yes you need to get your head examined don,t judge if  they  love each other GOD will honor no matter what GOD is LOVE

    2. wychic profile image80
      wychicposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Hehehe...my husband is four years older than my parents. Three kids and five years later, it sure seems to be holding strong better than any infatuation I've ever known. To each their own smile.

  39. ShaneMorris profile image61
    ShaneMorrisposted 12 years ago

    I can't say that I can always predict the future or know the actions I will or will not make. With that statement presented, at least as of this current moment - only if it was Marisa Tomei.

  40. Joyful Read profile image59
    Joyful Readposted 12 years ago

    Love is eternal. You can be with your loved ones forever and that is a lot longer than a measly 20 years. However, I believe that a truly important part of marriage is to have a family - as long as the age difference still allows for that, I say it is 100% okay! By the way, my hubby is 11 years older than me and we welcomed our first little baby into the world 3 months ago. smile

  41. onegoodwoman profile image68
    onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

    At this point in life, with many life lessons behind me.........

    I could " love" someone without marriage ( lifetime committment)..........I would now like to rid myself of committment and promises.

    Age has NOTHING to do with it...........wisdom and self reliance, self confidence does.

    At 20.............who remembers such things?

  42. lifechangercf profile image61
    lifechangercfposted 12 years ago

    I am not sure although I was almost married to a guy who was 9years younger than I was, but then again why put limits on you life? Love overcomes all things and age is one of them

  43. profile image57
    Ancient Aviatorposted 12 years ago

    Yes my wife did and married me 31 years ago .It has worked out fine . No regrets .

  44. cre8ivOne profile image67
    cre8ivOneposted 12 years ago

    I think that love has no age limit, while I think there would be some obstacles to overcome, love, is after all, love and age should not be a restriction.

  45. nscnikhil profile image55
    nscnikhilposted 12 years ago

    love has no age it just happens so why don't we marry someone who we love.

  46. profile image0
    lcbenefieldposted 12 years ago

    Yes, I would.  My husband is actually twelve years older than me but I still would have married him had he been twenty years older than me.  Age is a number that a lot of people put too much emphasis on.  I know that he more than likely will die before me.  But I choose to treasure my marriage to him and our time together as a couple rather than focus on when I will be a widow.  He loves me like I have never been loved before by any other man.  I love him more than anyone I have ever loved.  I know that we were made to be the other's spouse.  For us, the age difference is not a problem.

  47. laureno123 profile image60
    laureno123posted 12 years ago


  48. oldcoincollector profile image61
    oldcoincollectorposted 12 years ago

    Well someone 20 years younger than me fell in love with me and we got married - that was over 5 years ago

  49. woodamarc profile image45
    woodamarcposted 12 years ago

    I think it depends on the individual. If it feels right, it's an individual preference.  However, at some point the energy levels will shift... One may still be in party mode and the other in early to bed mode.  This may create friction in the relationship which one should be aware and not surprised as the years pass.

  50. Kamalesh050 profile image72
    Kamalesh050posted 12 years ago

    Yes of course I will. I don't think age matters.


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