Which is worse...to be alone or in the comfort of a man that is emotionally unavailable?
There is little difference between the two. In either case, you are not connected with someone. Your needs are not being met. With one you have hope, although misplaced, it is hope, while being alone, there is no interaction. Is it better to believe the illusion or face the reality of what is going on? I think it is better to face the reality, because then you can be honest with yourself, your feelings and your situation.
I would much rather be alone. Atleast when you are alone you know that you are alone and you are not always wishing for the miracle that will transform the emotionallly unavailable man into one that can be there for you in every sense of the word.
I agree with J D Murrah, it's the same thing, but one feels better than the other. Depending on how well you can deal with pain will usually predict the position you take. Yes being alone and being with a man that is emotionally unavailable is the same thing, one makes you feel a lot worse than the other. No matter how distant the man is it cannot compare to the feeling of being alone. In other words though...this situation is a catch 22. There's no correct solution.
...theres a huge difference between being alone and 'lonely'.... one can be alone and content.... yet you can be with that e.u. man and feel totally lonely.
Guess which one feels worse
Your cybersister is right that its better to be alone instead of waiting for a miracle..
It's not about the situation so much as it is about the person doing what THEY want.
Being alone or having a "friends with benefits" relationship are both "choices" of the individual. You are responsible for your own happiness. "When we change, our circumstances change."
If you are not doing what YOU want to do then you are living your life as a spectator. It's your life, take the wheel!
"The world may not owe you anything but YOU owe yourself the world!"
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