How to show you can live without him/her

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  1. bluegreengirl profile image58
    bluegreengirlposted 11 years ago

    How to show you can live without him/her

    I have a 3yr relationship now.. and I'm so much inlove! The thing is, I made her my world. I always want to be with her, (whenever were apart) -- I want to know her whereabouts -updates, I always check her inbox to I even check her Facebook accts to see, whats goin.. (you see, im this paranoid, eversince she cheated on me and upuntlil this feeling kills me) *creepy* I want change! I want to loosen up things, this causes fights most of the time, she told me to love myself first and let her feel I can live w/o her.. she's falling out of love because of this. (sadness, pls help!)

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    dixie28714posted 11 years ago

    sad thing is, most people don't want it till its gone... If she has cheated before and you forgave her it sounds to me she is the one with the problem not you. Love is a two way street, you forgave the cheating she should be the one worried about you falling out of love, not her!! People treat you the way you allow them to, I would say honey I have standards and your not meeting them, walk away, put the ball in her court and see what she does.  In the long run she will either get her ducks in a row or you can move on, life is too short to be with someone who has no clue what they want.
    Good Luck!!

  3. Jeff Berndt profile image76
    Jeff Berndtposted 11 years ago

    The best and only way to demonstrate that you can live without him/her is to live without him/her.

    Try it.

    Also, your post sounds like you're on the verge of becoming a stalker. It's good that you recognize the creepy factor. Perhaps you might try talking to someone--your parents, a counselor at school, a minister, some adult that you can trust?

  4. BizGenGirl profile image89
    BizGenGirlposted 11 years ago

    You can't just "show" a person you can live without them. It can't just be done for them. You have to actually live without them, and then let your significant other decide if your worth coming back to. If you do it just to win their heart, you'll lose her. She's right, learn to love yourself and stop smothering her.

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    rorshak sobchakposted 11 years ago

    It is important to have trust in a relationship. This is something you should try to work on your relationship will be a lot better.

    rorshak sobchak

  6. goddess888 profile image34
    goddess888posted 11 years ago

    Trust from both parties is very important. If there is something bothering you then it is best to talk about it so that you can resolve whatever issue you have. The thing you did - well - that is not really what a relationship should be. If you cannot trust your partner, better not have one.

    Both of you need a breather. You need to accept yourself first and that everyone deserves a second chance. When you love someone, always save some love for yourself because when everything is a mess, love for yourself will save you from doing self depreciating things.

    Healing will take some time. You need to accept the fact that you cannot make someone your whole world. Do something because you want to do it for yourself and not because you are doing it for someone else. For once, be selfish and think about yourself only.

    You lived a part of your life without your girlfriend You surely can do it again.


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