How do you cope with shallow people in your life?

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   IsaBbottposted 13 years ago

   How do you cope with shallow people in your life?
   
   Many people I've met recently seem completely self absorbed and could care less about anyone who isn't going to indulge them when they ask a meaningless question. How do you continue a dying conversation with someone like this?
   
   

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   Ella Robinsonposted 13 years ago

   very good question, i myself would like to know the answer to this one.

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   Mr-Yo LVposted 13 years ago

   These people don't deserve a second of my time.  I'd either give them their own treatment or just talk to other people that aren't full of themselves.

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   The Power Gliderposted 13 years ago

   I'd say that there's no reason to continue an already dying conversation with such a person.  There are already too many things to enjoy in life to spend an extended time with such a self absorbed individual.  Now, I'm not saying you ought to shun them outright, but be selective about the time you spend with them.  They've probably not always been so self absorbed, and likely they will snap out of it at some point.  It would be good for them to have a friend at that time.

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   hotwebideasposted 13 years ago

   Hey IsaBbott, first of all. I love your teal lips. LOL, so I had to follow you. I look forward to great hubs from you as well as your next shade of lipstick.
   
   I deal with dying shallow conversations every day with those type of self-absorbed people. 
   
   Try these tactics:
   
   1. "Hey, it was nice speaking with you, but I have a phone conference scheduled for XX:XX and I need to prepare" - The XX:XX is usually within 15 minutes of the present time you are speaking to this person, so if it is 9:02, tell the person you have a phone conference for 9:15 and have to prepare. I use this a lot.
   
   2. Flip the conversation and freak the crap out of the self-absorbed person and say "Wow, that's nice. I am very interested, but only have time to ask you one more question and then I have to go. " Then ask your question and tell that person that you are leaving in 60 seconds.
   
   I hope this insight helps...
   
   Bruce

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   Dee aka Nonnaposted 13 years ago

   I accept them for who they are....I don't judge them....but I don't have to talk or otherwise deal with them.

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   IsaBbottposted 13 years ago

   Thank you, hotwebideas. I was trying to go for "shallow" but it just came off "funky".
   Great suggestions (from everyone!) The general consensus being there's no point trying to revive a dead conversation from someone you want to kill anyway. I should stop trying so hard then.

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   onegoodwomanposted 13 years ago

   'shallow people', while I sometimes encounter them and must face them head on.....................are a small challenge to me.  If you do not know.......then ask........I will answer 2 or 3 times.......but there comes a time, when your understanding is expected to kick in.
   
   I destest rudeness, but, I detest waste even more.  Be it of time, or talent.  They simply, are not 'allowed' to take up my time.  I must move on, whether or not, you can keep up.
   
   This is not meant to prejudge, I have a low tolerance for that, but either you are helping me or hindering me.
   
   MY assignment is to manage.........time, talent, contribution.   There is no room for personal drama.

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   reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

   Why would you even want to......haven't they given enough signs. I can't believe that they have become that important to you that you will try to tolerate or fix their shallowness

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    MarleneBposted 12 years ago

    I don't! I don't cope with shallow people and I don't have them in my life. It's the people who indulge them that give them their existence. If enough people stop catering to them they might wise up and take heed to who they are. I just don't have the need to be involved with people who are shallow.

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