How would you feel if your hubby keeps your step daughter's picture in his walle

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   titobayposted 14 years ago

   How would you feel if your hubby keeps your step daughter's picture in his wallet instead of yours?
   
   Each time you open your husband's wallet, you find your married step daughter's face starring at you. Do you ever wonder if he thinks of you while away from home?

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   Mighty Momposted 14 years ago

   I guess my first question is what in the heck are you doing opening your husband's wallet?
   My husband keeps picks of his cats in his. I don't think he has a picture of me. Doesn't mean he doesn't love me.
   
   It sounds like your husband loves his daughter very much.
   Why are you so jealous???

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   Sapphireidposted 14 years ago

   Hello there Titobay,
   
   I'm wondering what's behind your inquiry? What's pondering your mind to taunt you with this question? It's as if there's an implication. If your husband, who happens to be your daughters stepfather, keeps a photo of your daughter in his wallet, it's because many parents like to keep pictures of their children in their wallets. It use to be a 'Known thing,' but as time goes by, many things of old have gone and passed.
   
   Should there have been anything unethical and immoral that went on to have you even ponder a moment of his parenting performance while your daughter was in the home as a minor, your need to make the moves required of a fully focused, God-fearing and integrity filled mother have passed, for that moment in time. In addition, there might be consequences that can be implemented to this very day, if so.
   
   In closing, it's a wonder that you open your husband's wallet (repeatedly), as though there has been a breach in trust and boundaries. No idea if this question is regarding you personally or if it is a hypothetical scenario. Either way, the response I have shared above applies to both.
   
   Best Regards,
   
   Sapphireid

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   laidbackladyposted 14 years ago

   Ok, titobay, lets look at this.
   
   Is she your husband's daughter from another relationship?  I would assume so, since you are her step-mother, thereby making him her biological father.  If he loves her and is proud of her, his carrying her picture would seem completely within the scope of normal.  The question is--Why should this be a concern to you personally?
   
   My husband no longer carries a wallet, though when he did there was never a picture of me in it.  He had pictures of our two kids at various ages.  And I only remember that because often times he would have me retrieve something from his wallet that he wanted to show me, or have me clean it out because it was a mess and falling apart.  Otherwise I considered his wallet HIS PERSONAL PROPERTY.
   
   Regardless of whether or not he has (had) my picture in his wallet does not make me wonder if he thinks of me "while I'm away from home".  I don't quite know what that is supposed to mean.  My picture does not need to be with my husband at all times to remind him that I exist in his life or that I am his wife.  Though we fight frequently, I know daily he thinks of me, whether he is calling me, texting me, or sending me an email from his job.  There are some days I hear nothing, but my concern then is not whether he is thinking of me, but whether he is okay, wherever he is or what he is doing.
   
   If this is a question based on your own personal marital issues, you really need to open a line of communication with your husband to let him know that you are troubled by this simple issue.  He will likely be ticked off to find out you have been going through his wallet, which you really should not do.  He may even be totally surprised, and perhaps a little put off that you feel that way about his daughter's importance in his life.
   
   Sorry.  I did not mean to preach.  I am not a marriage counselor, but I have spoken to many friends and counselors through the years and all have had input on various issues in marriage.  You need to go carefully here.

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   dixie28714posted 14 years ago

   take a picture of you and her together then replace the picture.

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