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How do you tell if it is love or lust? How do you know [s]he loves you sincerely

  1. ubanichijioke profile image74
    ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago

    How do you tell if it is love or lust? How do you know [s]he loves you sincerely?

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    Dandraposted 6 years ago

    When s/he spends a lot of money on you.  You're welcome!

  3. Extinct Soul profile image59
    Extinct Soulposted 6 years ago

    If [s]he could smile while talking and listening to your stories for hours, with the exception of bed as your last result, but still feeling happy at the end of the day. Then I think it's love..

  4. ubanichijioke profile image74
    ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago

    @Dandra, i will try your advice. Hope it helps. Thanks so much...
    @Extinct soul, i agree with you. If she could spend long hours discussing with me without getting bored is a good sign. Thanks, i appreciate.

  5. DonDWest profile image61
    DonDWestposted 6 years ago

    Lust comes first, love comes second. If you're expecting love at first sight, you could be waiting a long time, all the way to the grave. . .

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    dixie28714posted 6 years ago

    if the relationship is based on a sexual hunger, that's lust.  It will eventually not work out after the sparks have flown and feelings become involved.  Love takes time, true love makes itself known!! Love is patient love is kind love has no record of wrong... once you get it, you will know it smile Good Luck!!

  7. Smart is Good profile image60
    Smart is Goodposted 6 years ago

    You don't KNOW it, you FEEL it. Try to do some romantic activities and talk a lot. Talk about how you feel about each other, where do you see yourselves in  a couple of years, If it is love this whole conversation will bring you closer together. If it's lust It'll be like the conversation never happened. In my case love came first, and then I infused a little lust in my relationship but we still know it's not all about sex, sometimes you need each other emotionally, not just physically.

  8. carolp profile image79
    carolpposted 6 years ago

    Lust is when one is attracted to the opposite sex and make sex spontaneously. It could be a one night stand or one can frequently meet someone just for sex without other expectation.

    Love is patience...respect...love and lust combined is a meaningful experience of becoming one and having and feeling each other.

    Love can be created in other ways, this might begin after your first acquintance, after some time together.

    Follow your intuition and be honest with yourself.

  9. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    Lust means you want them. You want to have sex with them. You want to keep them to your own with a passion. You can become obsessed with this person.
    You can love someone without lust. You will feel desire instead. You care about them, you want them to succeed. Instead of watching them at a distance or stalking them, he/she has invited you into their home often and you two have a good connection both ways, not just one.

  10. Kaddam profile image61
    Kaddamposted 6 years ago

    I understand how confusing the two is easy especially since lust is usually the gateway means to love.

    It is actually a mathmatical formula.

    A=Attracted by Physical Appearance
    B=Attracted by Personal Communications

    After A combines with B it ends up creating C which is Like.
    The more you obtain the growth in variable A or B then more likely C grows too.

    It is when that growth stops that C is defined as "liked enough" or "Love".

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    You can always TELL where a person stands by their behavior!  Plain and simple!  There is no science to this!  Lust is self explanatory.  Is this the only way that they express themselves when you are together.  Do they have your best interest at heart whether you are about to have sex or not!  A woman as well as a man will always tell on themselves through their words as well as their actions!  CiaO

    Vonda G. Nelson