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Have you ever tried on-line dating? If yes, how did things turn out?

  1. Shadow of Me profile image57
    Shadow of Meposted 6 years ago

    Have you ever tried on-line dating? If yes, how did things turn out?

    I have been thinking of trying online dating, but worry about the weirdo I might meet.

  2. Stephiliboo profile image57
    Stephilibooposted 6 years ago

    I didn't believe in it personally. However, you never know when you'll meet the right person smile

  3. renegadetory profile image97
    renegadetoryposted 6 years ago

    I can't say that I had any great experiences with the whole online dating thing.  I found that a majority of the guys wanted to meet right away, not because they were so impressed with my profile and winning personality (as I secretly hoped) but more so because they wanted to see if I was good-looking in person or looked like the photos I had posted to my profile.  It made for an awkward meeting and once it became obvious they were just about appearances, I got turned off.

    The other problem I encountered was that although I had my profile in the "relationship" category, meaning I wanted something more serious, I still kept getting guys messaging me that they wanted to get to know me but when I met them, all they wanted to do was get me back to their place or mine to have sex.  It was at this point that I just gave up.  It seemed all guys were interested in with women online was scoring, regardless of what the women wanted. 
    Not for me.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Any weirdo you might meet online is the same one you might meet in person. It's not (where) you meet but (who) you meet that counts. Naturally their are some dating sites which have a higher caliber members than others. My advice would be to stay away from (FREE) dating sites and Craig's List...etc Like most things in life quality and dollar value tend to go hand in hand.

    Use the same common sense you would in person when dealing with people online.

    Don't rush to meet in person. Take your time getting to know a few people through the dating site's email prior to exchanging personal email addresses or phone numbers.

    Remember the purpose of dating is to find out if you have enough in common with someone to determine if you want to have an exclusive relationship.
    Too many people expect others to jump into a "monogamy state of mind" before they know each other. You don't look for a job sending out one resume at a time while waiting to see if the company will bother to contact you let along interview you. You may find the following hub to be of help with regard to online dating. A company interviews several candidates before selecting "Mr/Ms Right" for the job.
    http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … ndmonogamy

    On a personal note I have been in relationships with women I met online that lasted up to 5 and 7 years. Online dating is just another modern tool for busy people to connect with one another. Just as a fork can be used to eat a salad or a slice of double fudge cake...etc You can't blame the tool for your experience. Each of us selects our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

  5. KateWest profile image76
    KateWestposted 6 years ago

    I tried it for years and the main problem is people's impatience that you don't match their fantasy. No matter how diligent you are on your profile, it will never be 100% you - that only comes across in person. Most people were too impatient with a getting-to-know-you phase. I know people that had success with this, but I never have and again, YEARS of trying. Not my thing I guess.

  6. CyclingFitness profile image95
    CyclingFitnessposted 6 years ago

    I've tried it, got frustrated with it and then tried it again. Been on plenty of dates. Even thought i'd met the woman of my dreams after one of them- great personality, active outlook, fantastic body, great sense of humour- only for her to beleive she'd not got over her ex!

    I've met some wonderful women through Internet Dating sites like plentyoffish which is free to join so doesn't restrict it's users. However I've found like any sales related job it is therefore a numbers game so you have to speculate interest to accumulate a small amount in return. Paying sites like match.com encourage non payers to set up profiles so it's not always going to be a 100% genuine dater you might be contacting if you send the first message. I've actually seen sites on the web that pay to set up a free profile (match.com and datingdirect are examples i've been paid for posting a profile personally so beware)

    Always get someone to look over your profile as it will give you an outside opinion of how your personality comes across. As there are no verbal clues to how you are the person looking at the profile will be thinking about how you talk and how your body language portrays a message.

    As Katewest says people on internet dating sites seem to be impatient. I know I am- I like real life not virtual reality.

    My biggest advice is don't jump in too soon. Email through the site, then msn then phone and meet when you're ready. Don't let someone rush you

  7. Shadow of Me profile image57
    Shadow of Meposted 6 years ago

    Lots of great advice posted here. I have found all the answers to be what I have experienced. My friend talked me into this and I got a few people that left messages that were more than Hi. One guy seemed real interesting, but I believe he is only after one thing. I find it funny that people put they want a serious relationship or I want to find my soul mate but that is not really what they want. There are a few people who are nice to talk to.

  8. holconrad profile image60
    holconradposted 5 years ago

    I actually met my partner on an on-line dating site. I had been separated from my husband, and my family wanted me to start dating. I was just not interested. I was perfectly happy as a single mom, spending time with my three boys. I signed up on a dating site in order to make my family (mom and sisters) happy. I chatted with a couple of guys, they seemed nice enough, but not nice enough to actually go and meet them in person. I finally picked out a guy to meet. My hope was that we would meet, not like one another and I could satisy my family and go back to my single mom life.
    Things did not go as planned. I met Bill. He was nice, and fun. I dated him for a long time, a couple of months, before I let him meet my boys. They hit it off. Bill got the younger boys interested in boy scouts. (he is not the scout leader). He went places with us, something my ex never did. He let the boys help work on the car, or other home improvement jobs. he actually talked to them.
    It has been seven years since we first met. I can honestly say that I never, ever expected to actually meet someone who I will probably spend the rest of my life with.

  9. Hannemarie profile image60
    Hannemarieposted 3 years ago

    Do not worry about weirdos! You can meet a weirdo in everyday life in person, but how would know anyway?