If you meet a person online, what would be the steps to take before meeting him/her in person?
Lets say that you have communicated with the person online for a month or two and there comes the time to meet each other.
After communicating online, via email, the next steps would be to talk on webcam - or skype so that you can see what they look like, as up to this point you probably have photos, but people can use really old photos of themself on dating profiles, so you'll get much more of an idea about what they are really like if you see them on cam. Then chat by phone and plan a date with them, if you're still interested. Meet in a public place, and don't give out your address or get them to pick you up from home until you've met them a few times in person first.
I don't mind about the steps, because my intuition and experience are enough!
I prefer to be spontaneous!My lucidity tells me everything about strangers!
It's hard for me to say without being a hypocrit...
I met my boyfriend online on a video game and moved in with him before we even met in person. And I moved in about 4 months after I started talking to him.
He was different and I could tell. I guess I can tell if a person is going to be a fraud, or who they say they are. I could tell he was genuine and was going to take care of me, and he has. He's done a great job and is 100% the man that he portrayed himself to be and I find myself lucky for that.
But normally, I would have spent a longer time talking to someone. We did talk on the phone a LOT, we texted alot, the game that I met him on- we spent so much time together on that. We probably spent 90% of our time awake every day talking to one another. I got to know alot about him and could tell by the sound in his voice that he wasn't lying to me.
I think in general the same rules apply no matter how you meet (a stranger). Whether it is at the mall, a park, beach, nightclub, or online. The goal is to (get to know a person) well enough to feel comfortable to go out with them.
However before you make up your mind about them you have to absolutely (know yourself), your wants, and needs. Knowing what you want helps you to weed people out quickly who do not meet your standards. Also if you know what you want then you aren't afraid to ask questions. If someone is genuinely interested in you they would be more than happy to answer your questions as well as ask you plenty of their own.
Having said that the normal "steps" for online dating is to use email/instant message service provided by the dating service for a few weeks. If things progress from there you may exchange personal email addresses. After some time you may elect to exchange cell phone numbers and evenutally set up a (lunch date) where you would (meet one another).
Honestly everyone has their own time frame and gut instincts about people they meet. Hopefully you are also (keeping your options open) by engaging in conversations with multiple prospects. A company doesn't pull down it's Want-Ad because one person emails them a resume.
If someone tries to rush you into meeting them or they aren't ever available to meet you for one reason or another then they are probably not right for you. (The goal is to find someone who wants what you want at the pace you want it.)
Awhile back I wrote a hub titled; 6 Common Mistakes Women Make With Online Dating. These mistakes are also made by men as well. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … ine-Dating
Having dated online quite a bit when it was the rage some ten years ago I would say make sure a mature lady doesn't publish online a picture out of her high school yearbook, and that the word "slim" means just that, not fifty pounds overweight. In short, people lie a lot about many things to attract a potential date. How they think it's going to work is beyond me, but when it comes to misrepresent themselves, they're quite creative.
I agree with you. That is why I think meeting somebody (without any commitment) online needs to be follow by seeing the person and maybe research a little.
For me, if someone misrepresents themselves on a first date, that will be the end of it. How could you possibly trust such a person ?
I chatted to several people on line ( who doesn't in this day an age) and met some.I dated a couple and kept them as friends over the years.One experience got sidetracked though but looking back, I kinda missed the hints that my expectations weren't gonna be what it will be. My fault on that because i could have seen it coming but i refused to believe.My personal experience overall is good whether i only chatted with them and never met or have personally met them. I think the site where you meet these people has a bearing on the quality of people that you meet according to your expectations.I am interested in languages, spirituality , travel, volunteering for a good cause and professional associations.I am lucky so far as i have made friends all over,a lot of them in foreign countries.I have stayed with their families and ate with them,met their friends, some even gave me their rooms to sleep.One family I stayed in Marseille, France was an older couple who has a very elegant apartment in Marseille ovelooking the Marseille vieux port harbor. I was treated like a queen. Their maid cleans my room everyday, dinner was always awesome as prepared by the maid .They consider me like family .It is great. I have the internet to be thankful for because without the internet, I will not have the opportunity to meet all these wonderful people..
PS. I am meeting a Buddhist monk in Penang,Malaysia next month whom i did not meet on line but was introduced to me by a friend on line who has just came back from southeast asia.This will be awesome to spend a weekend in Buddhist Monastery in Penang
anna cia , yes it is nice. been really lucky. Not to brag about it but I am very easy going to be with (that I have been told by the people I met on line).
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