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   Faith Reaperposted 11 years ago

   If you are single or were and used an online dating site and you found someone special in your life
   
   I have some single family members and friends and have been wondering if anyone has had success in finding that someone special or future spouse by using an online dating site.  Have you found that special someone using a an online dating site or did you encounter other problems?  Thank you for answering.
   
   

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   lambservantposted 11 years ago

   I am single and have not done online dating, and don't plan to ever do so. First, I have made a conscious choice to remain single and celibate and don't see the point of dating.
   
   Second, if I was interested, I would not go through the internet dating sites. I am not willing to put my personal information out to strangers. I think it is risky business. I know many have had great experiences, but to me it seems tacky. I would much rather meet someone in person. You must live with a person (not co-habitate, but just have them in your life in a personal relationship so you can see each other live their lived) and be able to see them at their best and worst.

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Awesome, that is a wonderful decision you have made dear sister! Yes, I keep hearing about those who have met the one and that is great, but I, too, believe one should meet someone in person and interact with them initially in person from the start.

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   lesliebyarsposted 11 years ago

   I did go out with a guy once that I had met online.  I didn't have any problems and we had a great time.  I made sure that I met him, I drove my own car and we met in a very public place because technically, I didn't know him. 
   I do know that there are people that are out there that wouldn't even try it but, I am always at work and don't have very many opportunities to meet single men.

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi leslie, thank you for answering and taking extra precautions for safety. You are wise. That is a good point about your time for sure. Blessings,  Faith Reaper

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   wonderful1posted 11 years ago

   Yes, I've tried it twice previously and I just renewed my profile. The first two times were learning experiences for me, since no one warned me about how many guys go online that aren't serious about meeting someone. I had to learn myself by wasting countless hours messaging men who after several months didn't even try to set up a meeting or date.
   
   Then for the few times I did have responses, the guys seemed more interested in quick hookups than getting to know who I was. Then there were even some who wanted to add me on Skype just to get their ego stroked on webcam. I just got tired of the whole routine and quit. This time around, I'm hoping to increase my chances at dating, since I've only been on one date in about 2 years by allowing things to happen organically (meeting in person). I know better now about spotting guys who aren't serious, so I'm prepared to sift through the riff raff.
   
   Oh, and the process can be frustrating and scary. Many of the men viewing you look like they are in prison! The ones you find attractive seldom respond back to your message, so you have to be extremely patient. I have heard success stories for people who met online-- some were about single moms, like me. That's the only reason I have a flicker of optimism with the online dating thing. Feel free to message me for tips or you can read some of my Hubs on how to navigate the murky waters of online dating.

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi wondergul1, I am glad you have learned what to watch out for and be safe! There are a lot of predators out there. Oh, I was married when I was 19 and still am. Just wondering about my single family and friends. I stayed pure until marriage & g

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   Ericdierkerposted 11 years ago

   I had this big old ocean called the Pacific between me and my gal. We actually met on line but that was because our bosses put us together to wrangle details of an office build out down Saigon way. I loathed the bitch. Everything was a problem. Well we got that project done somehow and were launching into a new one.
   
   We are now married ten years and our son seems quite happy and well adjusted. But our romance was on line and the phone.
   
   Online is one tool. Love is not made for rules and restrictions and guidelines. It just happens. In all cases.

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, Eric, I am so glad it worked out for you both and you do have a precious son! Thank you for sharing of your experience and wonderful in the long run results of your online dating. Yes, so true about love just happening in all cases of true love.

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   savvydatingposted 11 years ago

   One can meet as many undesirables in person as one can meet online. When we meet people in person, we must bear in mind that everyone puts their best foot forward, in the beginning, so it takes time to figure out if someone is who they say they are. The key is to take the time to discover a person's character before getting romantically involved. A man who cares is willing to wait much longer than a man who is only looking for a hook-up.
   Also, when entering information on an on-line profile, one must sound cheerful, optimistic and, if a woman, pretty much lady-like. Men will get the hint. By the way, it is helpful to have close-up and full body shots, but NO swim suits, please. A pretty dress works well. Decent men are more likely to go for the woman who looks classy.
   Hope this is of use to your family members or someone out there.

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi savvydating, You are so right about that fact too, at least I know my single daughter has done so!  I was married so young and still married, so I am clueless really.  Yes, helpful info, classy is best for sure. Thanks!

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Faith Reaper.  Also, it is a good idea to research the dating sites. Some have high ratings, while others do not.. Another good option is to join classes, like "How to Barbecue."  Men absolutely love those classes & they are there in person!

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, wow, that is a great point, savvydating!  Yes, I can see that men would absolutely love those "How to Barbecue" classes ... so there you go!  I appreciate the added great advice.

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   word55posted 11 years ago

   I've met at least 6-7 ladies online stemming from many years ago to 2011. I am still friends with 5. We talk periodically by phone. One problem was and still is is that most of them are long distance. I met 2 locally. One thing about online is that you see what type of person they are. Even when meeting someone in person, they may not be as open and honest with you so, the opportunity to meet the right person can be in any way form or fashion. In all situations you should be very careful. There are advantages and disadvantages to all ways of meeting someone. It doesn't matter how you met.

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much, Word55, for sharing and taking the time to answer. You have provided some good sound advice when it comes to dating period! Blessings,  Faith Reaper

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   Sparkleaposted 11 years ago

   Hi Faith! 
   My sister met a man, 'Larry' through an online dating site who lived not very far away from here in Upstate New York...(New Jersey) They decided to meet in person at a restaurant in NYC, since it was a convenient spot for both of them. 
   
   She fell for him, head over heels.  They dated for awhile.
   
   But he started pulling away, turned out to be a narcissist, then broke up with her via an email.  It was awful for her.
   
   Then she met another 'Larry' through online dating, who lived in Missouri...long story, they ended up getting married and divorced eight years later because his grown daughter was so evil that she succeeded at tearing their marriage apart. She even tried to hire someone to kill my sister. 
   
   Sis ended up self publishing a book about the first Larry who had broken up with her...It is on Amazon...however, a mysterious person who calls herself "Rene' Fletcher' has gone to every site where her book is advertised and ripped it to shreds with a horrible review.  The book is actually very well written, and she has had a lot of positive feedback from others.
   
   From her experience alone I would be very guarded and cautious about online dating.  Blessings, Sparklea

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, Sparklea, thank you for sharing your sister's experiences with online dating!  Yes, I'd be very guarded and cautious too, my goodness!  So great to see you and thank you for taking the time to answer.  Hugs

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   Lowdown0posted 11 years ago

   I didn't find my wife there, but I do know an older man who used to be my neighbor. He found a lady online and started talking to her, soon enough they met, and now they are married and live together. This all happened in about 6 months time. He was very excited and happy to have someone, and I hope it works out for them.
   
   For some people who don't get out much, and aren't terribly social, this could be a way to meet someone sincere. Depends on what your looking for and how you go about it, if you'll attract someone with the same sincerity. I think it's a way for people to meet a spouse they can love.

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      Faith Reaperposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Lowdown0, thank you for answering.  I am happy for the older man who is happy now and is married due to online dating.  Yes, for those who do not get out much, it could be great and work out best for them.  Good points you have made here.

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