Do you feel bad when cutting a person who you feel wronged you from your life?
Maybe you are the only one who is there for them, or you know what they need to do to help themselves when they do not. Or maybe they need help with how to treat friends, but you want to give up... is that bad, or selfish, or just what you have to do?
I used to feel wrong about it, but now I know it's for the best. I removed my toxic parents years ago, and my life is much better now. We need to remember to take care of ourselves - sometimes we're so busy trying to make others happy that we forget about our own needs. That's not healthy and can be very harmful.
Leaving them ...is something I wont suggest. They can be change...over a period of time. But you need to be positive about them for a long period...If you cant do that...Then leaving them comes into picture ...other wise not.
I'm pretty good at giving chances and on a case by case basis, giving someone the benefit of the doubt. However, I am a big believer in the fact that you are a reflection of the people that you surround yourself with in life. If I find that I have soeone in my life that continually dissappoints me, or acts in such a way that I find I am put off by thie behavior, then I will just write them off. No looking back, no discussion, no more chances.
"Life is a personal journey"
If there is someone in your life that is making things difficult for you and you don't do anything about it then you are not "loving yourself".
Words like "bad", "right", "wrong" or "selfish" are often used to manipulate others. You have to dance to your own music in life.
Whatever YOU decide is best for you is what you ought to do.
(Each of us is responsible for our own happiness.)
We select our own friends, lovers, and spouse. "Choice" is your God given right. Only YOU can determine if being "wronged" justifies removing a person from your life.
If a person wrongs you,they don't belong in your life.
It's probably the first time you realized it. If you look long and maybe not so hard,you see they've been doing it all the time.
If you feel happier and more at peace with them removed,you made the right decision,but if you don't,it's your choice to allow them back in your life or not.
Sometimes you just need a break,to look at things clearly on the outside.
I think it is for the best if you have to cut someone out of your life... if it gets to the point that you are seriously thinking of doing that, it's probably the best decision.
I think you have to do what is right at the time. Unfortunately you have to live with your decision and yes you do get regrets about it from time to time. This happens to me when I am in a bad place as I have depression. I was good at blocking things from my mind when I was younger. Now it is a lot harder because things play with your conscience.
I once tried to make things better with a family member who I had cut out of my life. It worked for a while but the nastyness would creep back in on their part so the only thing for it was to make a break for good. It is sad but you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes to protect yourself and your family.
I guess it depends on how badly they wronged me if I will feel guilty. If they've done something truly atrocious, no amount of guilt that could rise up would make me feel like I'd done the wrong thing.
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