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Why is it difficult for girls to ask a guy that they love out?

  1. segsyboi profile image55
    segsyboiposted 6 years ago

    Why  is it difficult for girls to ask a guy that they love out?

  2. Emma Harvey profile image90
    Emma Harveyposted 6 years ago

    I think it is a fear of rejection, especially if they are shy or insecure. It took me a while to pluck up the courage with the guy I am with now, so I made sure he felt the same. I would never go ahead and ask someone out if I thought they didn't like me.

  3. JEDIJESSICUH profile image81
    JEDIJESSICUHposted 6 years ago

    I think it's one of two things:

    1. Fear of rejection, as Emma said.
    2. Social stigma. Women are expected to wait for the men to make the first move, to do anything else is to invite the questions of, "Oh, why didn't you just wait?"

  4. tsmog profile image82
    tsmogposted 6 years ago

    You realize of course it works both ways. I agree socially the 'guy' asks the girl, but reflecting the first time I was asked out it was awesome. I realized how a girl feels. It can be as simple as would you like to meet me at Starbucks. That is how it happened for me. Then, realizing we got along well, I did the socially accepted thing and asked her out on a formal date. Worked well.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    It takes courage to go after anything you want in life!
    As much as many women think of themselves as being (progressive or equal) in every respect to men they still would rather be in the positon of "waiting" to say "yes" or "no".

    What people don't realize is it's the person doing the asking who has the "real power". They can move on and ask another person while the other person who said "no" has to "wait" to be approached again.

    Men and women reject each other differently.
    Women use (direct rejection) by saying "No" to a date
    Men use (indirect rejection) by "not asking" her out on a date.
    Both forms of rejection can hurt if you really want to be with that person.

    Awhile back I wrote a hub asking "What's wrong with a woman proposing marriage?" My thought is if you want something but aren't willing to ask for it then you're taking a weak stance. If it's not worth asking for then it's not worth having. If two people (really want to marry each other) it won't matter who proposed.
    http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … ngmarriage

    Rejection may hurt but at least you know where you stand. It beats being strung along. One man's opinion! :-)

  6. ubanichijioke profile image78
    ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago

    Some people battle with
    ¤as perceived by the society
    and many other reasons. . .

  7. sinebobo profile image61
    sineboboposted 3 years ago

    it is always difficult for them because of the law of the people, and what we consider norms. if man seize to ask woman first woman will ask cos they are full of pure love than man