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Guys, which do you find more appealing?

  1. tlmcgaa70 profile image78
    tlmcgaa70posted 6 years ago

    Guys, which do you find more appealing?

    a woman who is bold, with high self confidence and can lead as well as follow...or a woman who is timid, doesn't have much self confidence and can't make a move without your approval or guidance?

  2. delmer47 profile image60
    delmer47posted 6 years ago

    A little of both really. I'd love to have a woman that was independent but relied on me emotionally sometimes. It's nice to feel needed that way for me.

  3. ubanichijioke profile image76
    ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago

    A woman of intelligence who is bold and confident always win my heart. But she must be respectful, obedient and subordinate to me. So simple!

  4. emmy1980 profile image61
    emmy1980posted 6 years ago

    I'd like to see the answers to this. I'm not a guy, obviously, but it seems most men want the second choice.

  5. zzron profile image57
    zzronposted 6 years ago


    A woman who is bold, with high self confidence and can lead as well as follow.

  6. ArockDaNinja profile image80
    ArockDaNinjaposted 6 years ago

    Definitely the first choice. I hate having to guide a grown woman through life. However, I've found that having a steady mate isn't really necessary to my survival. I cook, clean, raise my son by myself, I'm smart, capable, and I just don't see the point anymore. A girlfriend who has her own friends and agenda would be especially appealing, since I don't want or need to spend all my time with her.

    emmy, most men do want the latter... but those men are usually timid themselves, and have low self confidence. it gives them a false sense of total control.

  7. ii3rittles profile image83
    ii3rittlesposted 6 years ago

    I know this question is for the guys, but from my understanding, its to each his own.  Some guys like to feel they are in control, while others like to feel equal too or less then the woman they are with.

    Most men like a woman who has confidence but is not full of herself though. Trust me, I've asked! The rest prefer woman who are fragile/ low self-esteem so they can be controlled.

  8. terrektwo profile image84
    terrektwoposted 6 years ago

    I prefer a mate who can be independent and make decisions, but can also follow to be honest. Depending on who is the main driving force for family decisions, budgeting, finances the other partner must be able to follow and take on the support role.

  9. Trevor Davis profile image56
    Trevor Davisposted 6 years ago

    I really just like the thought of being needed but i like it when my girl helps when i can't do something alone. To need each other sounds like a good structure of a relationship to me.

  10. Allen Williams profile image83
    Allen Williamsposted 6 years ago

    After reading all the answers before mine, It looks like ii3rittles answered this perfect.  I agree 100% with that answer.

    I love a woman who is bold, with high self-confidence, etc.  and I have one.

  11. AngelTrader profile image59
    AngelTraderposted 6 years ago

    I love women who are bold, strong, confident, passionate and intelligent. Who can hold their own in a debate, and has the confidence to support her position...that is very alluring. Coupled with a definite sense of their own femininity, wow! What an incredibly sexy combination...well for me anyhow!

  12. nightwork4 profile image61
    nightwork4posted 6 years ago

    neither. i don't want a slave but i don't want a woman who is bold either.

  13. foggers profile image58
    foggersposted 6 years ago

    somewhere between a shark and a wallflowers will do it for me.   There is a happy medium in there somewhere,.

  14. Dave Mathews profile image61
    Dave Mathewsposted 6 years ago

    My choice would be a woman who is intelligent, bold, self-confident, independent, spontaneous, open-minded, romantic, capable, fearless, a good conversationalist on any topic,and openly affectionate.

  15. Jennie Demario profile image38
    Jennie Demarioposted 6 years ago

    I'm not a dude but I'm going to contribute anyway lol.. I think a lot of guys are intimidated by woman with high self confidence..  I agree that you need to find a sweet spot, somewhere right in the middle.