What do you think of people saying, "I'm sorry" Does it really make everything okay or right?
Do you think saying sorry for something still makes everything 'right' between you and another person? Do you think it carries as much meaning now as it used to in the past? Or do you think it's overly used and abused these days? Express your thoughts.. I'm really curious to see the answers.
Saying "I am sorry" does not necessarily make everything right, but it does take courage to utter those words. I have known many people who are unwilling to say those words, no matter what; they would rather die than utter them, and they have done so. In my explorations of that phrase, I have come to the conclusion that even when delivered in a sarcastic tone, they have intrinsic power, which is then shifted to the recipient. For that reason, I no longer debate and analyze that phrase, whether delivered to me, to someone else, written, spoken in film, etc. In whatever context they are expressed, I accept them instead of blocking them.
I question whether the utterance of that phrase was ever intended to make everything right. Instead it is a phrase which opens the gate to the magical, wonderful path of forgiveness.
The word sorry means differently depending on who says it, who to and how and where and when...and what it means to both of them.
I just had deep conversations with my siblings about forgiving oursleves and each other so our family could be decent again and if possible happy...everybody wants to point at another and waits for an apology but is already prepared to criticize, complain and not comply!!! When somebody with a big ego says sorry to you, he/she may mean it because you know how hard itis for the person to accept being wrong and come to you and apologize...then they are those poeple who apologize everyday but keep on doing the same thing, hurting you. You may let them go! I haven't apologize that many times in my life, not that I am perfect or think I am...just that my ego was sometimes on my way and often I dealt with people who can not forgive...yes, the times I apologized only a few people accepted from the bottom of their heart...sadly. Then, they are people who pretended to apologize and I refused...sadly, it was a trap!
Though now out of peace and love I think that beihaving with peace, love and kindness and recognizing when I am wrong is part of me. I really try to not have to say sorry and if I do, I do it sincerely and let my future actions and words speak for me.
there's a new word out in the market too "my bad"... i hate it to be honest coz it just doesn't feel the same as sorry.
saying sorry will never make it right in my opinion even if it's said genuinely. the sorry needs to be followed with a few humble actions of kindness towards the person you are sorry for... the actions actually show that you're sorry not the word itself.
just my thought on it.
No! Some people say they are sorry and yet continue in that for which they are sorry. For example, when a wife catch an unfaithful husband,[and the husband would say 'am sorry] some after being forgiven still go to the wife's back to commit even worst things. For me, it can only work when you say you are sorry and mean it with every last breath in you ie being true to your word. Thanks
It depends on who says it and in relation to what. You really have to know someone in order to have a feel for the meaning behind their words. For example you see a story in the news where someone's brother or sister is killed and there is someone saying, "Our hearts, thoughts, and prayers go out to the family". Although I think those words are "nice" to hear I don't put a lot of stock into them. It's the "polite" thing to say.
In other instances if someone says, "I'm sorry" they're often saying it to move beyond an issue. Some folks have a difficult time saying, "I'm sorry" because it's admission they did something wrong. Others subscribe to the old saying, "I'd rather beg for forgiveness than ask for permission."
However I think "forgiveness" seems to be the much more difficult act for people today. They think forgiveness is a sign of weakness.
If the person is truly sorry for committing the offense, then it is good to accept and try and mend what happened. If, however, they are saying it, but actually mean, I apologize, then that's a horse of a different color. Parents try to teach their child to say "I'm sorry" when the child may not grasp that concept. In those cases, i would rather hear "I apologize".
I don't like the "my bad" because it is too flip.
Truly meaning "I'm sorry" is asking for the other person to forgive what you have done.
Good question-real though provoking!
by purpleangel47 8 years ago
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