Why women should sacrifice?
Gals - If you ever go through a situation where you are promoted and are transferred to other city, would your in-laws and husband be cool about it? Imagine your husband getting promoted and transferred to other city. Don't they celebrate? So are we here to sacrifice for others and what about our career?
Well, my in-laws don't like me very much, so I imagine they would throw a party if I moved far away! On a serious note, I think that it would be hard for me to move away from family and friends for a job. However, if it was a job of a lifetime and the move also benefited my marriage and children (for me, they always come first), we would move. The same would be true if my husband had a similar opportunity.
Sacrafices and compromises go along with any relationship. However when it's all said and done no one is putting a gun to anyone's head with regard to making decisions. Life is a personal journey and each of us has our own values as well as our own "deal breakers". The important thing is when you make a "scarafice" you (knowingly) do so because YOU truly believe it's worth it in the end. If that is not the case you will likely harbor resentment and have regrets. No one really "sacrafices" if they believe things will work out for the best in the long-term by letting go of a short-term dream. A person who gives up sweets they love in order to have the body they want is likely to feel their "sacrafice" was worth it! We always do what (we choose) to do under any given circumstances. If we're unhappy we only have ourselves to blame for the choice (we made).
It's not always the woman who sacrifice. It should be a combination of the two partners. Try making the deal of who makes the most money. If the husband makes more money, then move where he has the job. If the wife makes more money, then the husband should follow her.
The woman does not only have to be the one to sacrifice.
Dud, chicks don't have to make the sacrafice, it is just the approach everybody take. When it comes to relatioship it is about been able to adapt to one and other. For example, men usually prioritze their career and refuse to stay home to take care of children, while women on the other hand are more willing to do so.
Basically, it is the 21th century, so there is no longer such thing as men's role and women's role, but frequently people still fail into the old fashion pattern, once in a comitted relatioship, especially after marriage, it is just the way things goes, for some reason.
by the end of the day, relatioship is about two people and sometime, also involve those other people around them (their family and your family). It is about whether you two are compatiable and whether you are comptiable with their family. For example, if a man date a woman from a culture that believe a man should adopted a woman's last name after marriage, for a lot of guy, this is a deal breaker, but for man from that culture they would be Ok about it. In contrast, in the west, adopting the husband's last name is a big deal and if a woman refuse to do so, it might cause conflict, where in Asia on the other hand, we don't care about stuff like that, so the man's family won't care whether the wife take the last name or not.
So, by the end of the day, it all depends on the people you are associate with
Marriages and relationships are about adjusting not about sacrificing....i think to satisfy your in laws is the most difficult job in the world....if u want to do something just go for it...it's your life... Don't care what others think about it....yess when u are married u have to think about everyone even if they can't even pronounce your name....you are your first responsibility... If you want to do it then do it.... Ur husband's opinion matters but other than that u shouldn't be worried about your in-laws... They'll always find something against you.... When you are happy people around you are happy....and women don't always have to sacrifice...you by saying it are being a part of the society who believes it..... So at the end.... Live your life on your conditions....don't let a piece of paper come between you and your dreams....
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