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What is your biggest challenge in dating?

  1. kallini2010 profile image81
    kallini2010posted 6 years ago

    What is your biggest challenge in dating?

    A girl asked me today "Do you realize how hard it is to be 19 and date nowadays?"  And I had to be honest: "I do date, but I am 42.  No, I don't realize, I simply do not know.  You have to tell me."  I am asking you - give us your age category and tell what is your biggest challenge?


  2. lucybell21 profile image80
    lucybell21posted 6 years ago

    Well first off I am 52, not in bad shape. I take care of myself. But men my age look older than me and they think they still look good, meaning out of shape and well ya know, plus they don't want to go out and do anything fun. They want to sit around and watch sports or what not. But now here is the kicker... they want you to look like a beauty Queen and dress up.... Humm..Well you can see where I am going here. Men are just little boys no matter what age. Hope this was not off topic. But this is what I have come up against. And with all those ads on TV, well what woman can compete with late night phone dates that promise the real Chickie!

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  3. stricktlydating profile image80
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    I'm in my 20's.  The biggest challenge for me when dating is when guy's come on too strong too soon.  It turns me off and I feel like I'm being forced into a relationship (Or into intimacy) with someone I am just getting to know.  I love dating.  I find it fun and don't take it too seriously too soon, as I know when you're dating someone at first they are on their best behaviour (Usually), it's not until I'm starting to see the real person/personality that I'll decide whether I want to continue seeing them.  I don't like being pressured into a relationship by whoever I date.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Although I'm no longer in the dating scene. I believe the biggest challenge for most people is being patient enough to truly get to know someone before deciding to become "exclusive". What normally happens is both people tend to do their best to "impress" a new person they are attracted to. 
    This leads them to say "yes" to things they will eventually say "no" to once there is an "emotional investment". A couple of examples would be a girl who hates sports goes out on a date to a hockey game or a guy who has no interest in theatre goes to see a musical. The primary reasons are this is someone they think is "hot" and they don't want to "blow" the opportunity to get to know them by saying "no".
    I suppose it's human nature to place more value on things and people who are "new" than those things and people who are "tried and true". However because people hesitate in revealing their "authentic selves" we often later here "He/She is not the same person I fell in love with". 
    The truth is we don't get to "know" each other until after the "infatuation phase". Awhile back I wrote a hub, "Do we save our best for (the beginning)...?" (Finding someone who will be themself from the start would save a lot of time.)
    http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … ebeginning

  5. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    I'm 19 and my biggest issue is showing that I care. Yes, I can get food, clean the place. But once holiday's come around, or birthdays, I want to duck and hide. I hate given presents because I start to feel emotions that make me feel uneasy and provide stress. It's upsetting and I go nuts. After dating my boyfriend, David, for 2 years, you would think I know how to give presents. I can pick them out wonderfully, but I dread presenting them to the person. I just want to drop the gift and run.

  6. changer22 profile image60
    changer22posted 6 years ago

    I am in my early 20's and my biggest problem is finding a guy who wants to have a committed relationship. Most people between the ages of 16-22 are more into hooking up than actually forming a long-lasting relationship with someone. When I was a freshman in college I complained to my mother and said to her that none of the guys at school wanted to seriously date. She said that once junior and senior year came along, I would be able to find a guy to date because when she was young that was when guys wanted to seriously date. It is not like that anymore. The guys who are juniors and seniors still want to party and hook up, since they do not want to have any attachments.

  7. THEHuG5 profile image60
    THEHuG5posted 6 years ago

    Honestly my biggest challenge is finding someone who want to actually get to know me before they try to let's say...get the benefits of a real relationship. I feel like most guys are way to forward and that is just an instant turn off. At least ask me what my name is before you ask for my number I mean seriously.

  8. juiwei2000 profile image61
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    For me is that I loose patient too quickly.  I get bord in a reliationship very quickly and then I want out.  Other time, I get a girl too easy, so I thought she was joking, when she appear interest in me smile