How do deal with an ex
Who is constantly calling your work, calling your bosses, calling you 6 or more times throughout the day, constantly texting, and does absolutley nothing to meet you halfway on anything?
Wow thats a lot. He wants something obviously. Either you want the same thing or you dont. Make it clear to him.
At this point, straight forwardness is the answer. As hard as it can be sometimes to tell people "leave me alone" it has to be done. If they are not meeting you half way, then they are looking for you to break and give them a free ride. I've been there done that too and trust me, to end it is the best feeling in the world. Just tell them that they need to stop. Short, sweet, and to the point. If they continue harassing you, there are always benefits to a P.P.O. (:
Ive been straight forward, said leave me alone, and still nothing. I'm worried police involvement will only escalate the issue
File a law suit. Or just take a handgun with you next time and hide the body later. Obviously, talking to him doesn't do a thing. So if you can't get him to stop, just get rid of him. The old fashioned way.
Oh, give him time, he probably still want you back, desperately, he'll get over it after a while. If he don't get over you, after a while. Then it is official, congratulation your ex is a "GIRLY MAN!!!"
you will have to face this obsessive person head on or run and hide. move, change all numbers, don't tell anyone, live a whole new life. or, go to the police and file a restraining order.
you might go to his family and suggest an intervention.
lastly, if this is not the first time this happened to you, what is it about you that is attracting this type of person to you? self-discovery and growth may be part of needed healing for you. best wishes.
Being straight forward to him is the only solution left for you. Just call him and make him clear that you are not interested anymore (if you are not).
It sounds to me like he really wants something too. What is it you're wanting him to meet you half way on? Money? Possessions? Whatever it is that seems to be the problem you need to address. Breakups cause emotional distress and this is probably why he's not acting rationally. Maybe you need to meet him more than half way to satisfy what it is he is after so that he will then go away. It seems like, by calling your boss he is angry enough to feel justified in causing you problems at work. This could also cause you embarrassment at work, where you don't want your collegues to know you're 'drama's'. But since he's been calling your bosses, it's a good idea to be mature enough to talk briefly about the situation with them, incase he continues to call them. You can't predict what he might say the next time either. Give him a time and a date that you will get back to him if you are sorting out possessions/money or whatever it is so that he feels he knows what's going on and won't keep harrassing you. You may also need to contact the Police or a Solicitor, Social Worker etc, depending on what your situation is. Even if you tell the police you're afraid it will make things worse, at least they may be able to give you some advice. You are being harrassed and may even need an AVO if his harrassment continues.
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