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   Princess Priscaposted 13 years ago

   Would you be fine with your bride or groom wanting their "X" to come to the wedding?
   
   Would you be fine with your bride or groom wanting their "X" to come to the wedding?  There are no children between the two of them and they have remained "friends" after their break-up.  This is the reason that your bride/groom gives you for wanting them front and center...
   
   

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   Mamelodyposted 13 years ago

   Hell no! I don't care what their status is.. children or no children, good friends or not.. and "X" at your wedding is unacceptable.. If my partner wanted to invite his "X" there would be no wedding for damn sure. Inviting his "X" is like telling me "I don't love and respect you anymore. I just want a party"

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   Marturionposted 13 years ago

   It can be a tricky situation, but I'm going to have to advise a "NO."  If one of your exes wants to be involved, have them send a wedding gift.  You might be on good terms.  You might even have carved out a friendship.  But a wedding is about new beginnings, and if one of your exes really has gotten to the point where they respect and care for the two of you, they should respect that, and realize that it is not the place for them.

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   lockgirlposted 13 years ago

   Just because they couldn't be together in a relationship doesn't stop them from being friends. It has taken me 19 years to be friends again with my ex-husband and if I was to get married again yes I would ask him to be there. Don't be threatened by their friendship that is all it is. Embrace the friendship and you will see that there is not threat what so ever there. I actually go to my ex-husbands on the weekends to chill with him and his wife. I am friends with both of them.

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   Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

   I'm very close friends with my ex-husband, but I think it would be tasteless for either of us to attend the other's wedding.    So, I think it would be equally tasteless of someone I married to have an ex-spouse at the wedding.  I don't think it even has to particularly be a matter of who's "bothered" by it.  I think people could easily be in situations where nobody (including the new, spouse) would really care.  It's just that it's tasteless - no matter how big, small, informal, or formal the second wedding is.
   
   There are other ways to share in a friend's (ex-spouse's) happiness and new life if people feel it's important.  (Small get-togethers, family get-togethers, maybe even dinner with the three/four "key characters", particularly if the new couple wants to set a foundation for friendship because of shared children; a wedding gift, etc. etc.)
   
   It's just that I think there ought to be some boundaries and good taste when it comes to the actual wedding.  If I imagine my ex-husband getting married again (considering we're close friends and have three kids), I can picture my taking the couple out to a nice dinner (with or without our grown children) shortly around the the time of wedding, and giving them a gift.  I think that would be a nice way for me to wish them well, show my happiness for them, and share their happiness - without letting a big cloud of the past be anywhere near their happy occasion.

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   juiwei2000posted 13 years ago

   Hmm...might not be a good idea.  One of my ex girl friend wanted me to attend her wedding and I looked for all sort of excuse not to go, especially considering we have some unresolve feeling for each other, but decide that it is wiser for us to break up, since we can't get along with each other's family.  Base on what I heard, her finacee wasn't too happy about her wanting to invite me, either
   
   Put yourself in your partner shoe, how would he/she feel, if you invite your ex to your wedding

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   smzclarkposted 13 years ago

   He's marrying you! I don't think I'd have a problem with it. As long as she treats you well and there's no jealousy on her part. But if you don't feel comfortable with it, then he should understand that; as your husband to be.

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   weddingsprkledivaposted 12 years ago

   This is not the best idea. I have known the "ex" of a bride or groom to come to a wedding. Many years had passed since they had been married the wife was re-married, the children were grown and it was a gay wedding. All was fine. I don't however, recommend it for the young or recently divorced.

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