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What are the 3 worst mistakes that single women make when seeking "true love"?

  1. KrystalD profile image80
    KrystalDposted 6 years ago

    What are the 3 worst mistakes that single women make when seeking "true love"?

  2. Hubpage Gal profile image60
    Hubpage Galposted 6 years ago

    The 3 worst mistakes that single women make when seeking "true love" is that they rush into the relationship and confuse attraction with love without knowing if the feeling is reciprocal.  Those three mistakes were contained in that one statement.

    1.  Rushing into the relationship
    2. Confusing attraction with love
    3.  Not knowing if the feeling is reciprocal.

  3. Innuentendre profile image77
    Innuentendreposted 6 years ago

    having low or unrealistic standards, being desperate, being shallow

  4. Saleeln18 profile image70
    Saleeln18posted 6 years ago

    1. They have too many standards and will usually dismiss anyone who doesn't fit those high standards. If you can't accept someone for who they are then you're probably not ready for love.

    2. They display too much dependency and instability, making themselves easy targets. (sexually, emotionally, and mentally as well).

    3. They rush into things, not realizing that they are not in love with the person the lust for, and on top of that, not realizing that that person is also nowhere near in love with them either.

  5. Mary Stuart profile image80
    Mary Stuartposted 6 years ago

    I made a lot of dating mistakes when I re-entered the dating world nine years ago. It seemed that all of the rules had changed but I had not. When I was dating my now Exie in the early 1980s Internet dating was not even in our imaginations much less... read more

  6. NightFlower profile image59
    NightFlowerposted 6 years ago

    All three are equally man killers...chile pare down the "standards list", getchu a backbone and don't be so one track...ease up and you'll find him. Men love confident women but easy you can get on any corner lol.

  7. KateWest profile image78
    KateWestposted 6 years ago

    These are all great answers and I agree with them. Know who you are, know what you need and know what you don't need.

  8. vicki5897 profile image84
    vicki5897posted 6 years ago

    I think the 3 worst mistakes single women make when seeking "true love" is 1. They confuse love with lust. 2. The other person's flaws bother them so much that it is all they talk about to their friends, but they are trying to convince themselves that they really love that person only because they are in a rush to live happily ever after. 3. I think some women may pass up a good thing with someone else and realize it later or they just simply just don't like the idea of starting over. Hopes this makes sense.

  9. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    1. Not going out and socializing with other singles enough.
    2. Judging a book by it's cover.
    3. Getting too serious too soon.

  10. Beata Stasak profile image84
    Beata Stasakposted 6 years ago

    Having already a clear picture in their heads what they want, that is not negotiable...it is better to be open to many possibilities, not alwasy we know ourselves good enough to pinpoint what do we really missing...

    Closed in, too afraid to make mistakes, too cautious for their own good...it is better to open your mind and heart and be truly yourself, be adventurous, some risks have to be taken...if it doesn't work out, it is not the end of the day...take each miscalculation with a bit of salt:)...but stay honest with yourself and others...people warm up and respond to honesty...

    Not happy with ourselves, too critical of selves for their own good, work on yourself constantly, get yourself in a good shape, physically and mentally and then look in a mirror: " This is me, I have done what I can, I am happy who I am, take it or leave it." People look at us through our own lenses, if you are not confident and happy with yourself, people feel it and respond to your fears with a caution, thinking: "If this person is not happy with herself, than it must be something wrong with her..."

  11. kingmaxler profile image60
    kingmaxlerposted 6 years ago

    The first mistake is not figuring themselves out first. People often look for that one person that will make their life better. Love should first come from within.

    The second is jumping too fast into a sexual relationship before finding out who the person is through deep communication. We need to learn to open ourselves up and be with others that are also open.

    The third is expecting the other person to understand you. This one ties in the other two. Realize everyone carries baggage. You need to learn if their baggage conflicts with yours. So, communication is key after loving yourself.

  12. profile image50
    Mookiesposted 5 years ago

    Frightening men away

    Most men learn early to be careful when making advances towards women. Because of this, we are usually very nervous about approaching you, even if we give the appearance of being confident. If you always aggressively reject even gentle advances, you'll never have any hope of starting a relationship. It's those women that always constantly do the disgust, nose up in the air and instantly no matter what always so NO... It's just no no no to every man. Also it's these women that constantly listen to their friends advice all the while her friends already have boyfriends, have been or are in long term relationships, married and starting the families. Those friends are just blowing you off and just saying BS to get you off their backs cause they have their married lives, bf's etc.

    Give some men a chance, even if their initial approaches seem bumbling. They may surprise you. It always amazes me how many women I hear say they never meet any good men, while rejecting every new man they meet within seconds. It takes time to get to know people, after all.

    I'm seeing this a lot more these days with single women. They have that "I can tell within 5 minutes if he's boyfriend or marriage guy" mentality. It's the same as a lot of single women rejecting the slightest advances and these mentalities KILLS womens chances cause a lot of these kind of single women have this false, fantasy that there is this somewhere "perfectionist" god like guy out these, just out there somewhere so they think by saying absolutely NO to every guy there is this magical guy just going to fall out of the sky. It's like a lot of single women like beating themselves up cause they want this "perfect" thing and it never ever ever exists. Yup there are those situations where you can tell that it's just not going to work like while on a date and have nothing to talk about, that's obvious!! But women that think they can tell if he's dating material etc. are so screwed until they figure out they have to HANG with him most likely more than ONE DATE.

  13. Andy McGuire profile image79
    Andy McGuireposted 5 years ago

    1. Unrealistic standards of perfection from their potential mate. I think some women do this on an unconscious level to self-sabotage. It's the only viable explanation.

    2. Poor communication. You would not believe how often a woman stops texting or calling or connecting with me in any real way and then later makes it sound like I started ignoring her. I've learned to cut those kinds off ASAP.

    2.5. (ties in with communication) Why do so many woman feel that the best way to tell a guy they are no longer interested in dating him is to just start ignoring him completely? Then when he reaches out thinking things are still on, she leads him on instead of telling the truth?
    Seriously people, when it comes to dating, it's perfectly okay to tell someone, "Hey, I like you, but I don't feel that connection. I wish you luck. Goodbye."
    It's not a breakup! We aren't going to break down and cry, or beg you to take us back. We went on 1 or 2 dates!! Rejection at this point is fine (if it's done respectfully). We've invested both time and money in you, so please just be honest with us and we will respectfully oblige and move on to someone else.
    The dismissive "hope-they-get-the-hint" method is horribly mean and if you do this to people, you are an apathetic douche supreme.

    3. Talking about, and comparing me to, their ex. Every new person is just that, a NEW person. They should always get the benefit of the doubt and a clean slate.