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Did you ever lead a double life?

  1. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    Did you ever lead a double life?

    A secret life hardly anyone new about?


  2. rlaha profile image68
    rlahaposted 6 years ago

    No I never have.  It's hard enough being myself, so I can only imagine... I would be getting my lives crossed somewhere.  Good question!

  3. msorensson profile image72
    msorenssonposted 6 years ago

    I was wondering what that meant, double life, not the Hollywood definition.
    A secret life? No at one level and constantly and continuously on another. Every breath takes us to another world, if we only pay attention.

  4. SopranoRocks profile image59
    SopranoRocksposted 6 years ago

    I was in a way for years and still no one knows the extent of what I as doing.  Hmm I will think if I want to mention it.  I would never go into detail except maybe with a therapist but yes I think I did lead a double life at one time.

  5. Dave Mathews profile image60
    Dave Mathewsposted 6 years ago

    Most everyone leads a double life. There is the true you, then there is the you that others see.

  6. tom hellert profile image60
    tom hellertposted 6 years ago

    ive barely lead a "single" life, more or less a double life.
    I had a double cheeseburger,
    Ive hit a double at baseball,
    I've had double mint gum
    Ive been on double dates
    I eaten double vanilla ice cream
    Double down at Black-jack
    Ive gotten double minor penalties playin hockey
    Ate pizza with double cheese
    I like double chocolate cake

  7. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    I think we all have our own secrets and aspects about ourselves that one or more groups of people we associate with would be "surprised" to know. I for one have always been different around co-workers or business associates than I am around my closest friends and some family members. I don't think of it as being so much as living a "double life" but rather behaving appropriately under given circumstances.

    In other instances one may have a hobby or participate in activites that they just don't dicuss with others (Volunteer work, acting in community theater, playing an instrument in a band, writing...etc) You are always yourself choosing the sides you want others see.

  8. alisha4u profile image38
    alisha4uposted 6 years ago

    We all have some Secrets that are 'not to be disclosed' to the outer world... There are some that could totally re-structure our lifestyle and people's perception... But, these secrets are Hidden...

    Isn's that something you would refer to as Double Life ??

  9. donnaisabella profile image79
    donnaisabellaposted 6 years ago

    Not really? No, I have never led a secret life that I deliberately wanted to hide from others to misrepresent myself. I am way too transparent for that kind of thing, it would not go beyond an hour. However, there are things I have done in my life that I would not want other people to know about because they were not things that made me proud or better. I guess those parts of our lives are better left alone.

  10. Eliminate Cancer profile image59
    Eliminate Cancerposted 6 years ago

    I'm an extremely private person.  There are a lot of things I share with everyone openly, so there is this illusion that nothing is hidden, but there are a lot of thoughts and lives on the inside that only a handful of people see.

    Most of this is because I don't really want to hear the opinions of most people who wouldn't agree with my own life choices.  I chose alternative medicine to treat my cancer, but I never discussed this with my conventional doctors because they would just argue with me.  Their image of the patient in their office, is very different than me as the patient at the Naturopath's office.

    When I was first diagnosed, and separated from my husband, I had to lie to my doctors about where I lived, because I was living out of state, and was afraid the insurance wouldn't cover me.

    And of course, during the trial for my divorce, I had to shut everything down.  It was important that my ex-husband did not know who my friends were, because he might have used anything he knew about them against me.  I have a handful of friends who own guns - he would have used that against me in court, even though it has nothing to do with me as a mother.

    I am very private about relationships too.  Most people don't know that I'm dating someone until it's been about 6 months...   

    That said - I do share everything in my life with my partner.

  11. Cardisa profile image91
    Cardisaposted 6 years ago

    It all depends on what you mean by a double life.

    In the case of cheating on someone - no
    In the case of pretending to be something I am not - no
    In the case of having two different lives - sort of. I lived in the city and I lived a city life but when I went home to the country I led a country life...nothing interesting, immoral or dirty.

    So basically - no

  12. Express10 profile image87
    Express10posted 6 years ago

    I act differently around co-workers than I do with friends and family. I understand that it is quite normal in many companies to socialize with colleague off the job but I have never done that. Most took me as a boring, no-nonsense type and that was fine with me but definitely only a small facet.

  13. zzron profile image56
    zzronposted 6 years ago

    Yes, one while I'm awake, and one while I'm asleep. The one I live while I'm asleep is the much better one!

  14. Peanutritious profile image60
    Peanutritiousposted 6 years ago

    In a way. I was battling the demons of addiction whilst having a career in Teaching. I would sometimes wonder what the kids would think if they knew what my life was really like.

  15. Phelcky profile image60
    Phelckyposted 6 years ago

    Yes when nobody knew about my eating-disorder I definitely felt like I was leading a double life. With all the lying, hiding and so on.

  16. Mary Stuart profile image80
    Mary Stuartposted 6 years ago

    Sort of. When i was in the process of leaving my abuser I had to be very private and set things in order by day and pretend to be reasonable happy and normal in the evening. That was very stressful.

  17. juiwei2000 profile image61
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    Of course I got a double life, on daytime, I am a reporter for the daily planet, during night, I am "SUPER MAN!!!"