How do you handle secrets that come out years after

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    bobcat1posted 6 years ago

    How do you handle secrets that come out years after

    twenty five years ago my wife was raped by a man I thought was my friend she did not tell me fear tha t this person would hurt me  this just came out recently I know she s not liar because she always tells me  and this guy at the time was out of control

  2. tinigenie profile image61
    tinigenieposted 6 years ago

    It depends on the secret and how serious it is.  Hopefully it is one of those type of secrets that didn't hurt anyone by being kept and everyone can move on.  Most of the time that is not the case though, hence the meaning of the word "secret".  Someone revealed a secret to me,and it actually involved me.  I felt really hurt and wanted to know why they hadn't told me.  I came to the conclusion that this person was not a real friend and had deceived me into thinking she was.  She had heard a rumor and believed it. When i told her about this person and their ways from the beginning.  I ended up losing this so-called friend. Yet, I have no regrets because I was always a loyal and honest friend.  Although her absence hurts, I will be okay because I didn't do anything wrong.  I realized that she did not come to me because ,in her heart of hearts, she knew the truth and did not want to reveal her foolishness to me; because, she knew that I would get angry.  You do not approach people with questions when you do not want the answer or already know it.  Sometimes character speaks for itself,and I know that I cared about her too much to deceive.

  3. Daxman profile image59
    Daxmanposted 6 years ago

    I just look'em dead in the eye and go: "Wasn't me..." smile