How do you handle secrets that come out years after
twenty five years ago my wife was raped by a man I thought was my friend she did not tell me fear tha t this person would hurt me this just came out recently I know she s not liar because she always tells me and this guy at the time was out of control
It depends on the secret and how serious it is. Hopefully it is one of those type of secrets that didn't hurt anyone by being kept and everyone can move on. Most of the time that is not the case though, hence the meaning of the word "secret". Someone revealed a secret to me,and it actually involved me. I felt really hurt and wanted to know why they hadn't told me. I came to the conclusion that this person was not a real friend and had deceived me into thinking she was. She had heard a rumor and believed it. When i told her about this person and their ways from the beginning. I ended up losing this so-called friend. Yet, I have no regrets because I was always a loyal and honest friend. Although her absence hurts, I will be okay because I didn't do anything wrong. I realized that she did not come to me because ,in her heart of hearts, she knew the truth and did not want to reveal her foolishness to me; because, she knew that I would get angry. You do not approach people with questions when you do not want the answer or already know it. Sometimes character speaks for itself,and I know that I cared about her too much to deceive.
by sir_tallest 7 years ago
How would you handle a friend who shared you intimate secrets you shared with him or her...................with everyone else
by Susan Reid 6 years ago
Let's say you found out your spouse/significant other (long-term) had been keeping a secret about him/herself from you.Something they could easily have come clean about at any time, but did not.Would you be more disturbed by the secret itself?Or the fact that s/he has been holding this information...
by Brett Winn 6 years ago
How do you handle a "friend" who delights in contradicting your every thought and opinion?
by LoriSoard 19 months ago
How would you handle a friend who insults you and seems jealous?So, I have a friend. No, I can't just not be friends, because we are in the same circle of friends. She insults me. If something good happens, she points out the potential negative. If I get something new, she says, "Only the best...
by Johnathan David 15 months ago
What's the difference between a friend, a true friend and a best friend?I just want your viewpoints on the certain stages of friendship and what they mean to you..
by bobcat1 6 years ago
Why do I feel so hurt about a affair that happened years ago when my wife and I were younger she told me about a sexual encounter she had but lied about details twenty years later she acused me of sleeping with one of my friends wife it didnt happen started a arguement I...
Copyright © 2018 HubPages Inc. and respective owners. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc. HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.
|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|