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How do you handle a "friend" who delights in contradicting your every thought an

  1. Brett Winn profile image87
    Brett Winnposted 5 years ago

    How do you handle a "friend" who delights in contradicting your every thought and opinion?

  2. homesteadbound profile image89
    homesteadboundposted 5 years ago

    I would have to consider whether they really were my friend or not. I think it would be difficult to be friends with someone who you appear to have nothing in common with and who appears to want to control how you think and feel.

  3. Brett Winn profile image87
    Brett Winnposted 5 years ago

    it's more like this friend seems to want to both compete and contradict me in everything I do and say. I think you said a lot in your first sentence ... makes me sad, though.

  4. pjpitts profile image71
    pjpittsposted 5 years ago

    I agree with homesteadbound about the "friend" actually being a real friend or not.  This person sounds like someone who feels better about themselves by putting other people down, like a power trip. This type of thing has happened to me and it is draining and confusing, not to mention hurtful!  If this person is someone important you could ask them why they are acting that way or if something is bothering them and see if they will level with you, if they won't do that, then  I would consider putting some distance between myself and the "friend."  Good luck!!

  5. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    I would change them from being a friend to an acquaintance.  Someone like that is so hard to be around.  If you can't talk to them and get them to stop - and that is unlikely if that is who they are - I would spend less time with the person.

  6. alisha4u profile image40
    alisha4uposted 5 years ago

    Keep mum....wait for them to finish up contradiciting... Give a pleasant smile...
    Reply only when you have a strong point (in a group of friends)... and 'Sew their Mouth' !!

  7. MsDora profile image95
    MsDoraposted 5 years ago

    Find out the reason for your friend's behavior.  Need for control?  Looking for recognition?  Have inferiority complex?  Help him/her deal with the issue if he/she needs help?  Otherwise, change the relationship if it bothers you enough.

  8. JayDeck profile image71
    JayDeckposted 5 years ago

    You excise them from your circle of friends. You know, they could be asking the question, "What do you do with a friend that is always on the wrong side of every issue?"

  9. Mercia Collins profile image70
    Mercia Collinsposted 5 years ago

    It depends why they are doing it. Young males often do this. It could be immaturity, jealousy, mind games.

    However, do bear in mind that a true friend does not always agree with you. A true friend tells you in private when he or she believes that you are wrong about something and this is especially important when your friend believes that your thoughts or opinions could lead you into danger or harm.

    You should ask your friend why he or she feels the need to contradict you, privately, not in front of others.

    Friends do not always have exactly the same thoughts and opinions about every single thing and sometimes it is very important that they do not.

  10. feenix profile image60
    feenixposted 5 years ago

    If I had a "friend" who obviously "delights" in contradicting all of my thoughts and opinions, I would cease to have a friendship with that person.

    Every time his/her name would show up on my caller I.D., I would not answer the call, and I would avoid being at the same place at the same time he/she is there.

  11. Beege215e profile image66
    Beege215eposted 5 years ago

    I don't think I would want to "handle" a "friend" like this.  I cannot change the people around me. I can only "handle" myself.  And I would take my handle and walk away.  Should that person come back to me later I would quietly and as gently as possible tell them why I walked away.  And I would walk away again to give them time to consider my response. If they would then choose to come back to me again, I would give them a second chance (we all need them sometimes).
    And now comes the "but".  But should they violate my personal rules again, we are done.

  12. Beata Stasak profile image83
    Beata Stasakposted 5 years ago

    I have married him and now I am working on my verbal skills in myriad of discussions and negotiations every day...let just say I like to be challenged..it is part of learning and growing...

  13. Peter Allison profile image78
    Peter Allisonposted 5 years ago

    Marry her/him? LOL That's what I did. The joy is in the dialog and in the journey.

  14. Silva Hayes profile image92
    Silva Hayesposted 5 years ago

    I would place some distance between myself and that "friend."  You probably can't change their behavior, and you should give some thought as to whether the friendship is benefitting you or damaging you.