Can anyone give me some real reasons why a couple should get married?

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  1. Daxman profile image60
    Daxmanposted 7 years ago

    Can anyone give me some real reasons why a couple should get married?

    Marriage has just become the signing of a paper basically. I'm wondering what the actual difference is between getting married and living together as partners for life..?

  2. alisha4u profile image38
    alisha4uposted 7 years ago

    Anything legal is better than something illegal.. I understand that in some places, it has become just a formality or an obligation, but still it is very mcuh needed.

    Living-in is one's own free will. If they want to, they will; if they don't you are nobody to curb them..

  3. Moms-Secret profile image82
    Moms-Secretposted 7 years ago

    Marriage is a beautiful statement.  Most women are naturally giving.  They will make a life with a man and make an oath to take care of him, take care of the home, give him children and more. In doing this, they change their lives to include men.  While it is usually overlooked, it is a gift. 

    To me, marriage represents a couple of things.  First, it is a proclamation.  It says that you are a part of me.  It is an oath.  It says that I proclaim that your are with me for life.  It is a commitment.  I am your partner in life.  I choose to live all my days with you.  I am with you in the good, the bad, and the ugly.  You are worth all the work it takes to live a happy life.  I could go on...

    Some of the legalities...
    Your spouse is your legal next of kin.  After a life together, should one of you die, the other is at risk of loosing everything.  Everything that came from a life together will now have to be shared or possibly lost to the legal next of kin (Children or Parents).  Some people love their partners despite the negative feedback from families.  In these situations, the mate would not be allowed to participate in the final arrangements and can sometimes be excluded from the service. 
    Homes that were lived in by the two of you, if purchased under one name (the deceased) will be taken away, under two names, may result in a fight to stay in the home since their half now will belong to others.  Then there is the matter of social security benefits that are not given to you because you were not a husband or wife.  So when you are at your lowest point, there is no assistance or rights for you to help you get thru.

    If one is hospitalized and decisions need to be made, that person which was most trusted is reduced to a boyfriend or girlfriend which is not considered legal family.  Not only will you not be able to make decisions but you may not even be allowed into the room. 

    Unfortunately, it is during the most difficult times in life that you will notice how insignificant being a boyfriend or girlfriend is.  These days it is, unfortunately, normal to live without a commitment to marriages or family.  Everything is very 'disposable'.

    The oath is still important to some....

  4. cloverleaffarm profile image77
    cloverleaffarmposted 7 years ago

    True marriage is not just a "signing of paper". True marriage is in the heart. While you can be married in your heart, if you are not married on paper, you have very limited to no legal rights. If your partner is in the hospital, they will not speak to you. If the person dies, you get nothing. I know, they can put you in the will, but it can be contested much more easily by members of the family.
    Commitment is also very important. If you are just living together, that person can leave at any given notice...easily. It's not so easy to leave if you are married.
    I myself would rather be married. I like the commitment that it means.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Marriage is a life-style choice. Nothing "magical" happens after saying "I do". (We are who we are.) Certainly there are some legal benefits to marriage and some people feel being married is (more) of a "commitment" than living together despite the high rate of divorce. If you're looking for a "real reason" to get married there is only one. (It's because you and significant other WANT to.) It's that simple! No one should have to explain why they chose to get married or opted to stay single. It's your life. It's your choice!
    Having said that if you are with someone who wants to get married and you don't then you're wasting each other's time. Ultmately we're all looking for someone who (naturally agrees) with us on the major things in life. Unfortnately quite a few people would rather invest time and energy trying to persuade one another to "change his or her mind " instead of seeking out someone who (already) wants what they want.

  6. Hubpage Gal profile image61
    Hubpage Galposted 7 years ago

    With the high divorce rate the question why a couple should get married is plausible.   But most people do not read the stats on divorces and are just enthralled with the one they are in love with at the time of the marriage proposals.

  7. profile image0
    CJ Sledgehammerposted 7 years ago

    Well, Daxman, research has shown that living together before marriage is a recipe for disaster. This is to say that the divorce rate for those who cohabitate prior to marriage is 50% higher than those who don't.

    It is also true that a marriage certificate is just a piece of paper, but it is a piece of paper that is symbolic of one's word of honor. If one or both participants lack honor, then the marriage certificate is not even worth the cost of the paper and ink.

    People pretty much get out of marriage what they put into it. Now, it is true that it only takes one party to destroy a good marriage, but it requires (bride and groom) to give their all, in order for it to flourish.

    I contend that marriage is far more than just paper, pen, and preacher. It is a grand institution that has been corrupted by compromised characters and from lawmakers who have no idea what marriage really is. If you and your fiance think it is will be sacred regardless of the jokers and pretenders who try to make it into something it's not.


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