Have you kept any keepsakes that remind you of a partner you are no longer with?

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   gabrielthomas72posted 12 years ago

   Have you kept any keepsakes that remind you of a partner you are no longer with?
   
   Is there anything that you have kept from a previously reltionship that reminds you of that person? If you have why have you kept it?

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   Jewelz1313posted 12 years ago

   No. The last one I burned everything. When I'm done with someone I'm REALLY done with them.

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   Moms-Secretposted 12 years ago

   I am proud to say that I have.  Our pasts help mold our futures.  I believe in this so much that I stopped my husband from throwing out couple pictures of his past.  I only just got rid of them since he is no longer here to share the stories.
   
     One day we will be old and many of us will have lost our memories.  This is great for all the bad, but sad for all the sad and silly stories.  I want to share my 'what was I thinking's' with my daughter and grand children.  I want them to see how attractive grandma was as a girl.  When the ridiculous boy with the 'bad boy' persona shows up, I want to show them mine, tell stories, and show that in the long run that boy was a joke.
   
   I keep pictures, letters, and jewelry.  I put them in a box that I rarely open but when I do, there is always a laugh.  You can go much farther in your future if you respect and embrace your past...

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   gabrielthomas72posted 12 years ago

   Cheers @Moms-Secret! Have to admit I have some pix of an ex from really good times and they make me smile if I look at them. We're still in touch and are friends, I agree with your comment on the past building our future selves.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   No, nothing left.  Usually those endings weren't pleasant so keepsakes would have been a bittersweet reminder of some really sad times.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   Yes. I have a few things. Pictures from three years ago. A box or necklace from two and a half years ago.

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   freebiescityposted 12 years ago

   Years ago, I moved to a different continent under the guise of attending college – the truth is I was going through a rebellious stage and wanted to prove to myself that I could survive all on my own in the big bad world. Plus I was running away... read more

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   Hubpage Galposted 12 years ago

   gabrielthomas72, once you fall in love there is no need for a keepsake.  Falling in love is a life experience that just as any other experience, memories can be saved forever.

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   Mary Stuartposted 12 years ago

   Yes. I still have a book and a favorite polar bear miniature from my great love. I treasure his gifts and the sweet times we had together. I doubt that I will ever toss the the polar bear. it is in my curio next to my Lladro polar bears. He is very small in comparison!

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    Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

    Sure.  I've kept stuff that reminds me of a time in my life - not particularly the person, but since there was someone else "in the equation", that means that "someone else" is also associated with the thing(s) I kept as part of "the story of my life".  Some stuff I've kept as part of "the story of my life" isn't even about the good times.  The story is the story.  While I most often keep the nice reminders of one time or another, I've at times kept a thing or two from times I'd rather not remember (but that were a big enough thing in my life that having an small item or two from it means not completing "obliterating" the less-than-great times either.
    
    The longer we're with someone, the bigger part of our "story" they've been.  I think of what follows something that has ended as the end of a chapter, or even the end of a particular volume of a series of "books".  We end chapters, or close one volume; and then move on to the next.  I don't think that should mean having to rip out previous chapters or burn volumes we're already read or shared with "readers" (either us of anyone with whom we'd like to share our story). 
    
    The things I've kept are pretty much "just stuff" to me.  They don't mean anything more, other than that they are mine and a part of my own, individual, story; which has all kinds of parts to it and which has made me the person I am to this point.

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    Daughter Of Maatposted 12 years ago

    Yes, I have a whole box of stuff from a highschool sweetheart. I don't know why I have it, it has a bunch of love letters in it, a teddy bear. I really don't know why I still have it, I guess because it was an important part of my life, it was the first time I THOUGHT I was in love. Looking back on it though I was completely miserable.

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    paralegalproposted 12 years ago

    I have. Although we are no longer together, we had many wonderful years together. The fact that our relationship ended has not negated all the wonderful moments we shared. I see nothing wrong with remembering the good times in our lives, even if they were times shared with an ex-lover.

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