ok so when single that dreaded first date lurks...anyone have any good advice, techniques or tips to get past this one?
there is a hubber here with a lot of good advice about dating.
http://hubpages.com/profile/stricktlydating
first dates can be tough, I would skip too personal questions.
I went out once with a man who did handle it like an interview.
it was not natural, even though I understood he was trying to find out more about me. I finally said, I feel like I'm on a job interview.
I think getting to know each other has to come naturally in the flow of whatever you're doing. keep it upbeat, positive, no bashing former relationships. good luck, enjoy!
I would change my perception of the "first date"... Do not dread it, see it as an opportunity to meet someone new, nothing more. Do not put any greater expectation into it, only that you're spending some time to get to know a stranger a little better. Don't rush to get past it, don't be nervous, be yourself. It's not a job interview, it's really some time to be social on a one on one level with someone you may want to hang out with again.
Do whatever it is that helps you to relax before heading out on the date.
Do not make it feel like your taking a college exam... Plus a little laughter can always go a long way, laughter opens people up, try something not as stuffy and more relaxed atmosphere like a comedy club or seeing a funny movie/play and dinner. Or even a dinner theater that has a funny show...
The point is, relax, laugh, and don't take each other too seriously. Be calm, cool, collected... You'll end up looking forward to the next one.
Relax!
the worst thing that can happen is, that nothing happens .
aint that the truth! and that is was usually does happen! Pleasant is one step above "nothing happens" meaning it can be nice company but no sparks flying!
Be who you really are; rather than who you want your date to think that you are. Most people struggle to be natural and open.. I've found that this comes from their inability to be confident in themselves. Self confidence comes from not needing to be prententious. It is also very sexy.
The only 'interview' technique that you need is knowing when the other person is lying to you (and ultimately themself). Eye contact gives you that ability; along with noting how often they feel the need to touch their face when speaking directly to you.
And if your date is a Scorpio.... who maintains eye contact, is humorous, relaxed and self confident... Your second date will be your best!
My son is a dating fool! He loves to have fun! He always arranges something fun with a group on the first date just to make sure it's all good. Mini-golf, bowling, go-carts, zoo, museums, plays things a group can do then he see how things gel. He's in college and they all have water fights and also play volleyball this may not be appropriate for the less active.
Wavegirl, I agree, be yourself, he asked you out because he liked you enough and you weren't putting an act the whole time he's known you have you? Remember the date is also a chance to find out whether you like him enough as well.
hi everyone, i have written an article about it, if you have time you can take a look at it..thanks http://hubpages.com/hub/-Tips-on-how-to … first-date
Just be yourself, well unless your on Hubpages then be whoever you want
lololol, can I just be a horse forever,,
dont ask personal questions just yet, (how much he earn, exes etc... and always look at him in the eye, listen to him lol and yes let him pay the bill............
it's a long time since I dated, but I would say try and stay relaxed, and have a plan of action as you never know when you might need an escape route. Talk about things that are interesting, and most of all listen, as a woman rabiting at sixty per second can be rather off putting. Ask lots of questions, and try to stay awake lol.
Make sure he pays the bill and if he asks you to go shares...dump him.
I did pay and she dumped me anyway, so don't pay the bill until you get your fill
I am a Poet
lololol, pay first before filling in, gasoline eh...before making your date read this http://hubpages.com/hub/-Tips-on-how-to … first-date
Nahhhhhhhhhhh, and I would cancel my online dating site but for the fact it's a free site. Only yesterday I got an email from a 65 year old, be ok if she was a redhead but I do have standards !
how about black hair and 30s....and jump like a horsie...
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