How do you impress someone on a first date? What turns you on or off?

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  1. quildon profile image76
    quildonposted 4 years ago

    How do you impress someone on a first date? What turns you on or off?

  2. Lee Tea profile image91
    Lee Teaposted 4 years ago

    Oh boy I haven't dated in over 10 years lol...

    but I'd always be impressed by someone who just handles the whole date.  Pays for everything, and has a plan from beginning to end.  Maybe he gives me options, but if I can't decide, he'd still know where to go and what to do.

    Which I guess would explain my turn off of someone not knowing what to do.  If I can't decide, he doesn't know, and things get awkward real fast.  Insecurity and lack of confidence.

    1. quildon profile image76
      quildonposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Guess there wouldn't be a second date if he doesn't know what to do. You and I come from the old school where we expect the man to take the lead. Thanks for your comment, Lee!

  3. bethperry profile image93
    bethperryposted 4 years ago

    During my dating years I took special care to listen to what my date had to say and not hog the conversation. I also remembered not to order the most expensive food on the menu (my Mama drilled that into me, lol). And I always took pains to make myself as attractive as possible, but without making my date wait around looking at his watch.

    What turned me off on a date? A guy that showed up without bathing or brushing his teeth I also got turned off on guys that nitpicked everything the servers brought to the table, or those who were too cheap to leave a tip. I have never had much patience with whiners. Lastly, any guy that showed up drunk, high or stinking of another woman, simply didn't enter my door.

    1. quildon profile image76
      quildonposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Good for you, bethperry! I don't think I would go out with a guy who showed poor hygiene.

  4. Josh Makaveli profile image35
    Josh Makaveliposted 4 years ago

    well i impress by being soft and gentle and taking care of everything in a very sophisticated manner. To let her realize that she is the only one and etc
    you have to be sharp and keen in any case

    1. quildon profile image76
      quildonposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You sound like a great guy to go out with, Josh. Thanks for your comment!

  5. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Actually I always advise people to simply "be yourself".
    Too often when people bend over backwards to (impress) someone they're not being their "authentic self". The end result is a "bait & switch" scenario in which someone tells you what they think you want to hear or behave a certain way in order to win you over. Once there is an emotional investment on your part they show who they really are. It's not uncommon to hear someone say;
    "He/she is not the same person I fell in love with."
    Instead of trying to impress someone the first date should be about establishing rapport and determining whether or not you have enough chemistry and things in common to warrant any future dates.
    Once you decide to "be yourself" much of the first date jitters fades away. A lot of people have forgotten that dating is supposed to be a fun sociable activity. The truth of the matter is if either person does not have a good time on a first date then there will not be a second date! The first date should be light and easy going instead of using interrogation questions. Instead of asking someone; "Where do you see yourself in 5 years" you should focus on how "tonight" is going.
    First date questions should be “ice breakers” and encourage the other person to relax. What led you to ask me out? What do you enjoy doing for fun? If you could visit any place in the world where would you like to go? What is your favorite type of food? Who is your all-time favorite singer/band? What is the funniest thing you ever heard or saw? Even with these questions you don’t want to ask them in “rapid fire” style.
    Dating should be a fun exploratory process. When people feel relaxed and comfortable they reveal more about themselves. Awhile back I wrote on this. … econd-date

    1. quildon profile image76
      quildonposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very helpful comments, dashingscorpio. I think "be yourself" is one of the best.

  6. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    I'm with Lee Tea. I would want the man to handle the entire date, have it planned. I am very turned on my very masculine men (which seem to becoming more and more rare). I want to be treated like a lady and as bethperry says, I would attempt to be a good listener.

    1. quildon profile image76
      quildonposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You are right, duffsmom. Masculine men and men who take the lead are becoming more and more rare. It might be that we are confusing them. LOL

  7. c-m-hall profile image74
    c-m-hallposted 4 years ago

    I'm more interested whether they impress me or not ... I like someone who is comfortable and genuine ...

    1. quildon profile image76
      quildonposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Of course, you need to be impressed as well. Thanks for your comment.


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