Two male public figures have recently ruined their lives over young mistresses.

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   brakel2posted 13 years ago

   Two male public figures have recently ruined their  lives over young mistresses. Why do men do this?
   
   These men are married and both lost their jobs over the situation. One was in sports and one a company CEO. They have so much to lose to persist in destructive behavior.

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   Ramsa1posted 13 years ago

   I think that a lot of men do it but aren't caught. Hormones, animal instinct - call it what you will, it happens. Also, wealthy, powerful and successful men have very strong sex drives.
   
   But there is a lot of blame to go around - the man, his wife, and the young babe. Not judging, just sayin'.

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   MickSposted 13 years ago

   For the same reasons as women in the public eye do it, lack of self control.

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   bankscottageposted 13 years ago

   I don't know why the man would do it, but I really wonder why a young woman would do it.  Why would a young woman get involved in a secret relationship with a man they know is married?  A man that they know, or should know, who will not make a committment to them.  Do they live in a fairytale or think the story will have a fairytale ending?

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   PurvisBobbi44posted 13 years ago

   There is no excuse when a man is married--- it is because he is weak, that is why he cheats.
   
   A strong man builds a family's trust and loves and supports them.
   
   A weak man cannot keep his zipper up.
   
   A strong man is not tempted.
   
   A weak man is looking for temptation.
   
   And if he does it once—he will do it again.
   
   And I am not one of those “Stand by Your Man” women; I am the one who will kick him into orbit—.
   
   If a man did that to me—then he is no longer good enough for me.
   
   I do not buy into men and all the excuses they give---bottom line---if they want to be with different women all the time---therefore, they should have stayed single.

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   Old Empresarioposted 13 years ago

   I don't know--probably because their wives stopped having sex with them. Who knows? Women cheat too by the way. And don't let the media be your guide to the real world. It has a way of magnifying insignificant events and making them seem like a reflection of society. As in the case with athletes...the women usually marry the man for his money and fame. In that case, the gold diggers deserve to be cuckolded.

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   procreate-lightposted 13 years ago

   I agree with PurvisBobbi44.
   
   It's a character issue.  You either have it or you don't. It takes more strength to do the right thing in most cases than the wrong thing. Especially strength of ego and self.
   Character is who you are when you don't think anyone is watching you.
   
   The shame is how much attention the media gives these topics instead of the ones which really need to be spread that are positive and uplifting and serve as GOOD examples.

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   ShepherdLoverposted 13 years ago

   Lack of self-control and also arrogance.  Often people who become public figures have very high self-confidence, which is a good thing to a point!  Then there are those who develop a little too much self-confidence (which turns confidence into arrogance) which leads them to feel that rules do not apply to them and that they are too clever to get caught (though as we've seen, they usually turn out to be incorrect on that one).

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   ExLeftistposted 13 years ago

   Men do this because they are males and they are wired to do this.  History shows us it's part of the natural order.  At one time in Judeo-Christian history men had more than one wife and also had concubines.  I'm not a female so I can't answer what makes women do it.  I think these matters should stay private between a husband and wife.  I don't believe publicizing these cases helps.  Rather it shows less powerful men and women that "everybody's doing it".  Hats off to men and women who maintain life long fidelity in today's world.  You are strong people.

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    wmhoward4posted 13 years ago

    A better question would be what kind of man does NOT do this. Then we can be among people like that.
    
    These are the guys who would rather stay on the couch with the wife than go have a few beers with the guys. They call her often when out of town or working over. He does not check out the waitress or other mammary bearing beings when you go to dinner. When you are away he feels incomplete and even uneasy. Most of all, the word commitment is not scary to this loyal being.
    
    Chances are you saw him always respect his mother. He thanked you for becoming the mother of his children. When you had to go up a dress size or two, he still chased you around the bedroom because his turn on was simply you and only you.

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    Eric Pradoposted 13 years ago

    News flash.... Women do it too. Who do you think they were cheating with?

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    DzyMsLizzyposted 12 years ago

    Because they are always thinking with the wrong 'head.'  It's as simple as that, unfortunately.
    Sadly, it's not only the men...they obviously have to "do it" WITH someone...so the women they end up with in these situations are equally guilty of faulty thinking.
    Or, perhaps it is society that is guilty, for forcing monogamy on a species not truly programmed for it?  I don't know--I have not studied that aspect--it's merely a suggestion tossed out there.

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