Why on earth do you think 60 year old wrinkly fat bald men get 21 year old girls

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   James-wolveposted 11 years ago

   Why on earth do you think 60 year old wrinkly fat bald men get 21 year old girls?
   
   Even if it were “natural,” there’s nothing innocent or harmless or healthy about older men pursuing ceaselessly younger women. The cost is high to everyone involved. While a few young women may be attracted to much older guys (often because they falsely imagine themselves to be “so much more mature” than “other girls” their age) .What do you think?
   
   

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      TheShadowSpecterposted 12 months agoin reply to this

      It doesn't seem to be a problem in the Philippines.  But I get what you're saying.  If women that young are attracted to older men in that age range, you have to wonder why they don't go for a 60-year-old man who looks like John Stamos instead.

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   FatFreddysCatposted 11 years ago

   One of two possibilities... he's either rich as hell, or he's got a huge organ.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe the first possibility,because woman are biologically hotwired to choose a partner that is going to be best able to provide just as men are biologically hotwired to be attracted to women who are most likely to provide healthy offspring.

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      lone77starposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Dumb! And just as judgmental as the question.

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      FatFreddysCatposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well, I see someone is humor impaired...

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   Rosana Modugnoposted 11 years ago

   I've dated older men and it had nothing to do with money or the size of their organs.  I have never been a shallow person or superficial so some of the men I've dated, would probably scare some of you. lol  I have always been very sensitive to a man's aura, or his energy when he's around me.  Numbers never mattered and still don't.  I can date a much older man like I can date a much younger one.   
   
   Being able to engage in stimulating conversation, listening to stories about a world I was never born in or experienced was addicting to me. I loved listening to stories and learning about life from someone who's already been there, done that.
   
   Of course there has to be some sort of physical attractiveness, I agree but that depends on the person and how they treat me, how I feel around them.   
   
   Older men are wonderful, gentle, secure in themselves, intelligent, experienced, they don't play games or have drama in their lives.  Their kids are grown, they are probably retired or financially stable (I'm not saying rich here, just financially mature).  These are the same qualities a younger man looks for in an older woman.   
   
   Plus, older men are attracted to younger women just as most men are attracted to younger women;  they have a natural instinct to reproduce.  The one with the wider hips will be more attractive because she's viewed as a better child bearer.  Look it up.
   
   I guess I'm coming in defense of the older gentleman because I love all men and just because he's 60, doesn't mean he's out of shape.  I know a lot of men over 60 who would put any man half his age to shame. 
   
   Maybe we need to stop stereotyping people because of their age and assuming that just because a woman is with an older man, he has to have money or a big member.  Maybe he's just a sweet man who knows how to treat her with respect, loyalty and love.  Maybe they are happy together and that's all we should concern ourselves with.

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      cleaner3posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      you are a wise and intelligent real woman. I would love to have met you  , there are few women that have your real perspective on life .  I could very easily fall in love with you for your mind .   Let me write you some poetry.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Honestly,when I first was watching a movie : Autumn in New York by Richard Gere and Winona Ryder,I couldnt continue the watching .It was about an old man , falls for a young woman who looks like granddaughter .That s why I said earlier it s unnatural

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      shivanchirakkal10posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Dear cleaner, I agree with you. Attraction is not based on finance(money) or in age preference. It is based on mental attraction, it may occur due to nice words, helps, friendship and so many such ground. Old people will, I think, more trust worthy.

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      Peanutritiousposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      'Attraction is not based on finance'?  well, all the young girls with sugar dadies must be an illusion then. The only old guys I know with young girls are loaded.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      There are many types of attraction.In this case,only finance which attracts girls to old men.Have you ever seen a young girl with an old poor guy?and how could a girl bear the diaper changes and being  nurse    ?

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      lone77starposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Beautiful, @Rosana Modugno. My wife and I got married 5 years ago (27+57). I'm not rich, but I am spiritual. And we're still deeply in love. And isn't love all that matters?

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      Gertrude Oposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Need i add more...you are awesome!!! How i can share this Rosana?

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      James-wolveposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      As Paramore says:Maybe you are the only exception

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   That is extremely frightening. She could be his or his friends granddaughter!

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes,It s frightening.I suggest to read if you have time a book  talks about it.It s very interesting .. I m sure you won t  put it down till you finish it.it s called Sugar Daddy Diaries: When a Fantasy Became an Obsession by Helen Croydon.

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      lone77starposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      @lburmaster, so you live in a world without love? Curious!

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      lburmasterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      No. My parents have been together for 25 years. The biggest age difference I've seen is 12 years between a married couple which is my marriage. Once you can be their children, it turns into a frightening matter.

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   Esther Strongposted 11 years ago

   My knee jerk reaction is that it's all about money but, as with all things in life, there are exceptions.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Of course there are but it s probably looking for a father figure.

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   edhanposted 11 years ago

   Love has no boundary if it is real.
   
   I fell in love with my wife at first sight and so is she. We got married in 3 weeks and looking back, it was indeed the best days of our lives.
   
   Till now, we are still happily married. So, I do believe in true love that is not set by our age.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      How older are you than her.If you dont like to answer ,It s okey .I understand.I m just curious and I don t mean any offence.

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      lone77starposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Beautiful, @edhan. And I do find @James-wolve's questions offensive. True love is a beautiful thing. Sad that so many are so quick to judge and never think of love.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      First of all,There is no true or fake love.There is only love .The real  everlasting love is God.The only one who loves us for who we are and whatever we do.He is always there when we need him.Human s love is defective and flimsy..

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      edhanposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      She is a few months older than me!

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      James-wolveposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Few months or years the gap is no problem,but huge it is.

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   stclairjackposted 11 years ago

   while its outside the norm,.... i think a great many of us need to grow up,.... i know many 60 year old men that have a great deal to offer,.... none of which has anything to do with $$$ or "size".... if the boys of the world are angry because the hot girl choose the old fart over the young stud,.... perhaps they should take a long hard look (pun intended) at the old fart and see just exactly what it is that atracted the hot young lady,....... more than likely it was a maturity level that men in thier 20's flat out dont posses these days,.... its possible that he takes the time to listen,..... it could be that he has his life in order and isnt wrapped up in a continuous string of jr high drama moments,.............
   
   never underestimate the knowledge and wisdom that 60 years brings to the table,........ of course having a fat bank account and an Rx for viagra doesnt hurt,...... but if the fling becomes a bonifide relationship,..... theres more to it than sex and money.
   
   besides boys,...... you'll be 60 some day,.... and I ASSURE YOU...... you will be asking this question from a compleetely different perspective.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      We guys aren t jealous.it's just prostitution with another label.
      Let's face it women of this sort won't hang around for the old man's cancer treatments or diaper changes., these women are just emotionless gold digger

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         TheShadowSpecterposted 12 months agoin reply to this

         Like Anna Nicole Smith?  Well, her husband was much older than 60 years old.  Her husband was old enough to be the father of a 60-year-old man, and she was only 26 years old when she tied the knot.

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      lone77starposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      @stclairjack, beautifully put.
      
      @James-wolve, you're full of crap. You must not have ever heard of "love." I guess the concept is just too deep for you.

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      stclairjackposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      some of us seem awfully wrapped up in diapers and cancer,.... life is more than the ending,... life is best off lived rather then wasted in the life long contemplation of death,.... if you only thought of shitting you'd never eat.

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      TheShadowSpecterposted 12 months agoin reply to this

      LOL!  A 60-year-old man who has a 21-year-old wife doesn't likely need Viagra.  While he is still under 65 years of age (the main eligibility age for social security) and his father is still alive, he likely doesn't see himself as an old man yet.

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   Garifaliaposted 11 years ago

   Good question. I do believe it has to do with the Oedipal Complex (for boys) and Electra Comples (for girls). For those that are not aware, it's when a woman tries to find her father in older men because those girls feel desire for their fathers and jealousy for their mothers. It has to do with growing up and getting roles confused because of the complexities in the family relationships.
   
   I have a young neighbour (32-33) who married a man she fell in love with over the Internet; he's my age (around 50-and unattractive) and her dad is 59. She seems happy and to truly love this man--they have a baby too. Some of these mature men have greater understanding because they have already been 'though the process' others happen to have status and still others a pocket book to match their age. Each young lady has her individual reasons.
   Once I had fallen in love with a man about 15 years older than me. He swept me off my feet with his charms & his deep blue eyes (I was 21 and he 36). He left and I ended up marrying an even better man only 2 years older than me (tall dark & handsome). In my case, it was just 'chemistry'.
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   For you gents that comment about 'size', know that it matters only in cheap Adult films and in male minds. Women function differently.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think 10 or 15 years difference is not much if you are especially in the thirtieth.Satisfying women has nothing to do with size.takes more than height to make a great basketball player, and more than biceps to make a standout football star.

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      Garifaliaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe an 18 yr old would think a 33 yr old man is too old.. but personally I think he would be in his prime.. matured, has life experiences,and can help her..also the older you get, age differences seem to dissolve..

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   I hate to judge because I can't see inside someone's heart but my first gut response is - ICK--and my second gut response is to gag.

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      we are not judging people  her or scaring these women off going out with older men:)

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      duffsmomposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It was not my intent to say "we" are judging people here. I was saying that when I see it in public, I try not to judge, but my gut response overrules my intent. ""

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      James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You right.I got your  point,Sorry:)

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      lostohanababyposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Its about what two people are feeling for each other. Intimate and Personal.  It may be awkward to you but it is accepted socially today.  As they love each other, that's what counts!

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      TheShadowSpecterposted 12 months agoin reply to this

      Yeah, but what I notice is that these 60-year-old men with a 21-year-old wife or girlfriend have a certain sense of humility.   On the other hand, these glamor boys who are popular all throughout adolescence and marry their high-school sweetheart at age 19 or 20 are flamboyant and like to brag about themselves and boast about how young they started their marriage and family.  It's like a Tony-Danza-style ego trip for them.  They ruin high-school reunions for everyone else.

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    shivanchirakkal10posted 11 years ago

    James-wolve,
    It is the question of attraction. To attract each other or two mind,  AGE is not at all a constraints. They may have enjoy the sweetness of life which no one else can give. The young lady find love, satisfaction, trust, and all such what she need.
    The sex and love, it is depend up on personal choice. And it is wrong to think that only young and youth can satisfy woman. Physical strength is different and between man and woman mental satisfaction is more important and I think woman gives more  importance in this regard.
    Any way let us congratulate the man at 60+ who are lucky win a young woman's heart.

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       James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Security and monetary appreciation is important to most women.But I found it weird and Just a  passing note:
       The press and governments in the UK and US for years have been anti old younger relations funny that it has now become acceptable .

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       lostohanababyposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Normal and Healthy.  There will always be a percentage that won't agree, that's okay to have an opinion!   Their friendship and happiness is what makes their relationship..shine!

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    lone77starposted 11 years ago

    I find your question offensive and stereotypical.
    
    Your statement is full of judgment -- "even if it were 'natural'," "nothing innocent or harmless or healthy."
    
    I married my wife for love. Do you really know what that means? Or are you one of those who only thinks of lust?
    
    We are spiritually connected. We would answer each other's thoughts. We would get online at the same time, despite a 9 hour difference, sometimes at 3 o'clock in the morning.
    
    I'm not rich. She's smart -- valedictorian in high school with a college scholarship. I'm not too shabby myself -- bachelors degree summa cum laude.
    
    The only unnatural thing is other people's judgment and ignorance.

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       James-wolveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Sorry,I didn t mean to offend anyone here.I d like to say more but i think I should write a hub about it,so we can discuss this issue there.

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       Gertrude Oposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       lone77star,this sounds like my boyfriend and i. I love it when i find people who are in the same league as we are,and those who aren't,we respect each other's thoughts.I wish you all the best with your wife.

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    WalterPoonposted 10 years ago

    How else would you think 60-year old wrinkly fat bald men get 21 year old girls? Old, WEALTHY, wrinkly fat bald men are like wine... the older the better. The best among them are those in the Intensive Care Unit, LOL.
    
    I've a friend who told me she doesn't mind being a mistress to a wealthy man. Reason? She's tired of being poor.

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    nanderson500posted 10 years ago

    If they're very wealthy, I can see why the young women would want to cozy up to them. Heck, maybe marry them and get written into their will.

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       TheShadowSpecterposted 12 months agoin reply to this

       That caused problems for Anna Nicole Smith.

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    Sharkye11posted 10 years ago

    Ouch. There are some pretty judgmental and stereotypical answers on here. And some by people I thought were pretty open-minded and cool. 
    
    I married someone who is 28 years older than myself. And no, he didn't have any money. Just a working guy, with the average amount of working guy debts. The first time we met, it was like old friends meeting. Like we had always known each other. We were neighbors and friends for a few years, then realized that it gone way past friendship.
    
    We are coming up on four years together, and haven't had a single fight. I know a lot of same-age couples that are already divorced before they hit the two year mark. So why is that more acceptable and attractive?

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    ocfirefliesposted 10 years ago

    I really do not have an answer, but I do have an extension to the question:
    
    Is it the fact that the lady is 21 that seems to be the issue?
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    Is there a time when it is more acceptable for there to be such an age difference? 
    
    For example:  70-40 or 80-50?

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       James-wolveposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I think  the 15 years difference is ok but more No.

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          TheShadowSpecterposted 12 months agoin reply to this

          Yeah, but diversity enriches a culture.

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    Silverspeederposted 10 years ago

    I am 55 and my partner is 26 and I can assure you she has more money then I have, (does that make me the prostitute then?) we have been together for five years and have had our ups and downs like most couples, we have different tastes in music, films, food, drinks and hobbies, but for some reason the relationship works very well, if you could tell me why she pursued me for weeks I would be eternally grateful because I would bottle it and sell it.
    There are a few other things I don't quite understand either so maybe with your font of all wisdom you could help me out, why is it her family have accepted me without any bad feeling, why do they see me as part of the family even though I am older than her own father?
    Life's a funny old thing, I would never have thought 20 years ago that I would be in the situation that I am in now, maybe I am just lucky at last.

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    mastermarketposted 10 years ago

    Psychology. They are drawn to each other subconsciously by signals sent off. Very complicated too long to explain in 2000 words.

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    Penny Gposted 10 years ago

    I'm sure most think it's money, but really they love you endlessly for the love you give, and you will get treated like you should. You will be the center of their world,k what's there not to like!

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    lostohanababyposted 9 years ago

    Because some of the older men.  Are really nice to spend time with and they like to eat out and go places interesting!   Some of them are wealthy but not always.  They can dream too and like being with a pretty younger woman that gives them 'the time of day' and nice about it.   Respect from both sides helps.

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    Nicole Heringposted 9 years ago

    Most of the older men I've met are more intellectual. They can discuss a wide variety of topics with anyone. They also have much more fascinating life stories than many younger guys I know. Younger guys tell stories about their drunk driving or tell stories about their shallowness. Older guys can tell stories of the variety of jobs they've done, their hobbies, their appreciation of art or their wide knowledge of decades of music and they're much better at listening and are more polite. I've never dated an especially older guy than myself but I did go out with a guy once who was eight years older than me and he was much more smooth and comfortable with himself than all the younger guys I've dated. He also opened doors for me and treated me like a human being instead of in a sexist rude way like many younger guys do.
    Bottom line though, if two people are consenting and of legal age it doesn't matter if they want to fall in love. I don't think it's harmful to anyone as long as the girl is of legal age.

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    danicoleposted 9 years ago

    Money, money, money, money ....... MON-NAY!!!!!!!

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    Rochelle Bolesposted 7 years ago

    Well if a lot of money wasn't involved, I would definitely have to say that she is seeking some type of father or father figure. Someone who can take care of them like their father and also take care of them as a sign. Other also. Older men I believe look at younger women as either trophies, or they're scum...one of the two. Why on earth would a 70 yr old man want an 18 yr old girl if he wasn't scum?

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       TheShadowSpecterposted 12 months agoin reply to this

       We get it, Rochelle.  You're not a Hugh Hefner fan.  The problem here I'm having with your school of thought is that many women find nothing wrong when it's a young man with a cougar even when the young man is 18 and the older woman is 70 years old.  It's like a Joan Collins thing.  It's also a double standard.

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    Jodahposted 12 months ago

    You are commenting on an 11 year old thread. Rochelle’s post was 7 years ago.

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