Why on earth do you think 60 year old wrinkly fat bald men get 21 year old girls?
Even if it were “natural,” there’s nothing innocent or harmless or healthy about older men pursuing ceaselessly younger women. The cost is high to everyone involved. While a few young women may be attracted to much older guys (often because they falsely imagine themselves to be “so much more mature” than “other girls” their age) .What do you think?
One of two possibilities... he's either rich as hell, or he's got a huge organ.
Maybe the first possibility,because woman are biologically hotwired to choose a partner that is going to be best able to provide just as men are biologically hotwired to be attracted to women who are most likely to provide healthy offspring.
Dumb! And just as judgmental as the question.
Well, I see someone is humor impaired...
I've dated older men and it had nothing to do with money or the size of their organs. I have never been a shallow person or superficial so some of the men I've dated, would probably scare some of you. lol I have always been very sensitive to a man's aura, or his energy when he's around me. Numbers never mattered and still don't. I can date a much older man like I can date a much younger one.
Being able to engage in stimulating conversation, listening to stories about a world I was never born in or experienced was addicting to me. I loved listening to stories and learning about life from someone who's already been there, done that.
Of course there has to be some sort of physical attractiveness, I agree but that depends on the person and how they treat me, how I feel around them.
Older men are wonderful, gentle, secure in themselves, intelligent, experienced, they don't play games or have drama in their lives. Their kids are grown, they are probably retired or financially stable (I'm not saying rich here, just financially mature). These are the same qualities a younger man looks for in an older woman.
Plus, older men are attracted to younger women just as most men are attracted to younger women; they have a natural instinct to reproduce. The one with the wider hips will be more attractive because she's viewed as a better child bearer. Look it up.
I guess I'm coming in defense of the older gentleman because I love all men and just because he's 60, doesn't mean he's out of shape. I know a lot of men over 60 who would put any man half his age to shame.
Maybe we need to stop stereotyping people because of their age and assuming that just because a woman is with an older man, he has to have money or a big member. Maybe he's just a sweet man who knows how to treat her with respect, loyalty and love. Maybe they are happy together and that's all we should concern ourselves with.
you are a wise and intelligent real woman. I would love to have met you , there are few women that have your real perspective on life . I could very easily fall in love with you for your mind . Let me write you some poetry.
Honestly,when I first was watching a movie : Autumn in New York by Richard Gere and Winona Ryder,I couldnt continue the watching .It was about an old man , falls for a young woman who looks like granddaughter .That s why I said earlier it s unnatural
Dear cleaner, I agree with you. Attraction is not based on finance(money) or in age preference. It is based on mental attraction, it may occur due to nice words, helps, friendship and so many such ground. Old people will, I think, more trust worthy.
'Attraction is not based on finance'? well, all the young girls with sugar dadies must be an illusion then. The only old guys I know with young girls are loaded.
There are many types of attraction.In this case,only finance which attracts girls to old men.Have you ever seen a young girl with an old poor guy?and how could a girl bear the diaper changes and being nurse ?
Beautiful, @Rosana Modugno. My wife and I got married 5 years ago (27+57). I'm not rich, but I am spiritual. And we're still deeply in love. And isn't love all that matters?
Need i add more...you are awesome!!! How i can share this Rosana?
As Paramore says:Maybe you are the only exception
That is extremely frightening. She could be his or his friends granddaughter!
Yes,It s frightening.I suggest to read if you have time a book talks about it.It s very interesting .. I m sure you won t put it down till you finish it.it s called Sugar Daddy Diaries: When a Fantasy Became an Obsession by Helen Croydon.
@lburmaster, so you live in a world without love? Curious!
No. My parents have been together for 25 years. The biggest age difference I've seen is 12 years between a married couple which is my marriage. Once you can be their children, it turns into a frightening matter.
My knee jerk reaction is that it's all about money but, as with all things in life, there are exceptions.
Love has no boundary if it is real.
I fell in love with my wife at first sight and so is she. We got married in 3 weeks and looking back, it was indeed the best days of our lives.
Till now, we are still happily married. So, I do believe in true love that is not set by our age.
How older are you than her.If you dont like to answer ,It s okey .I understand.I m just curious and I don t mean any offence.
Beautiful, @edhan. And I do find @James-wolve's questions offensive. True love is a beautiful thing. Sad that so many are so quick to judge and never think of love.
First of all,There is no true or fake love.There is only love .The real everlasting love is God.The only one who loves us for who we are and whatever we do.He is always there when we need him.Human s love is defective and flimsy..
Few months or years the gap is no problem,but huge it is.
while its outside the norm,.... i think a great many of us need to grow up,.... i know many 60 year old men that have a great deal to offer,.... none of which has anything to do with $$$ or "size".... if the boys of the world are angry because the hot girl choose the old fart over the young stud,.... perhaps they should take a long hard look (pun intended) at the old fart and see just exactly what it is that atracted the hot young lady,....... more than likely it was a maturity level that men in thier 20's flat out dont posses these days,.... its possible that he takes the time to listen,..... it could be that he has his life in order and isnt wrapped up in a continuous string of jr high drama moments,.............
never underestimate the knowledge and wisdom that 60 years brings to the table,........ of course having a fat bank account and an Rx for viagra doesnt hurt,...... but if the fling becomes a bonifide relationship,..... theres more to it than sex and money.
besides boys,...... you'll be 60 some day,.... and I ASSURE YOU...... you will be asking this question from a compleetely different perspective.
We guys aren t jealous.it's just prostitution with another label.
Let's face it women of this sort won't hang around for the old man's cancer treatments or diaper changes., these women are just emotionless gold digger
@stclairjack, beautifully put.
@James-wolve, you're full of crap. You must not have ever heard of "love." I guess the concept is just too deep for you.
some of us seem awfully wrapped up in diapers and cancer,.... life is more than the ending,... life is best off lived rather then wasted in the life long contemplation of death,.... if you only thought of shitting you'd never eat.
Good question. I do believe it has to do with the Oedipal Complex (for boys) and Electra Comples (for girls). For those that are not aware, it's when a woman tries to find her father in older men because those girls feel desire for their fathers and jealousy for their mothers. It has to do with growing up and getting roles confused because of the complexities in the family relationships.
I have a young neighbour (32-33) who married a man she fell in love with over the Internet; he's my age (around 50-and unattractive) and her dad is 59. She seems happy and to truly love this man--they have a baby too. Some of these mature men have greater understanding because they have already been 'though the process' others happen to have status and still others a pocket book to match their age. Each young lady has her individual reasons.
Once I had fallen in love with a man about 15 years older than me. He swept me off my feet with his charms & his deep blue eyes (I was 21 and he 36). He left and I ended up marrying an even better man only 2 years older than me (tall dark & handsome). In my case, it was just 'chemistry'.
For you gents that comment about 'size', know that it matters only in cheap Adult films and in male minds. Women function differently.
I think 10 or 15 years difference is not much if you are especially in the thirtieth.Satisfying women has nothing to do with size.takes more than height to make a great basketball player, and more than biceps to make a standout football star.
Maybe an 18 yr old would think a 33 yr old man is too old.. but personally I think he would be in his prime.. matured, has life experiences,and can help her..also the older you get, age differences seem to dissolve..
I hate to judge because I can't see inside someone's heart but my first gut response is - ICK--and my second gut response is to gag.
we are not judging people her or scaring these women off going out with older men:)
It was not my intent to say "we" are judging people here. I was saying that when I see it in public, I try not to judge, but my gut response overrules my intent. ""
Its about what two people are feeling for each other. Intimate and Personal. It may be awkward to you but it is accepted socially today. As they love each other, that's what counts!
It is the question of attraction. To attract each other or two mind, AGE is not at all a constraints. They may have enjoy the sweetness of life which no one else can give. The young lady find love, satisfaction, trust, and all such what she need.
The sex and love, it is depend up on personal choice. And it is wrong to think that only young and youth can satisfy woman. Physical strength is different and between man and woman mental satisfaction is more important and I think woman gives more importance in this regard.
Any way let us congratulate the man at 60+ who are lucky win a young woman's heart.
Security and monetary appreciation is important to most women.But I found it weird and Just a passing note:
The press and governments in the UK and US for years have been anti old younger relations funny that it has now become acceptable .
Normal and Healthy. There will always be a percentage that won't agree, that's okay to have an opinion! Their friendship and happiness is what makes their relationship..shine!
I find your question offensive and stereotypical.
Your statement is full of judgment -- "even if it were 'natural'," "nothing innocent or harmless or healthy."
I married my wife for love. Do you really know what that means? Or are you one of those who only thinks of lust?
We are spiritually connected. We would answer each other's thoughts. We would get online at the same time, despite a 9 hour difference, sometimes at 3 o'clock in the morning.
I'm not rich. She's smart -- valedictorian in high school with a college scholarship. I'm not too shabby myself -- bachelors degree summa cum laude.
The only unnatural thing is other people's judgment and ignorance.
Sorry,I didn t mean to offend anyone here.I d like to say more but i think I should write a hub about it,so we can discuss this issue there.
lone77star,this sounds like my boyfriend and i. I love it when i find people who are in the same league as we are,and those who aren't,we respect each other's thoughts.I wish you all the best with your wife.
How else would you think 60-year old wrinkly fat bald men get 21 year old girls? Old, WEALTHY, wrinkly fat bald men are like wine... the older the better. The best among them are those in the Intensive Care Unit, LOL.
I've a friend who told me she doesn't mind being a mistress to a wealthy man. Reason? She's tired of being poor.
If they're very wealthy, I can see why the young women would want to cozy up to them. Heck, maybe marry them and get written into their will.
Ouch. There are some pretty judgmental and stereotypical answers on here. And some by people I thought were pretty open-minded and cool.
I married someone who is 28 years older than myself. And no, he didn't have any money. Just a working guy, with the average amount of working guy debts. The first time we met, it was like old friends meeting. Like we had always known each other. We were neighbors and friends for a few years, then realized that it gone way past friendship.
We are coming up on four years together, and haven't had a single fight. I know a lot of same-age couples that are already divorced before they hit the two year mark. So why is that more acceptable and attractive?
I really do not have an answer, but I do have an extension to the question:
Is it the fact that the lady is 21 that seems to be the issue?
Is there a time when it is more acceptable for there to be such an age difference?
For example: 70-40 or 80-50?
I am 55 and my partner is 26 and I can assure you she has more money then I have, (does that make me the prostitute then?) we have been together for five years and have had our ups and downs like most couples, we have different tastes in music, films, food, drinks and hobbies, but for some reason the relationship works very well, if you could tell me why she pursued me for weeks I would be eternally grateful because I would bottle it and sell it.
There are a few other things I don't quite understand either so maybe with your font of all wisdom you could help me out, why is it her family have accepted me without any bad feeling, why do they see me as part of the family even though I am older than her own father?
Life's a funny old thing, I would never have thought 20 years ago that I would be in the situation that I am in now, maybe I am just lucky at last.
Psychology. They are drawn to each other subconsciously by signals sent off. Very complicated too long to explain in 2000 words.
I'm sure most think it's money, but really they love you endlessly for the love you give, and you will get treated like you should. You will be the center of their world,k what's there not to like!
Because some of the older men. Are really nice to spend time with and they like to eat out and go places interesting! Some of them are wealthy but not always. They can dream too and like being with a pretty younger woman that gives them 'the time of day' and nice about it. Respect from both sides helps.
Most of the older men I've met are more intellectual. They can discuss a wide variety of topics with anyone. They also have much more fascinating life stories than many younger guys I know. Younger guys tell stories about their drunk driving or tell stories about their shallowness. Older guys can tell stories of the variety of jobs they've done, their hobbies, their appreciation of art or their wide knowledge of decades of music and they're much better at listening and are more polite. I've never dated an especially older guy than myself but I did go out with a guy once who was eight years older than me and he was much more smooth and comfortable with himself than all the younger guys I've dated. He also opened doors for me and treated me like a human being instead of in a sexist rude way like many younger guys do.
Bottom line though, if two people are consenting and of legal age it doesn't matter if they want to fall in love. I don't think it's harmful to anyone as long as the girl is of legal age.
Well if a lot of money wasn't involved, I would definitely have to say that she is seeking some type of father or father figure. Someone who can take care of them like their father and also take care of them as a sign. Other also. Older men I believe look at younger women as either trophies, or they're scum...one of the two. Why on earth would a 70 yr old man want an 18 yr old girl if he wasn't scum?
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