When did you learn that you were lesbian or gay? Who did you tell first? Did it affect your life?
Not till I was almost 18...I had always dated men. My parent's are evangelical Christians, so it has certainly affected my life...at least on the family front. But I have awesome friends, and siblings, and awesome employers who could care less and are very supportive. And my partner and I just got engaged! So that's probably the biggest way it's affect my life, and for the better!
I think the more correct question would be..."when did you decide to become a lesbian or gay?"
Was your's a serious question? Because if it was, mine is just as legitimate. If you are positing that one makes a choice regarding sexual preference, then at some point they must decide: gay, or straight. So: when did you decide to be 'a straight'?
@BethDW - my question was for Neil Horton.. lol i should've made it more clear.
I began noticing that I was attracted to girls when I was twelve, but I didn't understand what it meant. I came out as bisexual first to my best friend when I was fourteen. A few months later I confessed to being a lesbian, not bi. The label flip-flopped for the next few years. Telling her didn't affect my life, at all, really. However, when I was eighteen, I was forced to come out to my mom after she cornered me about something she had seen on MySpace. This drastically changed my life. I was away at college at the time and felt like I couldn't go home. After several weeks, my parents convinced me to come home for the weekend, but I couldn't handle the tense feelings and left after a day. For almost a year, nearly every time my mom looked at me she started crying. I think things may have turned out differently had I been able to come out on my own terms.
I learned that I was a lesbian when I was 9- When I developed my first crush on a girl. The first person I told was my sister, and she didn't talk to me for weeks. My family was against it, didn't accept it and because of that I tried to "snap out of it" as they tried to convince me that it was a phase. I tried dating different men, didn't work. It felt unnatural to me- there was no physical or sexual attraction. So I didn't "choose" to be gay just like a hetero didn't "choose" to be straight.
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