Would/could a true friend ever turn into a "fake" friend over time?

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   Laura Schneiderposted 12 years ago

   Would/could a true friend ever turn into a "fake" friend over time?

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   unknown spyposted 12 years ago

   Possibly, but we couldn't tell.. nobody can predict what the others were thinking.. I've been betrayed by people whom i thought was a true friend.. they turn out to be the worst persons i never thought they would be.. ive written a hub about betrayal and the pain ive got from trusting too much... Title is "Bestfriends = Backstabber"

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      Laura Schneiderposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I feel your pain; I lost 3 close friends and 65 support group acquaintances they "took" with them then abandoned abruptly, too. Also, my best friend from childhood died horribly just before Christmas. It wasn't a good month.

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   old albionposted 12 years ago

   Absolutely yes. A true friend can become envious of your good fortune. Also familiarity breeds contempt. Should this friend feel 'left behind' in any way things can easily change.
   Graham.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      "Left behind"... I think you're on to something there. I was unemployed and totally broke when I met these three friends, who were also broke. Then I got a job back in my regular career that happens to pay very well and suddenly...

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   rmcleveposted 12 years ago

   This happens. All friendships and all relationships are open to change. Although it is very hurtful when a former friend turns into a fake one, sometimes it has to happen. People are in your life for a reason and when it is over, you need to know how to remove that person from your life while maintaining a sense of the good that came from the beginning.
   
   Many times, fake friends were fake from the start and we just didn't see it. These are the cases that I learn from the most. You must ask yourself why you allowed a false person so far into your life and what value you place on your own happiness.
   
   Most importantly, decide what you want from life and the people within yours. Make room for the good, remove the bad, and work on the relationships with people in the middle. Always be open for a new experience, but know when enough is enough.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think I'm too optimistic about people... Thanks! I'll try super hard to be objective and maybe journal about the main people in my life just to see what I discover.

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   YvetteParkerposted 12 years ago

   I think it's possible because people (including their ideals, values, thoughts, beliefs, etc) and circumstances change. That's why some marriages end in divorce. Two people start out being the best of friends change and grow in different directions; and what was once true and real results in a situation where they are unable to co-exist in harmony.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's certainly what happened with my parents... Maybe that's what happened between my friends and I, too. Thanks, Yvette!

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   Vegas Eliasposted 12 years ago

   True friends never turn into fake friends. It is the "fake" friends who posed as true friends find it difficult to pull on and expose themselves by their behavior.

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      Laura Schneiderposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's what I always used to believe, too, no question about it. Now... I'm just not so sure after reading all of the other comments. Thanks for writing! (I'm not sure which way I'll decide on these three "friends").

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   TwingleMaria 44posted 11 years ago

   Yes it happens.  Coz recently in a argument I got to find out that a very old friend who was meant to be my son god mother.  This Monday during argument with her.  I finally found out how fake sherreally is.  Before that big argument.  She never made effort to visit me. Once I had to finish work due to illness.  I was always the one tracing her.  I would ring her then her voice mail would come on.  I live a message.  But she would never call back.  I would text her.  Then she would say she is busy.  Or she is at work.  The argument started coz she kept asking if me and my boyfriend is still together.  I did not understand why she asked that question.  She got a boyfriend herself.  Anyway I did ask her why she wanted to know if I'm still with the boy friend.  She ignored that message. Then last Sunday she messaged me again.  Same question.  Sm I still with the boy friend.  I refuse to answer that question.  I sent her message.  Then we argued.  I told her to piss off.  And that was that.  She never made effort to ring me back.  To find out if we could of sorted this out.  Then that's when I went on line to find out the ways how to know a fake friend.  I came across this website.  And I was read about the different types of fake people.  And I was shocked.  Thank you for helping me realise how fake she really was.  I did start to feel bad about the way I spoke to her.  But after reading this website.  I fault.  Hell no why should I waste time on feeling bad.  About the way how I spoke to her.  So Yah thanks for making me see sense mate

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