Secrecy and Privacy in a relationship
How different are secrecy and privacy?
Secrecy seems to be that one is hiding something, they have secrets. I think privacy is more like you shouldn't be checking my phone, my cpu, etc. Privacy can also be time apart or time alone. You go out with your friends something and vice versa.
The word secrecy implies that one is intentionaly hiding something for the purpose of it remaining a secret. Though it doesn't have to be, a secret is kept in order to save someone from any sadness that they may feel if the secret no longer is such.
Privacy, in regards to a relationship, simply means not telling you partner every single tidbit of info for the sake of keeping an healthy line of comunication. It is maintaining that spearation between what's yours and what's theirs.
Privacy is having a reasonable expectation that what you are doing is a personal matter and is (no one's business) such as (using the bathroom, medical records, mail/email, phone conversations...etc). Secrecy usually involves deception, lying directly or by omission because you KNOW the other person would NOT approve of your dealings.
Secrecy is hidding something from your partner. Privacy is having a little space in the relationship, it's a little you time. There is a big difference. Just having privacy in the relationship is not too bad. It gives you both space to continue having a little curiousity, a little mystery. However secrecy is a bad thing. You are trying hard to hide something from your partner because something could go wrong in the relationship if they knew about it.
For example, I love my privacy. We have a room in the house devoted as my office space/hobby room. Sometimes I disappear into this room for hours. It's my private area that I adore. But it is not a secret, he is welcome in if he wants. Even so, he lets me have my private time and he plays video games or goes frisbee golfing while I'm enjoying my time alone.
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