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Who cooks, him or her?

  1. InCourage profile image60
    InCourageposted 5 years ago

    Who cooks, him or her?

    In a marriage there are 'traditional' roles but I am curious if they still apply?


  2. SidKemp profile image94
    SidKempposted 5 years ago

    When it comes to cooking, I think its better if we all do it. It is fun, relaxing, and healthy. When we first got together, my wife and I both cooked, and enjoyed it. Then she got a professional restaurant job, and also got home from work 2 hours before me. Since I always came home hungry, I let her take over the cooking. Big mistake! I really lost touch with my creativity.

    About 15 years ago, I reversed that, and reconnected with my cooking. Now, we both cook, each on different nights, then enjoy cleaning up together. Our cooking styles are very different. The variety of flavors keeps us enjoying food at home, much less expensive than going out to restaurants - healthier, cheaper, and tastier at home!

    1. InCourage profile image60
      InCourageposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I so very agree Mr. Sid!  I love to cook, it's better than most restaurants, and it's Fun. 

      Man, I miss Florida... I envy you.

  3. jellygator profile image91
    jellygatorposted 5 years ago

    I rejected traditional roles in my past relationships, but now that I've left the workforce have re-adopted them. Yep, I cook.

  4. Bonitaanna profile image79
    Bonitaannaposted 5 years ago

    Well in my house hold I do the cooking, since I was married with my first husband and had three sons and learned how to please their digestive tract.  One year two other men, my husbands working partners who moved from out of state moved in with us and I had three men and three sons to cook for.  3-4 months later when it came time for them to move out, they wanted to stay there because of my cooking and my deserts after dinner everynight.  Needless to say their wives were not very pleased over the whole thing.  I like to cook and I make everything I can from scratch.  That says alot because alot of the women now days just open a can or frozen food and heat it up and serve it.  I don't cook that way.

    1. LaThing profile image74
      LaThingposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I am like you, I prefer to make things from scratch, it's just so much better, and healthier. I am afraid of store bought things, you don't know what's in it!

  5. Eric Calderwood profile image83
    Eric Calderwoodposted 5 years ago

    My wife and I have both cooked over the years.  But by far, my wife does most of the cooking.  Now that our children are all teenagers they help some, but it is still mostly my wife.

  6. leroy64 profile image83
    leroy64posted 5 years ago

    I am single and I cook for myself.  If I am a better cook than someone I am lucky enough to marry, then I will continue to cook.  If she likes to cook, we will have fun in the kitchen.  I honestly don't see the value in continuing that particular tradition.

  7. LauraGT profile image92
    LauraGTposted 5 years ago

    I do all the dinnertime cooking in my household. My husband is willing and interested, but simply doesn't get home in time to make dinner. He does make breakfast way more often than I do (if it were up to me, my kids would have cereal every day, just like I do), so I guess it balances out. I also love cooking and have chosen to work part-time in part so I can have time to do things like make homemade meals for the family.

  8. AM Hanson profile image76
    AM Hansonposted 5 years ago

    When I was a kid, my mother almost always cooked.  However, in every relationship that I have been in, my girlfriend has hated cooking and I have loved it, so I usually do the cooking.  I think in the current day and age, the person who cooks is usually the person who simply is better at it (or maybe even just likes to do it more).

  9. msorensson profile image72
    msorenssonposted 5 years ago

    I think it would be lovely if both of you cook together. Cooking is great fun..when one has the time..

  10. Johnathan L Groom profile image34
    Johnathan L Groomposted 5 years ago

    compromise has been the leading response to a relationship (namely marraige)- however finances most likely lead to disdain---takeout like Chinese works well right?

  11. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    Both of us. My wife does the preparation and we cook together. It is much more enjoyable doing the cooking together.

    We try to maintain eating at home as it is much healthier as we know what we are adding into our food as compared with outside food.

  12. Hui (蕙) profile image80
    Hui (蕙)posted 5 years ago

    The one who likes cooking, or the one who does not work outside. But if neither likes, and both work, then turn by turn smile or together smile or eat out smile. Don't mention him or her, nobody today is superious.

  13. Catherine Kane profile image82
    Catherine Kaneposted 5 years ago

    You would never starve to death on my cooking, but my husband does most of the meal prep. It's his art form

  14. thegecko profile image79
    thegeckoposted 5 years ago

    We take turns! With dishes too. It works out well, because I cook all the American/Italian meals and she cooks all the Chinese. Variety and moderation smile

  15. freecampingaussie profile image64
    freecampingaussieposted 5 years ago


    We both enjoy cooking & sometimes cook together or Nev will make his special dishes like garlic prawns/ chicken & sweetcorn soup/ stirfry etc  !
    If he is at home way before me he will cook or the other way around .
    We love trying new things out together.

  16. eternals3ptember profile image60
    eternals3ptemberposted 5 years ago

    While I'm not married, my girlfriend burnt hamburger helper, so... I cook.

    And I mean she burnt it. Black-mass-stuck-on-pot-smoke-alarm-it-was-on-HIGH-for-seventeen-minutes-before-it-burst-into-flames burnt.

    1. wheelinallover profile image78
      wheelinalloverposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I have met a few women and men like that. In my younger years I managed restaurants. My cooking was written up nationally more than once. Many of the dishes I cooked were non traditional at the time. I learned as a child the value of fruit flavoring.

  17. wheelinallover profile image78
    wheelinalloverposted 5 years ago

    Since my medical condition makes it impossible to cook it goes to whoever is willing. I was told not even to use the microwave. Children as young as six have cooked for whoever was here; both male and female. There is however usually an adult around to do it. If not I eat cold food. I do help prepare food for cooking it is something I enjoy.

    Everybody laughs when I help do the dishes, someone has to stand behind me to keep me from falling over. The older children think it is a big joke. It is always one of them. No one likes the rare occasions when they have to pick me up off the floor. The rule here has been whoever cooks doesn't have to clean up. This goes for when the children cook too. There is no greater motivator to a child to cook than not having to clean up afterwords, at least in the two houses the corporation help support.

  18. LaThing profile image74
    LaThingposted 5 years ago

    I do all the cooking, and my husband does all the outside work. It's not that we do that because it's a tradition, but it just happen to fell in place. He is good at fixing cars, and mowing the lawn, and I am good at cooking. We share household chores with the kids.....when he has time. He usually works pretty late....

  19. algarveview profile image90
    algarveviewposted 5 years ago

    I do all the cooking, but I'm quite sure my husband could be a great cook if he wanted that and if I give him the space to do it, but the fact is he is not that interested and I'm not either, because at first (and I know that would change in time) we would probably be eating dinner at midnight and that's all fine and dandy, but I just don't have the time for that sort of thing... I say he could be a great cook, because he has cooked on occasions, I left him the recipe and explained what needed explaining and actually what he cooked (every time he cooked) had great taste, it was really good, so...

  20. profile image0
    Ella-90posted 5 years ago

    I think whoevers better at cooking or prefers it more. In my last relationship my boyfriend did most of the cooking as he was tons better at cooking than me and loved doing it, where I hate it and am always worried about getting it wrong, though I did chip in with few dishes I knew how to cook and could cook without it being a disaster but spag bol can get boring after a while.