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Can a couple who are total opposites be successful in marriage?

  1. brakel2 profile image80
    brakel2posted 5 years ago

    Can a couple who are total opposites be successful in marriage?

    Different in personality, planning, wardrobe, leisure time, organization.

  2. heather92383 profile image83
    heather92383posted 5 years ago

    What is the word opposite? How does it impact a successful marriage? Does it strengthen it or sink it in the end? Read on to see if your relationship could have what it takes to survive your differences. read more

  3. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    I suppose one could teach a fox not to eat an hen but that would not make them an ideal couple. Opposites may attract in the short run but it's like that attracts like in the long run. Ultimately we are all looking for someone who (naturally agrees) with us on the major things in life. If you want to go right and your mate wants to go left there is not much point in sticking together unless you love drama, arugments, and fighting. Then again there are those people who feed on tension and see fighting as passion. These no doubt are the same people who think jealousy is proof of love. To each his or her own I suppose.

  4. JayeWisdom profile image93
    JayeWisdomposted 5 years ago

    I can only speak from personal experience. I've been married to two men, both of whom were polar opposites of me in everything that matters for the long term--personality, character, temperament, values, interests, etc. I divorced them both after unhappy marriages that couldn't be "fixed." Need I say more?

    Actually, I will. It's obvious my only "credentials" for giving marital advice originate from the lessons I learned the hard way. My insight was gained by hindsight, but I consider it valuable because of the anguish through which I earned it.

    I urge anyone contemplating marriage to realize that this person to whom you wish to say "I do" should, above all else, be someone you would choose for a best friend...someone with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things you BOTH enjoy, and with whom you can carry on a truly interesting conversation. Make that MANY interesting conversations. You should also want happiness for your partner as well as yourself. Love is not selfish, but neither should it be totally selfless (for therein lies eventual resentment).

    Marriage should NOT be based on infatuation, physical attraction (alone), a person's outward looks and charms, financial wherewithal, social status or any of the many other reasons people marry. After all, if you hope to stay with your spouse for life (and I assume most people--though not all--begin marriage with that intent), there should be something stable and real to bind the two of you together after that first emotional and physical heat burns off. (And it will, which is not to say that romance and passion must or will end--they shouldn't. However, those people who expect an ongoing state-of-bliss honeymoon feeling to last forever are the ones who later have affairs, searching for that illusive feeling again like a drug fix. It's unrealistic.)

    A poorly matched couple should not expect having children together to suddenly give them enough in common to make up for their differences. Children often get caught in the crossfire between battling parents, and it's a mistake to think having a baby will bolster a weak marriage.

    I can't imagine anything more wonderful than being married to one's best friend, and this is what I would wish for anyone contemplating the state of matrimony.

  5. libby1970 profile image72
    libby1970posted 5 years ago

    I believe so. I think it would be more interesting. This about how boring it would be if both people are exactly the same! With two totally opposite people you get new input to each partner. Each person can learn new and exciting things and may become active in something new to them! I think it would be a better marriage because of diverse ideas and thoughts.

  6. cruising.granny profile image61
    cruising.grannyposted 5 years ago

    Why not?
    As long as they have similar life values, and completely, unconditionally respect each other for who they are, there is no reason why opposites can't have a successful relationship and/or marriage.
    The differences could in fact unite them, be the link to keep them interested and interesting.
    If one is lazy and the other neat and clean, it will not work.  If one is a drunken slob and the other energetic and maybe even athletic, it will not work.
    But character opposites can work.
    It still comes back to respect.