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Why would a divorced lady end up becoming a control freak?

  1. sangre profile image96
    sangreposted 5 years ago

    Why would a divorced lady end up becoming a control freak?

  2. Cristale profile image84
    Cristaleposted 5 years ago

    Her ex husband probably drove her to be that way, or maybe she has father issues. She never had control and always wanted it or she has always had it and it will stay that way. Women are not so complicated...unless you're a man.

  3. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    She couldn't control her marriage/husband/stability/future so now she is taking that out on everything else by making sure she can control as much as she can.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Because you used the words (becoming a control freak), this would indicate she was not like that during her marriage. Most likely she is now (reclaiming her power) as an adult. It is not uncommon for women who marry strong and domineering men or possibly irresponsible men; that leads these women to make the decision after the divorce to NEVER put themselves in a powerless postion again. You see the same thing happening when someone called (anal).
    Most likely they have been put through the ringer. For example an issue arises with customer service you speak with one person they tell you one thing and when it doesn't pan out you call back and another person denies it is their company policy. Once you tell them what you were told by the previous rep they ask, "Who did you talk to?" After that happens to you several times you insist on (getting everyone's name on each call and writting down the date and time you spoke with them...) And it goes on and on until you become "meticulous" aka (anal) about covering every possible scenario with all of your dealings.
    Generally speaking when people make personality changes it is a reaction to how they have been treated. They have made a decision to never be put in those situations again.

    1. sangre profile image96
      sangreposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      OMG. I think you've just given me an insight to her mind. Her behaviour makes total sense to me now.  I do know her husband was the type of man who had to control things.

  5. Lisa HW profile image72
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    For every person who is truly "a control freak" there are often many more who aren't control freaks at all, but who exercise (or at least aim to exercise) more control over their own life than some other people believe they have a right to do.  Since women, more than men, are often seen as "having a nerve" or "being a control freak" when they simply exercise control over themselves and their own life, I'm guessing that a lot of divorced women fall into the category as well.

    The way I see it, if a woman is still married and is a control freak (a genuine one), the question doesn't apply to her.  As far as divorced women go, a lot of women leave marriages in which husbands tried to be too controlling.  So, you've got your divorced women who are "just right" when it comes to control, the ones who don't even bother trying to control anyone else, and those who are genuine control freaks.

    I'm guessing that of any genuine control freaks who also happen to be divorced, at least some of them have become so sick of having other people messing up their lives, they may vow to never let anyone else mess up their days, lives, or anything else again.  Whether or not such a woman is actually a genuine control freak, or just expects to control herself and her own life (more than someone else thinks she ought to) is where it can be difficult for some observers to see/recognize the difference.

  6. rave1432 profile image60
    rave1432posted 5 years ago

    When your alone, you have to depend on yourself, and no one else most of the time. Therefor you are use to controlling every aspect in your life.