Would you rather date a widow/widower, a divorcee, or someone who had never been

Jump to Last Post 1-11 of 11 discussions (19 posts)
  1. Rosie2010 profile image73
    Rosie2010posted 6 years ago

    Would you rather date a widow/widower, a divorcee, or someone who had never been married?

    I asked a question "Would you rather be a widow/widower or a divorcee?"  And dashingscorpio suggested that it would be interesting to know if one would rather date a widow/widower or a divorcee.  I added someone who had never been married, as I dated one who had never been married at 50.

  2. profile image0
    JThomp42posted 6 years ago

    It really doesn't matter to me as long as they are a Good Christian Woman. I would LOVE to find my Soulmate to spend the rest of my life with.

    1. Rosie2010 profile image73
      Rosie2010posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for answering my question, JThomp42.  I, too, believe in soulmates.  I hope you find your soulmate soon, or she finds you.

    2. profile image0
      JThomp42posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much Rosie2010.

  3. Mazzy Bolero profile image78
    Mazzy Boleroposted 6 years ago

    On the one hand, I would rather date someone who had never been married because so often a man who is divorced is still fixated on his ex.  When he starts talking about himself and his ex as "we" and "us", you should run for your life. He might have treated his wife like dirt, betrayed her with other women, showed her scant respect, but the second she decides she's had enough and kicks him out, she becomes a paragon that no other woman can match. I have never dated a widower but I suspect it might be even more likely that you can never compare.

    On the other hand, if he was single, I would wonder why he had never got married. There might be a genuine reason, or he could be a commitment phobic, a mysoginist, a control freak, an egomaniac. Or he could also be fixated on his ex.

    So in the end, if I liked the guy, I would give him a chance but I'd be cautious - once bitten, as they say:)

    1. Rosie2010 profile image73
      Rosie2010posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Mazzy, your analysis fits my experience.  One guy who was divorced for 25 years still had his ex's photo on his wall.  Although I am perfectly happy living on my own, if I have another soulmate out there, CALL ME! lol I wish you the best.  Thanks

  4. profile image0
    Ghost32posted 6 years ago

    If I date ANYBODY, I'm going to be in deep doo-doo.  My wife is a redhead with martial arts training.

    1. Rosie2010 profile image73
      Rosie2010posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Oh my Ghost32, I would never wish you any harm... your wife being a redhead with martial arts training and all.  But thanks for your answer anyway.  Cheers!

  5. fre2bme profile image53
    fre2bmeposted 6 years ago

    Divorcee. A widow/widower has been in love and likely still is. Someone who has never been married lacks a certain level of maturity and understanding that comes with that committment. Someone who has been divorced understands what they want and perhaps more importantly what they don't. They know their priorities and what they value in a relatinship.

    1. Rosie2010 profile image73
      Rosie2010posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your answer, fre2bme.  My experience fits your view of someone who has never been married.  As for divorcees and widows/widowers, the longer they are on their own comfortable and happy, the lesser the possibility of them getting remarried.

    2. Mazzy Bolero profile image78
      Mazzy Boleroposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Someone was has been married has "maturity and understanding that comes with commitment", I agree - exept for those who are divorced precisely because they were too immature to honor and respect that commitment.

  6. onegoodwoman profile image73
    onegoodwomanposted 6 years ago

    You want to know the raw truth?


    At 50, I have , countless losses, far too many dissappointments.....I want someone who can relate, honor, acknowledge and encourage me to  move onward in life.   Yet someone who can be more than a memory......


    If you are 50, and you have not ever been married...................THERE is a reason why....................Perhaps, you just want to make sure you get it right the first time........which excludes me.

    Perhaps, no one ever considered you as marriage material.


    Sorry, no disrepect intended................BUT those  hairs on the back of my neck........they do stand.'



    If, I in my 50's............ever desire to marry again..............I sure as  hey, would not want to live in the shadow of another woman.


    It is not about who I would rather " date " ( passing time ), but what I might consider before a re- or 2nd marriage.

    1. Rosie2010 profile image73
      Rosie2010posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      It is just a question.. don't get too excited.

  7. lostdogrwd profile image61
    lostdogrwdposted 6 years ago

    a woman. past to me really do not matter just how she treat me and me her.

    1. Rosie2010 profile image73
      Rosie2010posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      lostdogrwd, thanks for your answer.  I hope you meet the woman who will not only treat you right, but who will love you back as much as you love her, if not more.

  8. jennshealthstore profile image90
    jennshealthstoreposted 6 years ago

    I think It would not matter. What matters is that the person makes you happy and you are compatible. Sometimes we find that what we think we want or need is actually not the truth at all! ; )

  9. myownlife profile image38
    myownlifeposted 6 years ago

    I and my wife have had huge commitment to live and leave together. God bless every couple .

  10. weekend profile image60
    weekendposted 6 years ago

    I've tried them all, and it really doesn't make any difference which you choose.

  11. freecampingaussie profile image60
    freecampingaussieposted 6 years ago

    I am married for the 2nd time - we were both divorced . I am in love & if anything happened to my husband I don't think I would marry again
    If I was too ever  I am not sure if I would want to marry someone who wasn't experienced in aspects of life so it would most likely be out of the other 2 . It would come down to personality, honesty  & having the same interests is what is the most important thing .

 
working

This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
Necessary
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Features
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Marketing
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Statistics
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)