How can you help a person who hides abuse?
Some people are good at covering bruises with makeup and appear to have a perfect marriage. Do you think there are telltale signs that something is wrong with relationship?
There is really nothing you can do until they are ready to come out of the relationship. People hang on for so many reasons. It is more complex than you can imagine.
Just be there for them when they try to empower themselves and try to keep them busy and develop other skills.
Something will shift eventually.
A counselor friend of mine once said that you can't help someone until they first admit that there's a problem. As long as they are in denial or refuse to admit/accept the truth, there's nothing you can do to help.
This is a very good question because I have a friend who suffers from physical abuse and alcoholic abuse. The first thing is be there for them. Listen to everything they have to say and when replying make sure that your answers reflect the kind of person you want them to be, abuse free. Take them out to places where they are free of drugs or alcohol, whatever they are abused to, but can still have a good time. Show them how they can get involved in the community to meet new people.
I totally agree with Cherrietgee... you can't help someone until he admits his/her real personality.
I think psychologist or counselors are good at digging a person's personality. But, it might take a long time to dig that real person inside of someone.
I've come to believe psychobabble/pop-psych is not only destroying lives, but in many instances can lead to -ending- of lives.
While individuals are yammering about such 'stuff' as choosing/choices/denial/empowerment/etc.etc., a person who's being abused can end up dead.
First, re: people who hide or try to hide abuse- one possibility is they're afraid no one will believe them; and another possibility is they're afraid the abuse will get worse if they tell anybody. While I'm not big on statistics, I'd think -most- abuse victims are in this category.
Second, re: those who believe such things as "it can get better if they do or don't do this or that," their lives can be on the line in the meanwhile.
by Deborah-Lynn 8 years ago
What if a friend, daughter, sister or someone else you cared for was in trouble, but in denial? If you can see symptoms that there is a problem, like wrong behavior, like bruises occuring often, like absenses from work...would you risk your relationship to try to help.? If the person is...
by Wendy Iturrizaga 8 years ago
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by playdope_rr 7 years ago
Nagtago si Pedro, labas ang ulo. (Pedro hides but you can still see his head. )
by ShanteD 5 months ago
Can you really have a relationship with someone you don't trust.You can love them and want your relationship to work but if you don't trust them can it? Do you give it time and hope for the best?
by Deborah-Lynn 9 years ago
Abuse victims are most usually in the state of denial in the beginning, so when a loved one sees the symptoms and tries to help, they are treated by the victim as a trouble maker or worse. So is it worth the risk of losing the relationship to try to help someone who won't admit they are in serious...
by MissJamieD 6 years ago
I believe it absolutely should be! Most victims of mental or emotional or verbal abuse would agree that these types of abuse are just as damaging as physical abuse, if not more! There should be a program to test any person where viable accusations were made and make them accountable. OFP's (Order...
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