To what extent can you tolerate an abusive partner?

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   titobayposted 14 years ago

   To what extent can you tolerate an abusive partner?
   
   Sometimes we do stuffs in the name of love, some out rightly stupid and unjustifiable. I watched a mentally tormenting movie where the lady had to subject herself to all forms of abuse just to prove a point that she loves her husband. This got me thinking, how far can we really go in the name of love?

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   Flightkeeperposted 14 years ago

   Are you sure you weren't watching Psycho?  Seriously, you shouldn't pattern your life after a movie, especially one as disturbing as the one you talked about.  You shouldn't tolerate an abusive partner, he needs help and you can't provide it for him.  You need to get out before something permanently bad happens to you. Good luck.

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   kjchicposted 14 years ago

   I do a lot of crazy stuff and can tolerate A LOT in any relationship.  But if it leaves me emotionally hollow in the end, what's the point?  They have to love you.  Yes, the stuff I have done has been incredibly stupid (hunger strikes for attention, endless texts, putting up with lie after lie without a word, accepting the insults.)  And yes, people would think less of me if they knew ("pathetic" comes to mind.)  But everything has been a learning experience for me, so I don't really care in the end.  You grow up or you spiral downwards.  Whatever, as long as you can pick yourself up in the end.

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   vgf1968posted 14 years ago

   I cannot in good conscience combine tolerate and abuse.   Abuse by definition is not tolerable.   That being said; if a person in my life were abusive, I would remove myself from the situation.   If that same person were to get help, I would consider letting them back into my life - slowly and gradually, because the trust would need to be rebuilt.  I am responsible for my own safety.   Therefore, I can and have removed people from my life who were abusive -- and not just partners.

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   kellieshellposted 14 years ago

   I think abuse in a relationship is not healthy for you, your partner, or children,if any are involved. I can tolerate alot but i wont.

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   titobayposted 14 years ago

   Thanks guys. I would definitely not subject myself to any form of abuse no matter how or what the love is. I believe if you truly respect your self and maintain your dignity, nobody can humiliate you as such. Women are mostly on the receiving end and i would suggest you work on your confidence and self esteem if you are a victim or what do you think?

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   spkanuposted 14 years ago

   if it's physical...call the police or me. if it is psychological...get therapy...or get out because some people love to be on top but it is usually on top of someone else...hate it so much i have to meditate daily to be able to deal with such people...instead of unleashing the wrath of my left and right foot and hands on their faces...or at least foul words you can't say to you boss or pastor...

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   Lovesloveposted 14 years ago

   I would say GET OUT before its too late

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   I couldn't tolerate an abusive partner at all.  Life is too short and too wonderful to suffer abuse in your own home,  and the person you choose to love and to be your partner should be the person who treats you the best!  If they can't do that then the relationship is over.

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    padmendraposted 14 years ago

    My views on this issue are the same what you have expressed. You rightly said about people doing so much stupid things in the name of love.   You would find that some are pretending themselves to be great lover while the real people don't show any thing special about themselves. Those doing  this  kind of drama  are  over ambitious and  practically they  have no real  gesture for love. I fully agree with you and appreciate  your way of selecting topics of everybody's interest.

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    blondeyposted 14 years ago

    It's really not love..........love is when both people treat each other with respect and show their love by kindness and intimacy etc.
    
    Abuse is not love.

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    parducposted 14 years ago

    There is no way you need to tolerate an abusive partner - not even the mindgames, I would say! Adults do not change. I have been abused for years, so take my word for it, don't learn the hard way like I did! Where there is abuse and agression - there is no love. If your partner is possessive and manipulative - get out, till you can do it unscathed!

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    puddingicecreamposted 14 years ago

    Will not tolerate it -- at all. That's such a horrible thing. She may love her husband but not herself.

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