Would a threesome relationship work?

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   QBellaMelendezposted 11 years ago

   Would a threesome relationship work?
   
   how do I get her to feel the same way I do? she seems more interested in my husband than me. I like her but i'm scared. He lied to me said he was working but they were together should I believe that they are respecting me or is there something else going on.I wanted this and he agreed but I don't know anymore.  I don't want to loose my man. But I don't know if she really is in to me or just him. He says she has feelings for me but that I keep a distance. so what do I do to make this work? I always trusted him, now  I don't know. I feel insecure. And he says its all in my head?

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   junksellerposted 11 years ago

   If him and her are the new element than it is hard to compete against the new and exciting. I wouldn't necessarily say that is a reflection of love or commitment. The trust issue, however, would seem to be a big deal. If you feel they aren't quite being honest than that is a problem.
   
   I think in a way you answered your own question. Two people relationships are hard enough. There is always a fair bit of work involved. Three people will be even harder. If you think of relationships as a hill, they always require some work to get to and stay at the top, but most of that time should be spent at the top enjoying the view. It doesn't sound like you are there and all you are faced with is a tough climb.
   
   Of course it is all in our head. That is the only place anything ever is. If you have expressed concerns to the other partners and that is their best response, than I would say that isn't nearly good enough. If they are up top enjoying themselves and you are struggling, that to me is unacceptable. Everyone or no one. That's what relationships are. I would more forcefully express your concerns to them.

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   vector7posted 11 years ago

   Yes, this is my opinion from everything I've learned in life.
   
   No, it will never ever work. Jealousy and favorites always seperate groups down to twos. People will tell you anything nowadays to get what they want and keep it. Hurting others doesn't matter anymore as far as most people are concerned.
   
   Not to mention, the "all in your head" thing is a common phrase used by liars. I've spent a lot of time with serial liars, the worst of the worst and the biggest lie ever is that you can't trust yourself, but you have to trust the person that told you not to trust yourself.
   
   Manipulation is a trait every person on he planet uses even if they don't realize what they're doing, and most don't care if they do know. Do yourself a favor and don't let people flat lie to you and DON'T let them make you start questioning your own judgement.. It will break you down eventually.
   
   I don't want to say everything here applies definitively, but don't short yourself... You are important enough to deserve the truth. And never let someone else make your mind up for you. Your brain is plenty capable enough to tell if someone is lying to you or not.
   
   God bless..

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