If you are single, are you content? If you are content, what is your secret?
I am, And no I'm not. Hopefully, Someone will have the secret.
I think the secret is in content. If you are happy with yourself, you have more chances of finding love. Because you have already found it.
Sharing it with someone is secondary, soul search is primary. We look to complete our lives through the loves of or for others, but the secret of happiness in ourselves. Therefore the secret is content.
Am content alone? I am more content now than I was when I was married. I would love to find a relationship with someone who will not uproot my balance, but will complement my life and appreciate it. If not, fine, so be it.
As the saying goes; "Wherever you go there you are."
Having been single and married I have to agree with kallini2010 "If you are happy with yourself" you are content.
People who enjoy life and pursue the things they enjoy tend to attract others easily. When I was single if there was movie I wanted to see I'd go see it, if I wanted to eat at a restaurant I'd go alone if none of my friends were up for it, go to the gym alone, stroll through the mall or wherever to people watch...etc I went out to "happy hours" and nightclubs alone numerous times. In fact I often met more women when I went out alone than I did when I went with friends. In those days we didn't have iPods but if I felt like taking a book to the beach or lay out at my apartment complex swimming pool I'd listen to music on my Sony Walkman. I can honestly say I've never looked for a "serious relationship". All of my serious relationships began as casual relationships and evolved overtime. My advice is be yourself, have fun, and do whatever it is you enjoy doing. Don't be afraid to engage in conversations with strangers on general topics. Life is good whether you're single, dating, or married if you love yourself!
I am very happy being single.
Why are you looking for a husband ha ha
When we have Jesus, that is all the contentment I need.
Most married people I have met are miserable.
teacherjoe, Actually I am married but have been asked to speak to singles about contentment in Christ. You have learned the secret I see. Marriage requires humility and very hard work. Most are not willing .. so are miserable.
I'm married & have joy in my relationship with my husband. I think many married couples are miserable because they marry before they find contentment as a single person first...and marriage takes dedication. I'm glad you've found joy in Jesus.
Hmm, I'm single, but it's pretty much my own fault. I went to Iraq in 2004-05 and came back pretty pissed off at the world, and kind of took a few years to stop beating myself up. Then, I kind of just calmed down and started doing productive stuff. Now It's about working and get myself back into a position where I can eventually date and stuff. =-P
I am a young single woman, and I wouldn't have it any other way. One thing that mentors have told and that I have learned myself is that I need to be a whole person before I invite someone else into my life, whether that means traveling, pursuing hobbies, or just relishing my alone time. If I feel incomplete and go looking for someone to fulfill me, then of course that isn't going to work. There is no perfect person that can be everything for me... and of course, that's where Christianity comes in, doesn't it? Instead of looking for relationships with people to fulfill me, I'm learning to turn to Christ.
Jenna, You are a very wise young woman. It is clear you have learned the secret of contentment. I am pleased to hear you turn to Christ for fulfillment. I agree with your statement that you need to be whole before inviting someone into your life.
In a book I just read and hubbed about, there was a good quote that related to this: " Why was she thinking of choosing a man who could make her whole? How could she do that when she didn’t yet know who she was in the world?"
Good morning ma'am. I contented of what i am in the present and up to the future. the secret that i have is that follow your heart says and we all know that god has a good plan for you for the future. Don't lose hope just trust in him. godbless
I am single and yes, it its lonely at times but I try to stay hopeful that someday I will find that special someone. I have good and bad days.
Yes, I'm single. But being content with it varies from day to day. I say this because of all of my friends I am the only one without children ot married. I can say that I am content because I don't have to deal with anyone but myself and I don't have to worry about how a decision is going to affect a partner or children.
I think the secret to being content doesn't lie in whether you're in a relationship or not. It's more about whether you think you're a good, kind person with good friends. I also think it's about being a fulfilled person, and I think there are many ways to go about becoming one. If you're not content then I think it might be easy to lay the blame on being single, but I think you should also have a look at the rest of your life. Is you job fulfilling, or do you look at is as a chore, a way to pay the bills? We spend so much of our lives at work, so it's really important to make sure you're doing something that you feel is worth your time in a place that makes you happy. You could also find fulfillment through volunteering for charity, getting truly involved in a hobby you love... or, well, countless other things!
If you're not content when you're single, then I think it's quite unlikely that you'll suddenly become content if you find yourself involved with someone. Sure, at first it might be great, romantic, fun, and all the other things you could want from a relationship, but once you've been together for a while the shine will wear off and you'll probably realise that you're still not a content person, you're just a less lonely one now.
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