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Why do people not want to hear the truth or reality, even when stated in a tactf

  1. Express10 profile image88
    Express10posted 5 years ago

    Why do people not want to hear the truth or reality, even when stated in a tactful or pc manner?

  2. lockgirl profile image60
    lockgirlposted 5 years ago

    People even though want the truth the truth hurts so they would rather get fed bullshit

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I know an entire family that has this exact mentality and give no apologies or explanation.

  3. Kierstin Carreira profile image60
    Kierstin Carreiraposted 5 years ago

    I think people want the truth as long as it is what they want to hear.  I also believe it's human nature and why we surround ourselves with like minded people.  Having said that, I can't stand when people aren't honest with me.  I would much rather people tell me that they don't like me, for example, than to lead me to believe they do and then talk about me behind my back.  Straightforward is always the way to go in my book!

    1. NiaLee profile image60
      NiaLeeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      i do agree with you where i come from people know me for being honest and respectful. when we don't like somebody we don't talk to them we don't talk about them. this way respect is there and we use our time a more useful way. truth does hurt sometim

    2. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Too often straightforward women are called female dogs simply for speaking their minds no matter how tactful or realistic they are. I prefer straightforward over being overly nice to the point of lying or backstabbing.

  4. NiaLee profile image60
    NiaLeeposted 5 years ago

    because it often hurts... truth sayers are often hated.

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I am hated in certain circles. Your answer hurts smile

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Hearing/knowing the truth usually means something has to be done afterwards or a decision has to be made. Change is something (most people) don't want to deal with.

  6. DreamerMeg profile image91
    DreamerMegposted 5 years ago

    Sometimes the "truth" is just "your" truth. Some "truths" are a point of view on something, nothing more.

    There are some things that people can change and some things they cannot. People cannot change the colour of their eyes or height, so there is no use letting people know the "truth" about these things because they cannot change them.

    There are some things that people do not understand about themselves. For instance, if someone is boring, they may not know this, nor do they want to know about it. In this case, there is no point in telling them the "truth". If someone, however, understands or suspects that they may be boring and ASKS you for feedback, then you may be able to let them know tactfully what they might be able to change, such as listening more, instead of constantly talking.

    Telling people the truth when they have not asked for it, even if it is broached tactfully, is a very difficult task. Sometimes people NEED to know the truth, such as when their personal hygiene is affecting working relationships in the workplace. That is not an easy job.

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I once told a coworker and good friend his breath smelled bad. He immediately left in a huff without explanation or a retort. We were back on speaking terms about an hour later. Nevertheless, no one ever complained again or gossiped about it.

  7. algarveview profile image88
    algarveviewposted 5 years ago

    Sometimes I think they don't acknowledge it as truth or reality simply because they have a different perception on whatever is the issue... That is the deception of perception. Each of us has a different perception, a different understanding of things, something may be wrong to me and to 90 % of the world and not be wrong to another person... For instance, I have someone close to me that thinks it's okay not to go to her grandchildren's birthday, because she thinks she shouldn't bother with that, she's too tired, she's too... I think that's wrong, she doesn't... So her reality, her truth is different from mine and it's no use trying to make her see my reality, my truth, so I've given up...

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I agree this is a factor, one I hadn't thought of. I guess our experiences teach us certain things and we only learn more if we're open to it. Still, I take things into account no matter the source. But that's just my preference. Good answer.

  8. OneFineG467 profile image59
    OneFineG467posted 5 years ago

    People won't care to know the truth until they become a victim thats were reality hits them hard..

 
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